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To think we should avoid London right now?

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StayorgoLDN · 13/10/2023 09:23

Due to visit London in the next few weeks.

Anxious with Palestinian protests and so forth in the news. I don’t want to be near that with young children, and worried that it may escalate to some sort of attack.

We are not Jews, but presuming as the U.K. is supporting Israel that we’ll all be fair game ie there might be an attack/bomb somewhere prominent to send a message to gov.

Have been in London during terrorist attacks before and I’d rather avoid.

AIBU to consider rescheduling our family trip to next year?

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Bromptotoo · 13/10/2023 11:13

I worked in the Civil Service, mostly in London, from 1979 until 2013. During that time Irish Nationalists and later Islamic Extremists were doing their stuff.

In the early days, at least until the mid eighties, there were colleagues who'd lived through the Blitz and V1/V2 raids. Many others had seen active service either in WW2 or subsequent conflicts via National Service.

If they lived with the risks you can too was the general message.

Coughingdodger · 13/10/2023 11:08

AmazingSnakeHead · 13/10/2023 11:04

No need for that. That comment was in response to a jewish poster living in London. Is no one allowed to feel stressed, unless they are in an actual war zone?

Of course they are. Where did I say that a Jewish poster living in London isn’t allowed to feel stressed?
But let’s get things into perspective.

StayorgoLDN · 13/10/2023 11:08

user1497207191 · 13/10/2023 10:40

No, I try to avoid London like the plague. It's dirty, grimy and far too crowded. I've been once in the last decade and that was enough. Would die happy enough if I never went again.

I was there on the day of the bus bombings (how unlucky can you be, I only go there once a decade or so!) - luckily nowhere near the bombs, but there was chaos throughout the city. Huge numbers of scared people unable to get any transport out, unable to book hotel rooms for the night, literally having to walk miles, with no idea where to go, shops, cafes etc all closed, so not even anywhere to go for a sit down and drink. No information/guidance about what to do. No officials able to help. It was a nightmare.

@user1497207191

I agree with this is was a mess and totally chaotic.

My kids couldn’t deal with something like this at all.

We managed to cope because are from Belfast originally. We realised there were bombings before it was announced what the disruption was and went and booked a hotel in Gatwick immediately. 15 mins later everyone was screaming, running about, crying and queuing up to get accom, couldn’t get or the hoteliers had tripled prices…

Went into central a day or so later, found a London cabbie who was ex army and stuck with him for the duration of our trip - he was an absolute diamond of a man. Various things were closed off, sheets up around the buses etc. very distressing.

@duchiebun will you wind yer neck in with “oh I have Irish relatives so know everything”…. No you don’t, you didn’t live through it personally.

It is not just bombings or physical attacks, it is psychological terror and distress, panic and disruption. There are many more victims than those who actually die in these sorts of events.

My kids are autistic, and it would be very difficult for them to cope with chaotic protests or any sort of terror attack - even if they were not directly involved, due to disruption/potential changes of plan.

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Dinosaur4 · 13/10/2023 11:07

I would not visit London or another major city with DC today or this Saturday, due to the calls from the former Hamas leader and planned protests. I would go for work and not think of it.

duchiebun · 13/10/2023 11:06

Is no one allowed to feel stressed, unless they are in an actual war zone?

I don’t think so which means most of MNs is redundant..

beguilingeyes · 13/10/2023 11:05

I live in Zone 3 and work in the City. Everything is exactly the same as it was last Friday. I haven't seen any protests and we've been out in the West End two nights this week.
It's beyond awful that Jewish businesses and people are being targeted, but it hasn't occurred to me that we, as a city might be targeted. The risk is, of course, always there, but it doesn't feel any more tense than usual.

CornishGem1975 · 13/10/2023 11:05

Yes, avoid going into London but are you going to avoid everywhere else too? Because literally anywhere can be a danger.

My kids were caught up in a terrorist attack, the one at Westminster. Do I stop them going to London, no. The last thing I want them to grow up is afraid.

AsBeautifulAsYou · 13/10/2023 11:04

@BlurredEdges I am so sorry this is happening, I’m not Jewish but my Grandmother took in Jewish refugees in WW2 and my Mum said her and the little girl used to play together. She wondered what happened to her often but she couldn’t remember her family name. I have only visited a synagogue once and there was strict security on the door, it made me feel very sad. I can’t do anything except let you know I feel for you and all Jewish people who feel vulnerable in these awful times.

