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Mil not interested

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sarah0106 · 03/11/2023 01:36

So my mil has never really been there for my partner growing up, we have a 5 month old and while pregnant I thought she might show more interest as first grandson. Cut a long story short myself and her have had words since son being born till now. She said she would change, come to visit more, spend time with son and grandson. This lasted a 2 weeks was around every day for hours sitting in silence. Partner asked her to cut back as he wasn't used to her being round all the time and used to her only being in the house once in a blue moon. This has been twisted to be me by her, she now doesn't contact myself or spend any time with grandson or come across wanting too.

Am I asking to much that she not atleast shows and interest instead of making it seem like she just doesn't care about her first born grandson?

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sarah0106 · 03/11/2023 01:41

I've spoken to her about it saying it was too much going from no contact to coming round every day and sitting in silence. Just not sure what's expected, should I be letting her come round every day sit in silence and not engage with my son and let it have a negative impact on my partner

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WhateverMate · 03/11/2023 01:40

I expect she’s both confused and hurt

DaizenShine · 03/11/2023 01:38

She did come round every day for 2 weeks until she was asked to cut back so it doesn't strike me as if she has no interest. It seems like she may be hurt?