Friend lying about tv appearance.

Over years of listening to various people I've met in my life talking shite, I am very sceptical and take most things with a pinch of salt that way it doesn't affect me. A lovely resident in a care home told everyone that if someone you are talking to appears to be lying you just say Really!! something that's always stuck in my mind lol . You don't have to stop being friends with people because they have a little fantasy world going on only time you have to worry is when their lies involve you. You're friend may well still be on the show, maybe she doesn't want anyone she knows being there incase she doesn't do well

Someone I follow on instagram posted on their story less than an hour ago that they’re at the filming for the show tonight

OP has already explained that she otherwise likes the person, just has an issue with her lying.

Compulsive liars have a mental health problem. That doesn’t mean they can’t have friends. It’s still OK for OP to be a friend to this person. But it’s also healthy for her to respect her own boundaries while being a friend.

Honestly I find all these “why do you care” or “do you like the drama” posts so disingenuous.

But why do you need to know its true? They could be lying or telling the truth? If they lie that much normally why are you still friends do you like other people's drama's? Do you need the attention?

@KatKoot As you say, the problem is once someone makes stuff up, at least more than once, you can't know if they're making stuff up or not with every statement they make. So you might even happen to be wrong about this one but it would be because of her previous actions. My uncle says some things that aren't lies and some that are, so I can never tell what's right out of what he's saying.

My friend fed me all sorts of lies about the case she was involved in for neglect/abuse of her child and I swallowed it all. Same with a prominent court case that was in the news- I believed someone's version of events which was inaccurate. I'll try not to make that mistake again.

Similarly with an ex, he told me he'd been told he only had 5 years to live and I think that was a lie, which I didn't realise until we split up. He would also lie about other stuff, major and minor.

I think PP's might be right in that you should just distance yourself from her. Don't confront her if you want to carry on going along to the group and she'll be there, as that might make going to the group stressful for you if there's someone there you've outright fallen out with, but don't have more to do with her than you have to.

If she’s a proper friend, then why are you bothered if she’s told a little white lie which this appears it could be.

A white lie is saying something so as not to hurt someone's feelings. Making stuff up is making stuff up and aggravating.

If she is compulsive liar just bloody end the friendship. I honestly could not be arsed wasting my time picking apart her lies and spying to catch her out, I have a life.

I get you don’t trust her, but why are you continuing the friendship despite knowing she’s an absolute bullshitter? Who has time for this kind of shit, seriously?

Just call it a day instead of wasting precious time playing detective about things that have zero effect on your life.

I would be inclined to think they were telling the truth because they know they would be caught out when they were never in an episode. They would look foolish and everyone would know. I know you get compulsive liars in life but they usually only do it about things that are hard to prove.
Could it be they have gone for a screen test/audition? (I don’t know how they pick contestants)

I know of someone who went on a games show and babbled out about getting very far up during a lunch break to around a dozen people, months before it aired. He then sent an email to our (small but still) team to tell us when the episode he won was airing. So either he didnt read the small print or didnt care. Dont know what happens if you do reveal stuff and the producers find out.

Thanks. There were several other "incidents" of that nature, but that was one of the ones that I remember particularly. She did have problems in her childhood and I felt sad for her, but it just became too dangerous to be her friend.

Wow! @koalaknickers that is bloody awful.
i am so sorry you had to deal with that. Thank goodness you overheard when you did. Disgusting behaviour!

Exactly. Where does it stop?

I had a "friend" who lived for drama. Also lied for drama. I realised how dangerous she was when I caught her at a party saying I was having an affair with a man I barely knew! We lived in small town then and it could have got me into all sorts of trouble.

She is no longer in my life, I had to distance myself from her. Of course, she had a better side and when she was fun she was brilliant, but I just couldn't have her making up dangerous lies about me to get her kicks.

I think the people who are criticising @KatKoot for not just accepting lies have never experienced having a friend whose words they cannot trust.
If someone lies about small things they have no need to lie about, at what point do we know they wont lie? At what point can you trust them? When they are asking to borrow £10 are they just taking the piss?

Also fundamentally the psychology of friendship involves TRUST. If OP wants to be a good friend and have a good friend, then she cannot herself be without this TRUST.

So saying OP isn’t a good friend is entirely missing the bloody point. The imaginative, lie telling friend is not an actual friend but someone who has issues and is treating OP and their other friends like they are idiots. That’s what people who are lied to always start to feel like. And a friend does not treat people they care about like they are gullible idiots.

You're a shit friend (and massively petty) and this thread is pathetic.

Also, reeks of jealousy. Are you normally so jealous of your friends?
Maybe work on that.

If she it telling you she got to question 12, I’d be fairly sure she is lying. Production Companies are very very insistent that contestants tell no-one, esp on a prime time quiz, how far they got and what they won.

I was friends years ago with someone who lied about everything. It is a big thing when you can’t trust anything someone says. It’s even sadder when you realise they lie about everything and you watch from the sidelines while everyone else believes them.

She is hoping that by the time the series airs you’ll all have forgotten. Or the production company will have “lost her episode “

If she’s a proper friend, then why are you bothered if she’s told a little white lie which this appears it could be.
If she’s your friend, why do you want to calL her out???
Why are you bothered so much??

I know - I've read about a few of these types. Pretending to have cancer is a new low. There must be something going on with anyone who would do this.

Maybe she has recorded it already and was saying that she will be on TV, your friend might not have wanted anyone to watch I don't think I would, except my husband or mum , I take it she didn't want you as a phone a friend or I assume she would have asked , unless she is applying for next series and not asked you yet. Shouldn't worry too much about it. , Apply yourself lol

Is your friend a member of the caravan club?

All these people saying dyhat OP is not nice friend. Would you not want to know if someone you call a friend is lying to you? It'd be hard going maintaining a friendship with someone who lies so much. That isn't a friend 😕

You don’t seem like a very nice friend.

A relative of mine was on a game show but it wasn't televised for over 18 months. I really don't see your problem.