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Train etiquette

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Mummyneedsacoffee · 09/10/2023 08:25

My partner and I just had a weekend away (which was utterly amazing)

Our journey home was via a two hour train journey, we had booked this train but not any specific seats. It’s apparent this was a very very busy train and we ended up walking through several carriages to find some empty seats.

my partner finally found a table with 4 seats available (we only needed two) and sat down. A lady further up the carriage comes strutting towards us and says “actually .. I was going to sit there”

my partner doesn’t like causing a scene and just got up. I said “we can actually sit here” (there was two of them and two of us) and she starts going off on one saying how she was going to sit there and how she had got up because she thought she was on the wrong train so she was entitled to the seats .. blah blah blah.

AIBU? We could have all sat there?! And even if only two seats were left… she got up and left them (I didn’t even know she had sat there before!) this woman was still ranting as I was walking to find other seats… the train was busy so she surely can’t expect 4 seats for just two of them?!

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Whataretheodds · 09/10/2023 09:33

She was being ridiculous. I'd have said "that's fine, there are still 2 seats left" and left it up to her if she wanted to sit back down or not.

Rewindthefilm · 09/10/2023 09:33

Unless she had reserved all four seats, there’s no reason why she had to declare anything!

ActDottie · 09/10/2023 09:33

She was being an entitled twat. I wouldn’t have moved for her no way!

Mummyneedsacoffee · 09/10/2023 09:30

No need to call me pathetic… that’s abit over the top 🙄

I moved because I couldn’t be arsed to listen to her moan at me and it wasn’t worth the drama she was causing

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Polopolly · 09/10/2023 09:27

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GrandHighPoohbah · 09/10/2023 09:26

I would have just said "We got here first, but you're welcome to take the other 2", whilst steadfastly not moving.

Topseyt123 · 09/10/2023 09:21

Why on earth did you move for her? I wouldn't have. If the seat isn't actually reserved for anyone then it's first come first served.

You should have been assertive and refused to move.

Mummyneedsacoffee · 09/10/2023 09:15

I think I was more shocked at her pure entitlement!

i found seats further down but could still hear her moaning about me trying to take her seats!

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AlwaysPrettyOnTheInside · 09/10/2023 08:34

I wouldn't have moved, I'd have laughed at her ffs.

Ponoka7 · 09/10/2023 08:30

She's took her annoyance of thinking that she was on the wrong train out on you. Someone else would have come along after you and sat in the seats you left. She wouldn't have made the journey pleasant. It wasn't worth the hassle.

VeridicalVagabond · 09/10/2023 08:30

Of course she was being a twat.

DustyLee123 · 09/10/2023 08:28

If your arse is on the seat, it’s yours. I’d have told her to piss off.

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