Teacher continually getting DD’s name wrong

Not directed at me, but I will answer - because there are 30 children in the class, and at any one point, 15 of them have something they want to say, and it isn't a free for all. There is a time when teachers speak and a time when it is appropriate for children to speak. And no, I would not stop a lesson and correct a child who got my name wrong, it simply does not matter

I'm a retired teacher and I almost always found that there were a couple of pupils whose names I confused, after a few times of doing it I would explain that this happened in almost every class and they were the chosen ones in this class. It's crazy though to give a behaviour punishment for correcting the teacher.

@phlebasconsidered Can I ask why after the lesson? If you call someone by an incorrect name why should a child let that slide? Surely they need to tell you immediately. If a student called you by an incorrect name would you wait until after the lesson to correct them?

Look I totally get the sheer number of names you have to learn but if you get one wrong then you should be corrected, respectfully.

What would happen if your daughter just didn't respond to the name?

I think it’s worth an email, she’s absolutely right to correct her name, but maybe bear in mind that the behaviour point could have been given due to the way your DD said it. We’ve all met teenagers!! Maybe don’t challenge the behaviour point without getting the full picture.

The teacher giving a behaviour warning for the teacher’s error seems like bullying to me. Makes me wonder if she’s just a bully and getting the name wrong on purpose!

Write to the school. “Dear headteacher, my daughter XYZ is in year 8, she started school on [date], and since then teacher ABC has consistently used the wrong name for her. My daughter has asked on several occasions that she be called by her name and instead teacher ABC chose to give XYZ a behaviour warning as, in ABC’s opinion, my daughter’s request to be called by her real name was rude. How can we fix this situation? I do understand that mistakes are made but this has been goingnon for over a year and the teacher’s constant refusal to call my daughter by her real name, and now this behaviour warning, is beginning to feel like my daughter is being bullied by teacher ABC. I hope that this is not the case. How will the school improve this situation? Regards, Mum of XYZ

I mix my own children s names up all the time (we used to laugh at my dad for doing the same years ago and now I've the same kind of brain) .
Now I'm a teacher and I sometimes get the wrong name "stuck" in my head.... However I'm always very apologetic when I do mix up names.
The behaviour point is out of line but I wouldn't worry about the name slip up personally.

I'm just popping on to mention that as a teacher, i've only seen my new classes twice a week since September. 15 / 16 times, for 50 minutes of full on teaching. That's 30 plus new names each class, plus pronouns etc. In my year 7's alone, that's 97 names. Year 8's 96. And so on. I am not superhuman and remembering all the names takes time. A polite correction after the lesson is fine, along with an acceptance that I am human and most jobs don't require you to recall hundreds of names perfectly in a short time period.

Definitely an email and questioning the warning for her correction.

And soon, lest your daughter does what I did to a similar teacher... using Jasmine as the example I don't mind Jasmine or Jazz but don't call me Jazzy. This teacher kept calling me Jazzy, I politely corrected her every time for a whole year. The next year "Hi Jazzy" "Don't FU^#&*£ call me JAZZY!" heard throughout the courtyard... how I never got disciplined for that I'll never know but I had been the quiet meek kid prior to that so maybe that had a baring on it 🤣

There is a time and a place to correct the name a teacher is calling you, and it certainly isn't immediately it is said wrong. She should have approached the teacher at a quite moment in the lesson and explained. It is only rude if you are interrupting the flow of setting up a lesson or taking the register, which often has to be be done very fast. You will probably find she has a dozen Jennifers and Jazmines, all telling her they are "Jassss" not "Jaz" and "Jenneee" not "Jenny" etc. Not only that but in the middle of speaking in a whole class situation out is often completely impossible to make out exactly what someone is saying about the pronunciation of their name. I always say come and tell me clearly later, but if they don't and interrupt again when I am speaking, then yes, I would issue a warning, or a behaviour point

Maybe DD was unneccessarily rude in her correction, but children/teens often dont think they are?

Is it one of those names thats spelt one thing but pronounced the other?

My eldest DD says there's this Asian girl in her English class called Maryam, but she insists on everyone pronouncing it "Miriam" even though the name is actually pronounced "marry em"

Don’t email her form tutor; email the actual teacher. Tell her she is calling your DD by the wrong name, and state that it was not rude of your DD to correct her. Request that she removes the behaviour mark.

Ask her to ensure she calls her by the correct name in future.

If it continues, then contact the form tutor. (And HOY, etc, if it needs to go further.)

Threat, not thread.

Absolutely not OK. Flag it up now. Possibly it's wrong on the register. But the behaviour mark thread is entirely out of order.
I'm a retired teacher and always always went through the register to get names, preferred forms and pronunciation right. I also asked students to politely correct me if I slipped up. It's basic respect.

Utterly unacceptable.
You need to email.

I’m a teacher and that’s not ok. Names matter and that’s part of our job. The behaviour point thing is bonkers.

I would email the English teacher and inform them your dd’s name is x not y and ask for her to remove the behaviour point.

Don’t wait until parents evening. Right now is the appropriate time to respond - your DC got a sanction for reminding a teacher of her own name! Email her tutor/year group head ASAP.

I would definitely contact the school and complain about the behaviour warning, that’s awful

I'd definitely challenge the behaviour warning.

If she genuinely struggles with names then being corrected shouldn't be a problem, provided it's done politely.