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Happyface246 · 16/10/2023 08:16

I have invited my dad for Christmas as he is on his own with no real friends. Our relationship isn’t fantastic as he can be quite harsh with his views. My dd suffers with anxiety and can get overwhelmed easily. I have two other siblings, one lives close and the other a couple of hours away. One sibling had offered to help with transport but no accommodation offer. Last time my dad stayed with us we did everything. I need the other siblings to step up as I don’t want my dd having panic attacks. The sibling who has offered transport has said they won’t have my dad staying as there is no spare bed (she has a 2 bedroom house but lives on her own). Our house is full to the brim, dh, ds, dd and 2 pets) Wwyd? Thanks.

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Barrowgirl · 16/10/2023 08:20

* I need the other siblings to step up as I don’t want my dd having panic attacks*

do what your siblings are doing. Prioritising their own children over an unpleasant father

Barrowgirl · 16/10/2023 08:19

You can’t force them too

you dad doesn’t sound pleasant. You have decided to suck that up. Your siblings haven’t.

I would not subject your father to my children over Christmas as I’d be on the side of your siblings

DustyLee123 · 16/10/2023 08:18

I wouldn’t have invited him if it’s that much bother. You can’t expect others to ‘step up’ just because you’ve started something.