Any demonstration can go awry and things escalate. You just need a handful of trouble makers. I was at the anti criminal justice bill in 1994 which was massively chilled and more like a giant rave but it got out of hand when we got to Downing St and some attempted to storm the gates, I was almost mown down when panic set in and jumped on a windowsill, then in Hyde Park police horses were sent in to disperse the crowd, our coach had a petrol bomb thrown at it to top off the day. So London itself fine but any hint of a demo avoid.

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No need for that. That comment was in response to a jewish poster living in London. Is no one allowed to feel stressed, unless they are in an actual war zone?

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duchiebun · 13/10/2023 11:02

Well, you might have been drinking in the Sussex near Leicester Sq, or at Victoria Station on a parity date… or if in Birmingham in a pub / club on That Night…

For example.

Since when has Birmingham been in London & it would unusual for a child to have been out drinking….

AmazingSnakeHead · 13/10/2023 11:00

Oh shit, I've just read your update: But London is usually up there as it’s the capital and also the place where most British Arabs live. So you are actually suggesting that British people might attack you and your children just for - being white in London?? I think probably most of London would prefer you not to visit, with attitudes like that.

Edit: or actually, maybe you are worried about protests and loud crowds. I can't figure it out. If crowds and protests: should be easy to avoid by avoiding the area it will be in, unless you are planning to go to a specific place in London, which might be a protest place.

user1497207191 · 13/10/2023 11:00

Ginmonkeyagain · 13/10/2023 10:48

@user1497207191 surprisingly enough there weren't spare officials handing out nice helpful leaflets on the day of a massive unexpected bombing incident.

Generally if you are caught up in oue of these things and unwounded the advice is follow police instructions, if no instructions get out of the way. Yes you may have to walk for a while and yes things may be a bit disrupted. I had to walk 8 miles home thorugh a terrified and confused city that day because there was literally no transport. But that was a small hardship compared to those who were caught up in it.

But there were "officials", such as at train stations, but they weren't giving any advice as there seems to be no actual centralised information system.

Yes, you could walk home, even if it were a long way. I was 300 miles from home and couldn't get any information as to where to walk to to have any hope of either a hotel for the night nor a train that could actually get me in the general direction of home. Obviously, couldn't walk 300 miles, but it would have been good for someone, i.e. station staff, police officers, etc to have the faintest idea as to what I should do - these are people who live in the area, presumably have resources behind them such as operations hq's etc., but basically just constantly told to "go somewhere else" or "ask someone else" isn't helpful.

Yes, it's nothing like the trauma suffered by those actually injured in the bombs, but wondering around an unknown city, with no information as to where to go or what to do, doesn't make you want to risk repeating it!

RudsyFarmer · 13/10/2023 10:59

StayorgoLDN · 13/10/2023 10:45

@RudsyFarmer

U.K. Gov has come out in strong support of Israel and Jewish people.

Israel has already killed >1400 in Gaza in retaliation for 1300 killed in Israel by Hamas.

They have asked 1.1 million people in northern Gaza to evacuate over the next 24hrs. This is impossible due to blockades etc.

The number of Arabs that will be dying over the next few days will likely be huge.

This isn’t going to go down well with Arab nations. At all.

There will be further attacks on Israel in retaliation and likely other regions that support, including U.K.

As to what nature/when/where who knows.

But London is usually up there as it’s the capital and also the place where most British Arabs live.

Hope that’s explained things.

That does explain it better. You are worried there might be crowds of angry people protesting and your family might get caught up in that? You could be right. At the very least it could make for a miserable trip. If there’s somewhere else you can visit, then yes that might be a good plan.

C152 · 13/10/2023 10:57

Whilst I think your level of concern over a potential terrorist attack is unreasonably high, I can understand that you want to minimise risks for children, particularly as you say they have additional needs and would find disturbances very difficult to cope with. I would respectfully say that now is no more risky than any other time. London is always under threat of terrorist attacks - I'm sure the security services stop countless potential attacks we never even get a whiff of.

Central London is well policed and, whether it makes you feel safer or not, still has the ring of steel, which has been enhanced since 7/7. As others have suggested, steer clear of embassies and planned protests and you will minimise your risk further.

Personally, I would not rearrange your trip just because of your fear someone will attack London because the UK supports Israel. There's always a war somewhere and there are always those who are against whatever stand the government of the day has taken. As a Londoner, who is taking their young child (in a wheelchair) into zone 1 today for a lego event, I feel no more unsafe now than at any other time.

