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Stingy friend send wrong wrong money

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Rossannah · 29/10/2023 23:15

I have just been away with a friend for 2 nights. An event plus hotel. Cost for the two altogether was £416. I paid for both on my card and told friend to send £200 for her share. She said she would send this weekend, after the event. This was fine.
We went, had a good time. Whilst there, we spent equally. We drank and ate the same. Sometimes paid by round, sometimes separate for eg in a prepay cafe. I don't feel I spent or took any more than my fair share, friend never moaned.
I reckon I spent around £180 in fuel, no mention of this was made, no arrangement for half to be paid by friend and I would have gone alone and spent the same so I was not bothered about paying for fuel myself.
On the way home we stopped at a garage. I filled up the tank, paid at the pump. Friend went in the petrol station and asked if I wanted anything. I gave her an order from subway which was in there, sandwich and drink and some boiled sweets.
We then got on the way. Nice time had by all.
Tonight, she messaged to say she's sent the money she owed. I check and she's put in £290(£90 too much) I reply to say I've got it but it's not what we agreed, confused face, kisses etc ( I did not expect her to pay for petrol) she then goes off on a rant about how she paid for my subway when she went in the petrol station and I didn't offer her any money for it and I was cheeky to expect her to pay for my food. I realised then she had meant to send £190 but has got it wrong.
I wonder how to approach this error given her rudeness and cheekiness over a bloody tenner! Considering I've spent on petrol.
Should I leave it until she realises let her come crawling? Refund her the £100 or £90 as agreed ? No idea. So shocked at her stinginess

I cannot edit the title, I can see the error, haha ironic

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Coulditreallybe · 13/11/2023 10:51

What was her reply @Rossannah

funbags3 · 05/11/2023 20:08

@Rossannah
Did she ask for the money back?

Amazon07 · 05/11/2023 02:03

Overthebow · 29/10/2023 23:18

Wait until she realises then say you thought she had paid you extra to cover her half of the petrol.

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Yes!! This is what I’d do. And now that you see her true colours, I’d stay away from her…

Julimia · 04/11/2023 15:13

Oh please just let it drop. She what your friend does if anything. You had a good time. Life is short!

slithytoveisascientist · 03/11/2023 17:23

I just really like the thread title it makes me smile whenever I see it in my watch list

Kez1357 · 03/11/2023 16:39

Send her 2 quid and say quits she didn’t pay exactly half of the accommodation either so she owed an extra 8 pound so I’d send her 2 quid and your completely even with it all !

trickortrickier · 03/11/2023 15:50

She got it completely wrong - she's too embarrassed to admit it. Time's up on this thread methinks. Will be glad when it stops popping up - sorry for delaying its demiseGrin

Minniliscious · 03/11/2023 14:30

Can we just let this thread die please?

Downsyndromeadvocate · 03/11/2023 14:16

Keep the money. See if she says anything

Miss93 · 03/11/2023 14:13

@Rossannah have you got lost?

Crcicc16 · 03/11/2023 12:19

I very much doubt she accidentally sent you that much in error. Call her if she's a good friend. Probably just miscommunication! X

Rockstarqueen · 03/11/2023 10:25

teal125 · 03/11/2023 04:36

Any update? Did friend respond

I don’t think the poster is coming back to clarify what happened.

OMGitsnotgood · 03/11/2023 10:03

How would friend know total petrol came to £180?

I am guessing it was mentioned more than once

teal125 · 03/11/2023 04:36

Any update? Did friend respond

BurbleBumleBleep · 02/11/2023 23:13

But they agreed £200. So anything over that.. wasn’t agreed. So friend can’t get arsey over any of it.

How would friend know total petrol came to £180? All she would see was what the Op filled up. If she intended to pay why did she not offer at the service station, or at least say she’d pay later? Why did she not say she’d pay for the subway at the petrol station? Cos she’s tight.

Blondeshavemorefun · 02/11/2023 23:03

So what was her reply

Maybe she meant 290 as in share of petrol and then you query it

Ans she gets stroppy thinking you didn't pay the subway

Airspice · 02/11/2023 22:56

jesshomeEd · 29/10/2023 23:20

I'd say no problem, £200 for your share of the £416 for event/hotel, plus £90 for your share of fuel - I'll send you £10 for my Subway.

Absolutely this!!

TigerJoy · 02/11/2023 17:49

Oh god I have a friend like this. Not the whinging and ranting, but very scabby.

I always round down or up in her favour, she always rounds down or up in her favour. Just recently she set my teeth on edge of petrol - we'd been away together and everything was done down to the pence. At the end I owed her about £3 and said "oh that will cover petrol". My petrol cost about £160!!!!! I wouldn't have minded if she hadn't mentioned it like she was doing me a favour.

Luckily she is an absolute angel in every other respect.

Decide whether your friend is worth keeping over this - and if you think she is, just accept it's going to cost you £20 here and there.

In this case I'd give her £2 as the difference between the real cost of £208 and your sandwich, and accept the other money as petrol money. And say that if she realises and asks for it back.

CaramelMac · 02/11/2023 13:20

Some people know the price of everything and the value of nothing 🤣

SP85 · 02/11/2023 10:22

I think I'd definitely have to get petty about it if she comes asking for a refund. I'd say OK so £208 for event £90 for half petrol and here's the £2 I owe you for my subway.

LadyThatLaunches · 02/11/2023 07:50

Reasontoreason · 01/11/2023 11:17

I think you both got the wrong end of the stick. She did mean to send £290 and was paying for petrol. But when you asked her the amount, she thought you wanted her to pay more. If you are such good friends, call up and talk to each other properly.

This. It's what two blokes would do.

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 01/11/2023 20:29

Following. What cheek....want to see how it all pans out!

coldcallerbaiter · 01/11/2023 19:31

I hate stingy friends, always thought they were pathetic and dropped, such a bad personality trait.

Sandalholidays12 · 01/11/2023 19:27

@Rossannah what actually happened? Did you misunderstand your friend?

Reasontoreason · 01/11/2023 11:17

I think you both got the wrong end of the stick. She did mean to send £290 and was paying for petrol. But when you asked her the amount, she thought you wanted her to pay more. If you are such good friends, call up and talk to each other properly.