Do I forgive this?

Agreed. This is absolutely what you should do.

I’m not at all confrontational but in this instance I would struggle not to message telling her that if she brought her horrible, bullying spoiled brat near my dc’s safe space again I would go out there and tell her exactly what I thought of her disgusting behaviour.

The audacity of the woman.

Hell would freeze over before I'd forgive them turning up at my house.

Seeking to make amends, writing letters, maybe I could have over time come to terms with them if I felt there was genuine remorse and slowly reintroduced them. I've dealt with a situation (not as bad as that) but involving low level bullying of my DD by a friend and her mother and over time and when it was clear the child was truly remorseful we did get past it, slowly slowly.

But turning up on your doorstep is unbelievably intrusive. Forcing you to confront something which is very clearly traumatic for both of you without checking first is unbelievably entitled and selfish. They can both get in the fucking bin for that.

As others have said I'd write a short, dignified note saying: "We appreciate the gesture but this has been a very traumatic experience for both of us, we've moved on and the time to move amicably past this has now passed. Please don't contact us or come to our house again."

Yeah that's the dignified stance we should probably all aim for in situations like this.

unfortunately the time to have sorted this out amicable has passed. At this point we'd like to move forward. So thank you so much for your picture but please don't come to the house or contact me again.

See, I'd like to be this dignified. Unfortunately, I'd probably just send a message saying fuck off.

Fuck that shit

I would send her mother a text saying to not contact you or your daughter ever again. Then you have it in writing.

Then if she pulls any more shit consider your options. But once you have it that you've told them to leave you alone there's no ambiguity

Hope your daughters okay.

I think I'd have replied in the first instance to say -

unfortunately the time to have sorted this out amicable has passed. At this point we'd like to move forward. So thank you so much for your picture but please don't come to the house or contact me again.

and block.

Personally, I'd be sending a message saying that's highly inappropriate and to stay away after all the damage that was caused, especially when she stuck her head in the sand about it. Bloody audacity of her coming to your door.

I hope your wee girl is okay, and you. That's a lot to take on and process for you all. ❤️

Not good enough. This is just an extension of the bullying actually, which the mother continues to enable. The mother is where the unfortunate daughter learned her selfish and manipulative behaviour. I'd write back to the mother and tell her that an actual acknowledgement of the bullying and an apology - from both the daughter and the mother - is the only appropriate communication, and that anything other than that is harassment.

See, I think you should

Very politely explaining that DD had to move schools because of the way she was treated by supposed 'friends' and she is making a fresh start with all the unhappiness behind her. She is now blossoming and you have no intention of taking her back to that very unhappy time

I’d return the note through door with a note of my own saying “My DD has moved on and has no wish to re-visit what was a very difficult time for her. Please stop contacting us as the friendship will not be resuming”.

If they’re turning up at your door I’d be instructing a solicitor to write to them and tell them to stop harassing me and my child. I wouldn’t be rushing to forgive and forget.

Your daughter has to change schools and you're even entertaining indulging this nasty piece of work and her child.

Throw letter in the bin where it belongs.

The woman has raised a brat and the brat is stamping her foot because she wants to see your daughter, possibly because she has bullied other children and remembers your daughter as being an easy target as she was able to bully her over a along period of time.

The mother wants to indulge her and that's why they turned up at your door.

They have no shame.

Do not ever let either of them into your life again.

No way! Noooooo way! Well done to you for moving her away from it. That mum clearly needs telling straight. You have nothing to lose by doing so

Is the letter you received today an apology?

God no, and I'd go mental at her having the cheek to even suggest it!

I couldn't forgive that. Definitely not being unreasonable. Chuck the note away

Is that mum insane? Your daughter had to leave her school because of her daughter and she's bringing her round to the house?