GingerKombucha · 13/10/2023 10:57

I think you have to look at genuine risk and likelihood of being killed by a terrorist attack in a city of 9m people. About 60 people have died of terrorist attacks in London in the last 20 years, a period involving many times of increased tensions worldwide. I think you'll be fine. About 2k people die on the roads each year so if you're super risk adverse, that's a much bigger risk.

SoShallINever · 13/10/2023 10:56

Millions live in London, are you proposing that they all stay at home today?
The only time I got caught up in a terror incident was in a small Northern town called Warrington.
It was never on the radar.
That's the whole point of terrorism, they seek to provoke fear.

ChesapeakeBay · 13/10/2023 10:55

And in case you’ve forgotten, the last terrorist attack in the UK happened in Manchester.

@MayThe4th do you think there have been no terrorist attacks in the UK since the arena in 2017?!

There have been 12. 6 in London and 6 outside.

AmazingSnakeHead · 13/10/2023 10:55

OP I understand that in your case your previous experience is making you feel unsafe. Might it help to think through the possibilities logically?

Think about it. Hamas isn't about to attack London, are they? They are not about to take a break from waging war on Israel to bomb a theatre in London. In the next few weeks either Israel will wipe Hamas out, or Hamas will still be engaged in ongoing conflict in Gaza.

Presumably you are not suggesting that British Palestinians living in London are going to start dropping bombs and attacking tourists?? So maybe you are worried that there might be loud protests, if more Palestinian civilians are killed in the conflcit? That is possible, I guess, but will be in areas you can avoid, it will be well policed, and I would imagine that most big cities will have similar. Birmingham, Manchester, Glasgow all rotinely have similar vigils and Protests to those in London. I don't take young kids anywhere near protests or big demonstrations, even for causes that I support, and I've found it easy to plan to trips to avoid these.

user1497207191 · 13/10/2023 10:54

MayThe4th · 13/10/2023 10:45

These threads are so tedious.

Every single time something happens in the world the panic mongers come out in force to suggest that maybe they shouldn’t travel to London because…. What if….

Remind me again how many people have been killed in London so far since the attack in Israel last weekend?

And how many have been killed in car accidents in the same time?

And in case you’ve forgotten, the last terrorist attack in the UK happened in Manchester.

To be honest, I don't voluntarily ever go into Manchester either. I do my utmost to avoid all big UK cities. They just have no appeal to me at all.

GRex · 13/10/2023 10:52

"Protests" celebrating Hamas killing civilians should be treated as support for terrorism and sanctioned accordingly with arrests and prosecution. I'm glad there is some pressure on police, but I would like to see much more. A free society only remains free when it is protected from those who intend harm on others. If Jewish people and their property can't be safe in London, then those who wish to make them unsafe must be made to leave London.

There is always a higher risk of terrorist attack in London, and staying away is your choice OP. It is pretty irrational given the much higher risk of other types of incident like road traffic accidents, but your choice.

VineRipened · 13/10/2023 10:52

duchiebun · 13/10/2023 10:31

I was a very young child in London in the late 80s early 90s when the IRA were still around. I survived.

Why on earth would you not have survived the IRA?!

Well, you might have been drinking in the Sussex near Leicester Sq, or at Victoria Station on a parity date… or if in Birmingham in a pub / club on That Night…

For example.

StayorgoLDN · 13/10/2023 10:52

Cyclebabble · 13/10/2023 10:38

I work in London. TBH these days terrorism can occur anywhere. London is quite well policed. It is highly likely that terrorists would look at targets in other urban centres. My attitude is always to be careful but not to change my plans or lifestyle radically. If we do this terrorism wins.

Thank you @Cyclebabble

I’m definitely not looking to radically change my life.

Just either move accom/change some minor travel plans.

Or postpone the trip until things have settled down and the long term implications of all the violence are more clear.

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SoRainbowRhythms · 13/10/2023 10:49

It's business as usual today.

Ginmonkeyagain · 13/10/2023 10:48

@user1497207191 surprisingly enough there weren't spare officials handing out nice helpful leaflets on the day of a massive unexpected bombing incident.

Generally if you are caught up in oue of these things and unwounded the advice is follow police instructions, if no instructions get out of the way. Yes you may have to walk for a while and yes things may be a bit disrupted. I had to walk 8 miles home thorugh a terrified and confused city that day because there was literally no transport. But that was a small hardship compared to those who were caught up in it.