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To ask What's the most pressing thing on your mind at the moment?

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girlfriend44 · 12/10/2023 20:17

What's happening in your life?
What's your most pressing worry at the moment and how do you distract yourself from thinking about it, if you can that is?

OP posts:
Doihavetogotoworkdotcom1 · 13/10/2023 20:02

Worn down by constant harassment by neighbour. We have sent the police all cctv footage so just waiting for an outcome now.

C6H12O6 · 13/10/2023 19:55

My worries are nothing compared to what is going on in the real world but (and I’ve told no one) … I’m in love with my best friend and have been for the last 2 years.

We are both married, nothing at all untoward has happened, nor will it. But I love him and it kills be every single day.

bluevelvetbox · 13/10/2023 19:36

My noisy upstairs neighbours. Small in comparison to a lot of posters on here though.

NewName122 · 13/10/2023 19:22

That I need to go to the doctors to find out why it causes me such pain to go to the bathroom. Usually it's just when I'm on my period but it's getting to be all the time. Annoying.

LegendsBeyond · 13/10/2023 19:20

Health issues
Terminally ill relative
Israel

MaMisled · 13/10/2023 18:52

Reassuring my lovely DH that I love him dearly and I'm not going anywhere. I had a Bipolar related breakdown over the summer and caused him a world of hurt, convinced I wanted to start a new life. I don't, we're generally sooo happy together. I couldn't love him any more than I do and want him to believe that.

Gowlett · 13/10/2023 18:49

What the make my toddler for dinner tonight.

Lilibert456 · 13/10/2023 18:48

How much longer can my son keep living with his batshit wife who causes him so much stress and anxiety.

Tonty · 13/10/2023 18:45

My health and the fact I can't go back to the career i used to do anymore.

catlovingdoctor · 13/10/2023 18:44

The awful suffering in Gaza- just horrendous

TweedTart · 13/10/2023 18:43

I’m grieving. I lost someone close 2 years ago and it’s still on my mind all the time. Work is my distraction. Weekends are harder.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 13/10/2023 18:42

My elderly mum and that I'll never be able to get on the property ladder now I'm 42

Capz · 13/10/2023 18:37

A very close relative who is on bail and will be jailed for offences that I can't forgive and whether there will ever be a time I will speak to them again, and all of the impact this situation is having on everyone else in the family

I'm trying to focus on my kids tbh who don't know about this yet but will have to in the future

BellaVita · 13/10/2023 18:29

I worry all the time about DS1 (26). He was diagnosed 15 months ago with a grade 4 glioblastoma. Whilst he is fit and well atm it is like a ticking time bomb waiting to go off.

My granddaughter 11 months old (DS2 and partner) keeps me going. She is like a bright shiny star and the light of our lives.

Moveoverdarlin · 13/10/2023 18:22

Getting a job. I’m a SAHM at the moment and I really need to get back out there for my own sanity and our finances. But I’ve lost my confidence and think no one would want me.

Noleafclover1 · 13/10/2023 18:19

Climate change
Awful events in Israel and Palestine
The possibility of Trump getting in again

The implications of all the above for my children's future

Distractions - gym, work, scrolling Mumsnet...

Validus · 13/10/2023 18:09

Whether DD1 will get one of the state schools she needs.
Linked to that, whether I have to continue in a job in starting to dislike for another 7 years to pay for private school.
Finding time for my degree.
Sorting the garden out.
Finishing building the bike shed.

Original poster
girlfriend44 · 13/10/2023 17:53

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OP posts:
TurquoiseMermaid · 13/10/2023 15:28

My lovely kitten has a terminal illness.

There are much bigger things in the world but it's just so shitty. I have animals who are very elderly and still in perfect health who aren't really that friendly or cuddly, and it's just so so shit and unfair that the best pet I've ever seen, the most friendly, most loving, most affectionate little creature who just wants to be cuddled and sleep on my lap or in my hand every moment doesn't even get to celebrate her first birthday.

C1N1C · 13/10/2023 10:09

Goldfishonabike · 12/10/2023 21:08

…most of us worry about our relationship, children and wars. Same as women have worried about through all
time. Wonder what a list would
look like for men?

Speaking as a man (as you indirectly 'asked')...

Unemployment is a big one. That fear of not being able to take care of the family... As I found out recently.

Goneforaride · 13/10/2023 10:06

DH's mounting health issues, hospital appointments and tests, waiting for results and more appointments to see what (if anything) can be done to help him. Getting him on board with helping himself by actually committing to doing the things the doctors are recommending. Feel like I'm climbing an endless spiral staircase!! Also, now my friends are starting to tell me I look skinny and washed out (I've dropped nearly a stone in the last year - and I was on the slim side before) ... but I'm not surprised. Worry and not sleeping adding up to incurable tiredness.

I get past it by walking my dog twice a day, as we're lucky to live in a nice rural area with good walks, meeting friends for coffee/lunch (I'm retired), trying to keep the house from getting too squalid, having an occasional G&T.

Thank you for starting this thread - it's been therapeutic just to rite that down.

TammyJones · 13/10/2023 09:56

thishasnotmyweek · 13/10/2023 07:56

I’m mainly worrying now about

My friend who has been arrested in a foreign country for something stupid but serious and if they are okay / what is going to happen to them

How lonely my mum is and how it’s partly my fault because I moved away. What will happen when she needs help.

I’ve had an argument with my sister and I’m not sure it can be repaired, but I miss her :(

Please reach out to your sister ... I miss mine everyday

TammyJones · 13/10/2023 09:54

shalva · 13/10/2023 06:19

So many,
my son in law who was called up to reserve duty and not knowing where he is.
my daughter trying to hold it together for our grandchilden
The parents of friends whose funeral for their 19 year old soldier son was this week
My dear dear friend who has had no contact with her child since saturday
Another daughter living close to central Israel with young children who has only left the house this week to run to the bomb shelter
The faces of the familes that have been evacuated to our small village from the troubled areas..
so much more to write but you get thet the picture..we are heartbroken, our souls are broken ...

I hear you Flowers

EasternStandard · 13/10/2023 09:51

The state of the world and current atrocities

TammyJones · 13/10/2023 09:51

Lubrana061302 · 13/10/2023 01:36

We've just found out my husband has liver cancer and it's spread to his lung. He's 37 years old and we have 3 young children. 4, 5 & 6 years old.

Oh lovely
I'm so sorry FlowersFlowers

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