To be sad that no one would help

I would have come for you too. I wouldn't walk from my station to home. Too far with luggage and a poor unlit road. Would be a few hrs. Would be impossible for me to get a taxi and no mobile phone signal. Some people haven't got a clue.

And that’s why I live in London. I know that’s not helpful!!

being fed up of the OP's partner being helpless etc.

Penny to a pound it's this.

Your family were unkind and selfish and I can understand you being upset. But try not o make that change how you behave generally. Do what YOU think is right in any particular circumstance rather than bring yourself down to other people's unkind low standards

I don't know what thread you've been reading but the OP explains pretty clearly what the situation and context were, and states hat her family like her partner. And DP generally means Dear Partner on mumsnet so I'd take a stab that's what the OP means. And what's his age got to do with anything?

I didn't say anyone was being shitty or selfish - you did. Anyway, you do you.

No-one actually knows what the situation was, as presented to OPs family and friends since OP declined to answer almost all relevant questions.

Same as she declined to answer numerous other questions like "what time was it?" "how long have you been with your DP" "why couldn't he call his friends" "couldn't he 'phone a taxi"? if, presumably he was stranded with dozens of other people as OP said it was a major incident, "why didn't he talk to anyone else and arrange for them to share lifts or taxis?"

OP ignored all of those questions and just occasionally popped back to say her 'DP' - still not defining what she meant by 'DP' or what relevance that should have to her family and friends could've sorted it out himself but as she was worried his battery might die, and he is anxious sometimes she decided to sort it out. And was pissed off that her family and friends - except for a friend that was on holiday which suggests they and the OP don't talk much and the friend had a ready made excuse- said no.

The OPs communication from the 1st post here was misleading, dramatic and left a lot of things out. And when asked to fill in the gaps, OP got pissed off and attacked posters.

If you're a person who would jump in the car to pick up a friends middle aged boyfriend without thought and no regard to your personal circumstances or whether it was an emergency or not, then great, you do you.

It doesn't mean other people are shitty or selfish for not doing so.

But it wasn't a friend asking. It was a friend asking for her 'partner'. I've friends I'd help but I wouldn't spit on their partner if he was on fire.

We don't know enough and the op won't say.

But the OP's family may have had a number of reasons not to go i.e. had a glass of wine/looking after small children/not confident driving in the dark /on their last £10 of petrol/ being fed up of the OP's partner being helpless etc. For the OP to say her relationship with her sister is damaged over this is ridiculous, unless there is a huge backstory. If it was an actual emergency rather than doing a favour so someone could avoid an inconvenient wait, then fair enough to be as pissed off as the OP seems to be, but no real harm done.

@LauraFedora exactly, I am so glad I have lovely friends and family who all help each other out. Some of the responses on here are awful.

Does it have to be an emergencyor life or death situation before anyone should offer a favour? Blimey, I do favours for people all the time. Perhaps I should adopt the MN "Is it life or death?" No "Then fuck off" attitude when a friend asks for a lift because the trains have been cancelled, no buses and they're stuck with no way home.

But how would the OP’s family have known it was going to be a five hour wait when they declined to help (for reasons the OP won’t divulge). As far as they were concerned a middle aged adult man was stuck at a train station not too far away. Not really an emergency - yes it would have been nice for someone to go and get him, but it wasn’t a life or death situation and it sounds like he got home fine in the end.

I'd love for Mumsnet to geotag comments so we can see where this selfish attitude/behaviour is the norm. Is it a regional thing? Or a class/neighbourhood thing?

I have lived all around the Scottish Highlands, West Midlands and Cornwall and from my experience driving to pick up a friend/relative/neighbour to save them 5 hours (or more) shivering in a train station is a completely unremarkable level of support to give.

If I were you OP I'd be so confused as this lack of generosity is baffling! I'd assume a secret booze problem first and if that was discounted then quietly write them off as selfish bastards.

People suck sometimes.

I might decide that someone needs a lift at night in the dark 40 minutes away and that would be fine for me to toddle off and do that. Deciding that your mum or your sister should be the one to do the actual ‘going out in the dark’ bit is rather a different matter. Then saying that your relationship with your sister is ruined because she wouldn’t race to do it is taking it one step further!

I don’t think the OP will be back on this thread though.

“Are you on glue?”

Are you a 14 year old from the 1990s? 😂

I'm sure most people who voted YANBU only read the OP's initial post and took it at face value that this was an actual emergency that people wouldn't help her with.

Not to mention he wasn't all alone in the sticks, he was with a trainload of other passengers, all of whom were having to make the same arrangements.

@AlliWantIsARoomSomewheeeere it wasn’t OP who was stranded, it was her boyfriend. Lots of people wouldn’t get up at midnight to do a 40 minute drive to pick up their sister’s boyfriend from the station.

There are some seriously dense replies on here, despite your update!!
A 20 minute rural drive isnt a 20 minute walk!!! It is clear that someone was stranded and it not always that easy to get a taxi. Geez people!

I would do this for an acquaintance if they were desperate enough to call me!
leaving someone to wait 5hrs at a train station in November, rather than make a 40minute drive is pretty fricken crappy and I would not be helping out those who refused anytime soon OP!
Sorry you are feeling lonely & abandoned (a total reasonable feeling to what happened, despite some of the replies on here!!

I think the problem was it was a really confusing story at first. For the first few posts readers had no idea who was at the station. Then OP was really odd about clarifying the details.

yes I absolutely would collect my brother in law from the station - I would do it for most people if I was asked. It’s sad that OP’s family were prepare to do this favour.

i think some of the replies on here are horrible. you were perfectly reasonable asking for help and anyone who didn’t give it should be ashamed

LOL I'm talking about the unanswered questions and criticisms, not the poll.

So sorry to hear how alone you are feeling. I know it is hard enough to ask for help let alone come up against a brick wall 😥

I agree, disappointed no-one helped. But, I would put it behind me and not hold a grudge. Grudges do more harm to the holder than they do to the recipient. If in the future one of them asked for help, I would help if I could. Simply because I prefer to be that kind of person and that is partly driven by my faith. I wouldn't expect reciprocal payback if I needed help, that is trade, not generousity. I hope this thread settles your mind, but I would steer away from solutions that start a vendetta.

What a way to live