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Teacher continually getting DD’s name wrong

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Magicshoppingtrolley · 02/11/2023 19:24

DD mentioned when she started school last year that her English teacher was consistently getting her name wrong. I laughed it off saying she had lots of names to remember and I’m sure she would get there.

A year later and it’s continually happening. She teaches her 3 times a week so it’s not as though she rarely sees her, I’ve told DD to politely state what her name is each time she calls her by the wrong name. DD did so this week and was given a behaviour warning for being rude.

DD’s name is a standard name but not common so equivalent of the teacher calling her Jasmine when her name is Jennifer.

AIBU to say something to school or the teacher when we next have a parents evening?

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2chocolateoranges · 02/11/2023 19:38

I’d phone and ask the head of year to phone you back so you can discuss it.

StripeyDeckchair · 02/11/2023 19:38

Get in touch ASAP
No child should be punished for pointing out that the teacher is calling them by the wrong name - what happens if she's still teaching her in a few year time & uses the incorrect name on her exam entries?

If teacher Ms M was called Ms N all the time she'd complain

IncompleteSenten · 02/11/2023 19:37

I wouldn't wait until parents evening. You need to tell the teacher that your daughter is not being rude because she wants you to call her by her actual name.

Lovingitallnow · 02/11/2023 19:36

@LoneFemaleTraveller the student got in trouble for correcting the teacher- what would you recommend? She just start going by the new name?

connu · 02/11/2023 19:35

I think you need to give the school a behaviour warning!!!

LoneFemaleTraveller · 02/11/2023 19:34

3 times a week out of 25 lessons actually is not a lot. 1 child out of 300 children she might teach.

and now she has got it wrong a few times, it is much more difficult to get it right.

mention it, then learn 300 new names yourself in two months.

HowToSaveAWife · 02/11/2023 19:32

YABU to have laughed it off in the first place. Why would you want to teach DD that it's ok to be disrespected? It's her bloody name.

Flag it with the school asap, especially now she's received a behaviour warning which is, quite frankly, bonkers.

Haydenn · 02/11/2023 19:32

Don’t wait to parents evening.. just send a message to the form teacher saying that they were upset that they were told that they are being rude when correcting a teacher when they persist in getting their name wrong

PastTheGin · 02/11/2023 19:31

I am a teacher with a really bad memory for names. We do have to remember lots of names and sometimes the wrong name “sticks” in your brain. But I am always mortified when this happens and would never give out a consequence for a student reminding me of their name! That is not acceptable and I would raise it with the teacher or the head of year / head of department.

EmmaDilemma5 · 02/11/2023 19:30

A behaviour warning?! That's mental. It's so rude calling someone the wrong name.

I wonder if the teacher has it noted down incorrectly, so still doesn't realise it's wrong, despite your daughter telling them. Perhaps they think she's winding them up.

I'd write in, that your daughter is starting to feel awkward about it and you'd like your daughter to be called by her actual name from now on.

Precipice · 02/11/2023 19:27

YANBU, but I wouldn't wait until parents' evening. Write an email to your child's class teacher about your DD being constantly and consistently called by a different name to the teacher. Query the behaviour warning if that's an official thing, because while we can't know precisely what DD said, if she did only correct the teacher, she did nothing wrong and it was a long time coming.

BecauseTheWorld · 02/11/2023 19:26

Yes, flag it with school.