Party after sickness??

No, you don’t send her obviously or you risk making lots of other children ill. I can’t believe anyone needs to ask this.

A lot of people on here overreact with aggression and hysteria - take no notice of the nasty ones.

However on this occasion the underlying message they are trying to get across is correct. She shouldn’t go if she’s been sick. What could just be an unpleasant afternoon for one person could put somebody else in real jeopardy!

Have the birthday girl over to play when they’re recovered!

i think it’s just because you’ve made it very clear you know she shouldn’t be going but trying to get justification for a selfish choice you know full well it’s a high probability she has the bug, you haven’t got the answer you hoped for and are now acting “victimised” to be fair even in that last post you can tell your still not listening still trying to bend the scenario to suit what you and your daughter want I wouldn’t be surprised if you just took her!

if you always do this your daughter will grow up with the same self centred attitude as you

I'm an emetophobe (I'm in recovery after therapy) and I have 3 DC.

In the situation the OP describes I'd adhere more to the 24h rule. However I'd also hate to be responsible for spreading a bug at a party so I think I'd sit this one out.

I have to be honest and say with my 3 DC it's almost always been a bug (can think of only one instance in a decade one of my DC was very sick and then fine!!)

I don’t think one single person has agreed with you everyone thinks the same as me your one of those mums that would risk everyone else’s health and half term as long as you and your child get your own way

Agree

So selfish if you take her. It's a nursery kid's party, not her siblings wedding day. Keep her home

Given there's a bug at nursery I'd say that's definitely the most likely.

Both my DDs were sick just once recently, the same night, and then they were absolutely completely fine. 2 nights later DH was vomiting so it was definitely a bug rather than something they'd both eaten.

I treat all vomit as a bug unless I know there is another reason eg travel sickness.

If you go I can guarantee that your child will be the one who starts projectile vomiting on the bouncy castle and you will be stuck explaining that she was "only sick once yesterday".

Apologies OP. I had a lot of time off last year having to look after my child when they'd picked up yet another bug and I'm pretty sure lots of it was due to kids having a bug but not being kept off. The nursery were really trying to clamp down on it but selfish parents kept sending them in. Sorry I let my anger at the selfish lot influence my response to you.

Sorry but no your kid can't go

You clearly do know how it works but think your child's excitement trumps all

Don't do that!

Do a party at home for you and him. £5 of party decorations from Poundland. Some crisps, fairy cake. Play pass the parcel. Watch a little movie. Arrange a soft play playdate with a few of the party kids.

My child was only sick once after contracting the bug from nursery. We thought it wasn't the bug.

Until 24 hours later when I had my head down the toilet, followed shortly by my DH! Definitely don't take her!!

Don’t ask the party parents. This is a decision you’re is struggling with; it’s not fair to get the hosts to struggle with it too. (I know you’d not suggested it OP)

I do agree with the others though. You can’t take her. It’s the start of half term. Don’t be the person who wrecks everyone’s plans. Instead, message the parents to explain, and see if you can arrange a play date soon, then you can use that to help stem DD’s disappointment.

Crikey she's just asking a question. Chill out!
OP it's prob best to keep them away from the party just in case. She'll be disappointed so perhaps do something special at home with her.

One of the hardest parts of parenting is saying no when your child really really wants to do something. But this is one of those times.

and is unfair on all the other parents who have not been asked

But you do know how it works you said 48 hours in your original post 🙄 I hate selfish parents usually end up raising selfish children that think the rules don’t apply to them

I think you've got the message loud and clear OP, so I'm not going to repeat the advice slready given.

In regard to dealing either your DD's disappointment at missing out, perhaps think lovely, extra special 'post-birthday" playdate activity you could set up with your DD with her friend? Doesn't have to be pricey. You can tall it up yo your DD to elevate the importance of the occasion.

Just a thought.

My son had a bug at the beginning of the year where he was sick once every 36-48 hours for a week. Just because she hasn't been sick since doesn't mean she is bug free.

Also don’t ask the parents your going to put them on the spot and that’s just awful as you thinking it’s okay to take a possibly contagious child to a party even though you clearly know there is a 48 hour period as you wrote it in your OP

I think that creates an awkward situation, so is rude.