Partner doesn't know where he was ??

so where did he travel from to get home to you? that is where he stayed!! definitely cheated I would say!

He knows where he was, but he doesn't want you to know. It's not good.

but surely he knows how he got home from there

Exactly!

I would be insulted that he thought I was gullible enough to believe he’s woken up and got himself home but can’t remember it.

Its BS and he could have at least come up with a lie which would be less insulting than acting like you’re stupid.

Please don't feel embarrassed that you were worried. You behaved exactly as a loving partner and a decent human being is supposed to behave. It's him that didn't. If he cheated, I hope he feels guilty for the infidelity, but it's the fact that he let you worry in that way that I would find really hard to forgive.

Well, I guess he could have got so blackout drunk he can't remember details, sure. But at the very least, he knows where he woke up and made his way home from. And his refusal to tell you that is a very bad sign.

If he has Google maps on his phone it will show where he was in his timeline.

He’s a liar.

Its one thing to not remember all of the bars you’ve visited but you would definitely remember where you woke up.

I would be wary of his friends too, as they probably know more than they’re letting on.

Let’s assume he got a spiked drink so he blacked out and woke up in a random location, he did not knew where he was, how he got there
but surely he knows how he got home from there
”don’t know” is a blatant lie that makes you suspicious
he couldn’t even get a proper cover story
sp you texted his mates and his family, that’s actually great, let him deal with the fall out of that
im not saying divorce, but don’t let him off the hook easily - even if he didn’t cheat, so you really want to be with someone that disappears to party for no reason ?

He clearly thinks you are stupid. His can't remember story is pathetic. He woke up somewhere. His friends will know if he left with someone but they won't tell you.

If he has an iPhone you can go on locations and sometimes it shows where you have been - like a history. I mean - surely he should be worried and want to know what happened too?
unless he has been spiked then it’s just nonsense. What did he say about his whereabouts when he woke to make his way home?
sounds like a shithead but I could be wrong…

How did he get home? Drive/walk/public transport?

Tell him obviously you can’t go near him if he’s clearly been sticking it somewhere he shouldn’t have been. It’s a matter of your health as well as basic respect for you that he doesn’t stay out all night.

I'm so sorry OP. The likely cheating and going AWOL is bad enough but lying to your face like that and expecting you to believe it is beyond the pale, so insulting. I might try and save an otherwise wonderful relationship after a drunken one night stand, if the man was honest and on his hands and knees in remorse. In your case the lying would be enough to throw him out.

Obviously he knows where he woke up this morning or how the fuck else did he get home? He would know something. And his friends "loosing" him during the night is BS too. If your mate disappeared out of the blue you would be worried and you'd be checking your phone, they'd have seen your calls. More likely they know he went home with someone and don't want to say.

You may not be with it enough to know where you are when you fall asleep drunk, but you sure as hell are sober enough when you wake up to figure it out!

If he has an iphone, he may not know about location history - Check iphone location history

What an idiot he is, blacked out so much that the next thing he remembers is being on his front door step.

I'm the last person to check my DH phone, but in this situation I'd be asking for it to be handed over, checking location and his text messages for that night.

He doesn't know where he woke up?? Oh aye.

So if he didn’t cheat (he did) what he’s suggesting is that he got SO drunk that it completely wiped his memory.
So 1 - he’s a cheat or a moron
And 2 - he’ll do it again

Well how did he get home from wherever he was?! Walk? Then how can he not know where he started his walk from?
Taxi/lift, surley he knows where he called for the taxi/lift to?

What type of phone does he have? Any chance he's got a Google account signed into it? I think he's full of crap and you'll only find out the truth by looking for it yourself, doubt very much he's going to suddenly tell you anything

How did he get home? He must know the address.

I could understand if he couldn't recall which pubs/clubs they went to, but it sounds to me like he is lying.

Do you love him? Is your relationship worth saving?

If not split and divorce - no fault is easiest I think. If it is worth saving get into counselling and find out what he was doing. He's an idiot for not telling you and pretending he doesn't know what he was doing...

What would I do? Disbelieve him, he's obviously lying. Tell him he needs to improve his technique and prepare to LTB.

It's either what you are thinking or he needs his brain checked up. Could be early onset Alzheimer's

You can definitely forget certain parts of the night if you're very drunk but the fact is he would have sobered up to some extent when he woke up and he would have known where he was.

If he has a smart phone his location history/Google maps history will show him where he was.

@Lauryn95 him being so shitfaced drunk he doesn't know where he went and how he got there was believable but it stops when he still claims that by noon the next day.

He knows exactly where he woke up and who he woke up with.

If it was just on the floor/sofa of a mate, he would have said so.

NOT innocent.

I’d be insulted that he’d think I was stupid enough to believe his pathetic lies.

He knows where he was. He doesn’t want you to know where he was.