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To hate driving so much

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hgbjhgb · 05/10/2023 21:44

I passed my test around 7 years ago now, and I still hate driving so much that I avoid it as much as possible. I have the car I always wanted growing up (a Mini Cooper) sitting on my driveway fully taxed and insured that I walk past to take the bus, when driving would save me over an hour each morning.

I constantly feel like I'm going to crash my car, or end up hurting someone. I'm observant but terrified to drive in my car alone as I don't trust myself to notice everything. People who sit in the car with me say I'm a good driver, and they don't know why I worry.

It's like it just doesn't come naturally to me, none of it. I don't know why I struggle so much with it. I'm educated with two degrees, I'm responsible and cautious but not hesitant. I just hate it so much

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AllUmder · 05/10/2023 21:55

This does sound extreme. I get a bit nervous driving somewhere really busy but I'm still a confident driver, as in, I don't feel I'm going to crash!

Could you do some extra driving lessons, like an advanced course, to get more confident?

When I first passed, I remember driving absolutely loads, Cotswolds to Brighton, Manchester to Swansea etc, as growing up my mum would only ever drive around our town and I wanted to prove to myself I wouldn't be like that!

78Summer · 05/10/2023 21:55

I was the same. Had some top up lessons and now I am back in the car. You will be fine as you are so careful and thoughtful.

Fieldofbrokenpromises · 05/10/2023 21:54

What’s the issue here? You seem to be reasonably settled without driving. Do you want to drive more?

BunnyMummy91 · 05/10/2023 21:48

I feel like you should speak to someone (not in a horrible way at all) but maybe there is some underlying reason or something sounds like extreme anxiety, the fact you passed your test shows you can do it! Not pretending I love driving if I have a choice my partner is the driver but I still drive every day to work etc! If something is impacting your life it will benefit you to change it 🙏🏻 good luck!
Just to add on my first car and dream car was also a mini cooper 👌

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