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Extra appointments and visits aren’t helpful support

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Cappuccinoa · 16/10/2023 13:37

They just add more stress and make it worse 😩

PND (diagnosed late and had a while as baby is now a toddler) , ASD, ADHD and ME.

Finally went to the dr asking for support and it’s ended up that they want me to to have appts, for the health visitor to come round, to have a homestart volunteer . Having people in my safe space dysregulates me and makes me more stressed. Having to go out more makes me more stressed.

I asked can the HV check ins be by phone as I can cope better with that.
I’d rather have some antidepressants and just appts for monitoring of that, I think I need practical support as have been feeling overwhelmed by tasks so with homestart id rather not be dragged out to groups. I’d rather have help and advice about some funded nursery hours etc rather than me having to socialise alongside dd

This ‘support’ is for NT people I think and it’s not right for me ?

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Cappuccinoa · 16/10/2023 13:49

What I requested was :
-antidepressants
-counselling referral
-referral to pain clinic or some painkillers as get pain with my ME
-it I have to have check ins with the HV by phone not home visits
-I asked the HV for support with nursery places could she help to see if I can get 2 yr funding and liasing if needs be to help get a place
-homestart I’ve declined as I can’t host someone here and can’t go to groups (I have selective mutism and can’t manage the stress)

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Cappuccinoa · 16/10/2023 13:46

I’ve waited and waited to ask for help and tried to manage and now I can’t and I was very clear what I think would help but I was fobbed off and then given this whole set of things that have just made me more stressed

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Cappuccinoa · 16/10/2023 13:45

Anotherdayanotherdollar · 16/10/2023 13:43

Tbh I'm surprised they're offering that much support in the first place!
Have you any family support?

No none at all

i know they are offering support and I’m not being ungrateful but for me it’s the wrong package of support if that makes sense it’s just all the things that make me more stressed

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Anotherdayanotherdollar · 16/10/2023 13:43

Tbh I'm surprised they're offering that much support in the first place!
Have you any family support?

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Cappuccinoa · 16/10/2023 13:39

They may as well have said to me ‘so you’re exhausted and don’t like going out or socialising or talking to new people or waiting around in waiting rooms - get your diary we will fill it with all of that ‘ 🤦‍♀️

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