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To think I’m missing something?

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Mamma23 · 14/10/2023 10:10

Work full time (teacher, so lots of work out of normal work times), husband full time too (non-teacher but lots of travelling involved). Toddler in childcare- always the first one dropped off and last to be picked up, mum guilt off the scales.

House is always a mess and I never seem to have time to give it a proper clean top to bottom. Full of stuff and just seemingly nowhere to put it! Money extremely tight (thanks mortgage increase!) so no budget for a cleaner/window cleaner etc.

We do both have longish commutes to work (there and back mine is about 1 hr 15, DP’s around 1hr 45) which do eat into our day a little.

People around me make it seem so effortless to excel at work, keep on top of the housework, spend quality time with DC and also manage to have a social life.

Would love to have a 2nd child soon but struggle to see how we can manage to juggle everything (as well as financially which is a whole separate issue).

AIBU to think I’m missing a trick? Anyone have any top tips for keeping afloat when you feel like there’s just not enough hours in the day?

OP posts:
underneaththeash · 14/10/2023 10:29

Mamma23 · 14/10/2023 10:28

I have thought extensively about this, but terrified of ending up somewhere I hate!

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Given that what you’re doing now isn’t working, it’s worth looking around.

Notimeforaname · 14/10/2023 10:29

Money*

Notimeforaname · 14/10/2023 10:29

I worked in a nursery for a time and and saw this a lot. Some of the 'first- in last-out families would pay me to take their child home at the end of the day and babysit if they were working late/away. The homes were always either spotless or in a complete shambles and it was always down to having a cleaner or not as working such long hours meant they couldn't do it.

It seemed those who worked the longest hours had more monet to outsource. You say there are issues with finances. Thatll be what you're missing.

You dont have the time nor the money to do these things. You need one or the other.

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Mamma23 · 14/10/2023 10:28

underneaththeash · 14/10/2023 10:13

Getting a job nearer home sounds like it would free up a lot of time?

I have thought extensively about this, but terrified of ending up somewhere I hate!

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BorisIsACuntWaffle · 14/10/2023 10:17

I've just changed jobs (left school in summer) all.of the fulltime teachers in my old dept had cleaners dog walkers and some had gardeners.

qandko · 14/10/2023 10:15

BorisIsACuntWaffle · 14/10/2023 10:12

Most full time teachers have a lot of help. Cleaners etc.

Not in my experience they don't. OP I'm a teacher on 0.6 and hardly keeping my head above water with small kids and a husband who works full time.

underneaththeash · 14/10/2023 10:13

Getting a job nearer home sounds like it would free up a lot of time?

BorisIsACuntWaffle · 14/10/2023 10:12

Most full time teachers have a lot of help. Cleaners etc.