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To ask What's the most pressing thing on your mind at the moment?

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girlfriend44 · 12/10/2023 20:17

What's happening in your life?
What's your most pressing worry at the moment and how do you distract yourself from thinking about it, if you can that is?

OP posts:
TammyJones · 13/10/2023 09:48

@FutureUncertain
This must be so hard
Flowers

TammyJones · 13/10/2023 09:43

Kenwoodmixitup · 12/10/2023 21:58

On my mind - Empty nest - everyone has gone: children, parents, husband, dog, cat.

Good distractions- children thriving, parents and animals not in pain, husband doing what he needs to do; knitting, tele and about to retire; plans for retirement.

Challenge - the empty nest is a bit intense.

Empty nest is the worse.
I found gardening helped. (Or any hobby you're in to)
It's taken a long while (parenting is so rewarding) but now I can appreciate having time to myself - and enjoy the moments when they ring / visit me.

TammyJones · 13/10/2023 09:37

If you'd asked me a week ago :

The sudden need to put a beloved relative into a care home.

My adult child's partner has decided they need some time apart.

This happened on the same day and floored me.

I have been having very intense dreams about being lost and trying to find my way home - so I guess it's all relative.

To distract myself, I've thrown myself into work.

Got outside - walking/ gardening
Played some of my favourite music while doing cooking / housework
Reading a good book in bed / watching some of my favourite series on sky / Netflix/ Disney.

It's hard to feel helpless but by recharging my batteries I will have the strength to do what needs to be done.

MonikerBing · 13/10/2023 09:27

my to do list (long)
work
The Tories
The weather
Tidying the house
things breaking down in the house
dating
My weight
what I'm going to cook
the pets
my to do list
guilt about not exercising
GC stuff
where can I get rid of books
my daughter and her mental health
where shall I go on holiday next
which Christmas pyjamas shall I buy

That's a few things I've thought about this morning (as Iay in bed not doing anything!).

I find yoga, meditation and walking with loud music/podcasts on really helpful to distract me from my thoughts

TammyJones · 13/10/2023 09:22

Hedjwitch · 12/10/2023 21:02

If I will be sick if I eat this entire bag of Galaxy Minstrels?

You will be fine
Go for it Grin

Favouritefruits · 13/10/2023 09:21

I’ve just started a OU degree and I feel like a fraud! I feel so stupid and thick and wish I hadn’t started it, but I know it’s a lot of money so can’t waste the opportunity!

TammyJones · 13/10/2023 09:19

Preschoolmum78 · 12/10/2023 20:52

Got a rejection after an interview today for a job that was literally perfect for me, including logistics and hours. Flopped the interview, recovering from a chest infection and had the heaviest day of my (heavy) period that day. Had four infections in the last month. Dental abscess is still there but can’t afford to go back as don’t have the form for free treatment sorted. Currently in insecure 0 hours work since being made redundant last Christmas and had no work for the last month. Single parent. Spend most of my time by myself, communication skills down the toilet. I don’t know how to interact with people anymore. Now have time but no money for any hobbies. Can’t do/finish degree as maxed out student finance. Feel like I’m losing brain cells by not using them enough. Can’t stop thinking about a solution.

Sorry about your interview
Just want to say I hope you get sorted.
Keep at it.

thishasnotmyweek · 13/10/2023 07:56

I’m mainly worrying now about

My friend who has been arrested in a foreign country for something stupid but serious and if they are okay / what is going to happen to them

How lonely my mum is and how it’s partly my fault because I moved away. What will happen when she needs help.

I’ve had an argument with my sister and I’m not sure it can be repaired, but I miss her :(

Truthseeker456 · 13/10/2023 06:55

Poor children being killed in gaza

Bearcub101 · 13/10/2023 06:47

I’m an over worrier, so currently have a lot:-

-Is my youngest son happy at university in his first year and away from home
-How am I going to finish the qualification I’m doing? It’s relentless
-Ukraine/Russia and Israel/Gaza so so many innocent people caught up
-a family members cancer diagnosis
-my parents health even though I’m low contact I still worry
-will my car get through the MOT without costing me a fortune
-nephews mental health and general well-being
-my mental health
-cost of living
-new work colleague who’s a ‘in my opinion…’ person

But a lot of my worries are insignificant compared to others.

How I keep my mind off things? Reading, watching box sets, going out for meals and days out with DP, lots of snuggles,
gym (though I’m finding harder with the dark mornings and evenings), cooking (just wish I had more money to cook more!)

