Teacher continually getting DD’s name wrong

I’d write an email to the school asking them to check what name is recorded for your dd on the English class register because she is always addressed using the wrong name. And I’d add that could they please remove the behaviour sanction that was given when your dd stated that her name was Emma, not Emily or whatever.

Unless you have a very common name people are going to mispronounce it all your life.It would be energy consuming and frankly fruitless to raise an issue every time.Choose your battles wisely.

Teacher here and if I mispronounced once I would apologise, make a note and get it right next time for all of my 15 classes! Sometimes I did slip up still and then Amber note made! If it happened a third time I would red note! A name is a child's identity and should be respected. We do get it wrong sometimes, often many times, with so many names to learn but I hope they know it's because I've been an idiot! X

I’d 100% be complaining about getting the negative behaviour point. It’s pretty rude of the teacher to not bother to get her name right then punishing her when she complains? I’d be getting that negative point removed

It's generally same person /people whose names are confused. Many teachers are in agreement about this. It's like getting the words of a song or poem wrong and then trying to unlearn them. When a teacher gets a name wrong she's inclined to repeat the error when engrossed in the subject at hand. She has not forgotten who the pupil is. When the classwork is less intense it does not happen. It's helpful to explain this to the pupils. Nobody is being disrespected or targetted.

One of my DS's teacher kept getting his name mixed up with his friend for the first few weeks. In fairness the two of them looked quite alike (even I would have mixed them up from the back).

Every time she got it wrong she would have to give them a sweet. They delighted in correcting her which meant that she didn't continue to get it wrong for too long.

The girls name should be pronounced however the girl and her parents intended. It's rude to say "it's wrong / it should be pronounced...."

A few of us teachers got together informally to discuss the problem of children correcting us in a chorus when we accidentally got a child's name wrong (Primary). We decided to present the following facts to our classes. 1.We had not forgotten their names. 2.Addressing a person by the wrong name was a genuine mistake. There was no disrespect involved or intended 3.If teacher is looking at a particular person, that is the one she is addressing. 4.When in school the classwork is our main concern. It was not helpful to interrupt this by chanting out people's names. 5.They could be assured that when writing their names, or announcing them at a presentation, we would be one hundred per cent certain of spelling and pronouncing them accurately, even the unfamiliar ones with their origins overseas There was no mention of any sanction for a non compliant child. When we reconvened a week later, just one girl out of four classes had experienced difficulty with the new class rule. She was a person with other behavioural issues. Would you tactfully ask the teacher to give a similar message to the class? Maybe your child is being teased about the wrong name issue.

Don't you know how hard teachers work? Your DD should just change her name ffs

Or ask the pupils to wear a name badge like we do in industry even a sticky one

Exactly the kids can't even finish lunch or go to the loo without being late in some schools.

Did you email the teacher OP? What happened?

Email the teacher concerned and copy in the head. Its not acceptable to get a pupil’s name wrong and I don’t know why you took so long to try to correct the error.
when I was at secondary school the girl who sat next to me in biology looked very similar. We were similar height, build, hair colour and style and we both wore glasses. All year we were consistently called by the other’s name. Both thought it was funny and parents didn’t get involved.

However, I was a bit rubbish at biology but end of year had a glowing report. Convinced to this day we received the other’s report.

Why would you wait until parents evening? I'd definitely speak to school about this as it is not rude to correct someone who constantly calls you by the wrong name. Teacher is the rude one and your DD should not be punished.

Wonder if this is an accent thing as I was friends with a Maryam at school and it was definitely Marry-am

A few teachers here have suggested coming to see them at the end of class. At DD’s school pupils try and avoid this as then they get given a negative behaviour point when they are a tiny bit late to their next class.

A polite email is probably the best way to handle it but... would be so much more fun for you to call her Miss Jones instead of Miss Jenkins all through your next parents meeting and use her name deliberately and continually at beginning or end of each sentence. With an innocent smile at the end.

Hopefully in the new year someone will take away some of the workload of my colleagues who teach drama or RS to almost the entire school (once a week), so they can sit down and memorise 500 names.

If you got a child's name wrong, would you give them a bollocking for correcting you?

Well, speaking as a teacher myself, they bloody well should.

I'd email the teacher directly and tell her you've instructed DD to correct her every time she is called by the wrong name and you will be speaking to the Head if this results in DD receiving further behaviour warnings.

Your DD shouldn't have to put up with that, nor get behavioural sanctions for being assertive. For what it's worth, I say that as an ex-teacher.

We had something similar with my ds in school but he had never told us as he wasn't too bothered by it. When we went to parents' meeting, this teacher was giving us a report totally at odds with what any other teacher was saying about him, negative attitude etc. The teacher had him totally confused with another child of the different name so, while his academic results were very acceptable, the social report was terrible. After this parents night, teacher was actually nicer towards ds whereas previously he was merely tolerant.

If a teacher doesn't know a child's name how do they get reports right? I've actually been to a parents evening and had to point out the child the teacher was slagging off wasn't mine.

For those saying that it is racist to call a ‘non-white’ child by a wrong name, maybe the teacher is non-white herself. Maybe English isn’t her first language 🤷‍♀️. Maybe that why she gets confused.

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In reply to a previous poster - I have taught two or three girls with the name Maryam. It has always been pronounced Miriam. 🤔