Been seeing a man for a few months. He has his 16 year old son (who has autism) living with him full time. His son is in full time education.
the guy I’ve been seeing does not work or have any ambition to and makes various excuses as to why. I suggested a work from home job, a school hours job etc. no. Has to ‘be there for his son’ who is in full time education everyday…
he drops his son to school in the morning then goes to the gym and swimming and spa etc before going to see a friend for a coffee or having a drive around etc. he is very happy taking any hand out he can get and is constantly checking if he can claim anything else.
also his flat is a mess, shoes and clutter everywhere, dirty, clothes in bags (can’t be bothered to purchase wardrobes or a shoe rack). Dark, keeps curtains shut all day, all surfaces full of clutter, letters etc…it seems that even with all that free time in the days, that cleaning isn’t a priority either. Seems all he does in the evenings is watch Tv and play his games console.
it’s starting to make me a little resentful as I’m a single parent to a teen also and work full time and run a business AND keep on top of the house and sons sports commitments etc. and he doesn’t seem to understand or empathise with how busy I am… constantly texting me whilst I’m working 12 hour shifts, telling me about his gym workout or that he’s at costa having a coffee etc.
I feel he should have a little more ambition and not use his son as a reason/excuse to live like this and feel I’m wasting my time on this man. He just seems like he wants the easiest life he can possibly have all round. AIBU to want a man with more oomph? Would you find a man like this off-putting or am I just being petty?
first post on here but have been a reader for years. Thanks in advance for your opinions x