PictureFrameWindow · 13/10/2023 06:36

Will I pass my probation and get to keep my job?
Will the builders do the front cladding properly? They have not done a good job on the side.

Why is the climate data so extreme for this month? What's causing the huge spike in heating?

How will the Israeli-Palestinian conflict ever end? The cycle of violence is horrifying.

flashbac · 13/10/2023 06:28

The (biased) media reporting on the conflict in the Middle East. The fact that some lives are more worthy of others.

shalva · 13/10/2023 06:19

So many,
my son in law who was called up to reserve duty and not knowing where he is.
my daughter trying to hold it together for our grandchilden
The parents of friends whose funeral for their 19 year old soldier son was this week
My dear dear friend who has had no contact with her child since saturday
Another daughter living close to central Israel with young children who has only left the house this week to run to the bomb shelter
The faces of the familes that have been evacuated to our small village from the troubled areas..
so much more to write but you get thet the picture..we are heartbroken, our souls are broken ...

CrackersCheeseAndWinePlease · 13/10/2023 06:15

My main worries at the moment are
: my eldest DD's mental health
: second DD's eating disorder
: money, or lack of

I have plenty of others but these are the main ones at the moment.
I distract myself by scrolling MN and throwing myself into work

Notateacheranymore · 13/10/2023 06:11

Professionally, I’m such a disaster area. Quit teaching in 2013, definitely would not be able to handle it now and would have perf managed out within 3-6 months if I hadn’t resigned.

Done office admin since. Bores me shitless and my performance ain’t great there either. I’m seen by others as intelligent and capable but I’ve fucked up twice just yesterday. Don’t know how to fix it. Line manager is very good, and deflects a lot of shit from senior colleagues but I know he was asked to perf manage me before I had a 3 week holiday of a lifetime. This has been my first week back.

Also my health. Been overweight for ever. Now late 40’s - birthday coming on Monday - and my lack of physical self care is starting to bite me in my ass!!!

decionsdecisions62 · 13/10/2023 05:54

God I've got so many I'm not sure which one is the most significant tbh. Tonight it's hoping my nursing programme gets approved in time so that the applicants can start their course.

DilemmaDelilah · 13/10/2023 05:44
  1. Why can't I get back to sleep - been awake 3 hours!
  2. Will I survive this cancer
Towerofsong · 13/10/2023 02:07

I'm so sorry and sending thoughts to those who have been bereaved, or are facing the prospect of bereavement or serious illness.

For me, it's the situation in Israel, I have family and friends there. They are safe but definitely not OK. I've been in shock and grief all week at the barbarism.

I can't eat or sleep properly. Worrying about those poor kids in Gaza.

Hoping that the fury subsides so that sense prevails in Israel's response. Hoping that there isn't yet more endless cycles of suffering of innocent people caught up in an impossible geopolitical situation, just trying to get on with their lives.

Fury at seeing people celebrating the deaths of Jews in Britain and around the world. All the comments on social media saying it's justified because of x,y, z. People and organisations that won't stand up and call terrorism what it is for fear of causing offence or being seen to take a side...what the actual fuck, you are actually worried about staying on good terms with people who support a massacre?!!!!!???

Desperately sad that 20 years ago when I converted to Judaism, antisemitism in the UK was pretty much something of the past and now it is rife.

I am pleased at Rishi Sunak's response, out of the whole mess this country is in, that at least shows morals and leadership.

Notcontent · 13/10/2023 01:53

my worries are so similar:

  • my teen dd - her mental health and future
  • dealing with menopause and feeling like my life has been wasted
  • worrying about my parents
  • all the conflict in the world right now and climate change
PeopleAreWeird · 13/10/2023 01:47

@Lubrana061302 Im so sorry to hear what you are going through

I have my partner but i know he wont be able to come with it at all

Lubrana061302 · 13/10/2023 01:42

Thank you @coxesorangepippin 🙏🏻

@PeopleAreWeird I'm so sorry to hear that. It's such a scary situation. Do you have a good support network around you? 💞

Nooshoos123 · 13/10/2023 01:41

Lubrana061302 · 13/10/2023 01:36

We've just found out my husband has liver cancer and it's spread to his lung. He's 37 years old and we have 3 young children. 4, 5 & 6 years old.

I’m so sorry, how utterly awful x

PeopleAreWeird · 13/10/2023 01:39

So sorry Lubrana061302

PeopleAreWeird · 13/10/2023 01:37

I may have cancer

Im not even 40

coxesorangepippin · 13/10/2023 01:37

Lubrana

My thoughts are with you all 💐

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