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Headlice infestation & wedding day

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Foxyfoxyfox · 05/10/2023 12:44

My wedding is a week away. I’m having my hair professionally styled on the day. Just found lots of headlice in my DD’s hair. Checked mine and I have lots too. Neither of us have been itchy. I have lots of thick long hair. Even if I can get all the lice I’m never going to get all the eggs out before my wedding. AIBU to cancel the stylist? I don’t think I can live with the shame of her finding any

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ToadOnTheHill · 05/10/2023 17:47

You can get rid of them within a week, easily.

Who ever is saying just go, they've seen it all before, I'm sorry but that's fucking disgusting. Nobody wants to style hair with a live louse infection.

Hair stylists haven't signed up for that and you should be ashamed if you think it's ok to go with an active infection.

ghostyslovesheets · 05/10/2023 17:36

Hedrin - only thing that ever worked when mine where little - top tip, when removing do not wet the hair - just massage a shed load of cheep shampoo in first - then rinse - it's stops it being greasy.

zilchnadazero · 05/10/2023 17:25

Not necessary dramatic, more of a health and safety issue. Its actually a contra indication to do someones hair when they have head lice and it could render the hairdressers insurance invalid. The hair stylist will have covered this in their training and may not want to risk their entire livelihood.
Personally I wouldn't but I do know fellow hair stylists who have. Always better to be honest though I think.

Runnersandtoms · 05/10/2023 17:15

Some people are being way overdramatic about the stylist not wanting to touch you. Unless she's planning to rub her head on yours she can't catch them from you!

Nitty gritty comb every day will get them gone within a week, or at least get it so the only ones are the tiniest ones she won't see. Keep going every day until you see nothing on the comb.

GrimDamnFanjo · 05/10/2023 16:12

Hedrin once with a nittygritty comb. Do this everyday and you'll be fine.

Okaaaay · 05/10/2023 15:58

Don’t cancel OP, we have got you! Do the tonne-of-conditioner-comb first, then the treatment. Then comb daily and have your DP / a willing child pull the rest out. Sit watching TV, they get a torch and a comb - every time they find one, slide it off the hair with tweezers and wipe onto tissue. You’ll be free enough by next week then not to worry. This is what the companies who do lice removal do (speaking of which, that’s also an option - one in SEL and Harrogate that I know of)

stillplentyofjunkinthetrunk · 05/10/2023 15:56

lots of conditioner and a nitty gritty comb. Call in support from your favourite support human(s) have someone combing your hair whilst you comb your daughter's.

rinse comb in a pot of hot water, have plenty of towels around

Watch silly movies on tv and don't stress about it too much

cathcath2 · 05/10/2023 15:55

If you are at home, brush your hair over the bath straight away. Some of the biggest lice will fall out. I can't use any of the treatment shampoos (v sensitive skin) so I can't comment on those. Loads of conditioner, a normal comb, then a nit comb, then a nitty gritty comb every night. You will soon break the life cycle. But please tell your stylist. She will probably be fine with it but she will be able to take extra precautions.

WhamBamThankU · 05/10/2023 15:50

My DD had them for ages years ago, all the usual treatments didn't work and I was combing them out every day. Eventually found the tip online of using washing up liquid. It suffocates the lice.

Mikimoto · 05/10/2023 15:39

What band have you got for your wedding?
Red Hot Chili Peppers, featuring Flea?

CrazyHamsterLady · 05/10/2023 15:31

She probably won’t do your hair if you’ve got loads of eggs. On the other hand, I’m sure you can get rid of it all in a week as there’s some pretty strong solutions out there. Can DP help you comb out the eggs? DH and I had an unexpected infestation about 4 years ago (we suspect it was DSS who brought them with him!!) DH shaved his own head and also spent a couple of hours with a nit comb sorting out my hair. Conditioner made the job a lot easier. It was fine.

ActDottie · 05/10/2023 15:26

I would t cancel the stylist. Just make sure you have an up do for the day.

Also you have a week that’s long enough, do daily or twice daily comb throughs with a bit comb and you’ll get lots of them.

Girlking · 05/10/2023 15:21

I haven’t read the full thread so don’t know if someone has already suggested to use hair straighteners and all lice and eggs will be obliterated immediately !

thenightsky · 05/10/2023 15:21

Zola1 · 05/10/2023 12:53

Hedrin, the overnight one, and then combing every day...and maybe another hedrin treatment if you can fit it in before the wedding

Definitely this. Hedrin overnight is brilliant.

123becauseicouldntthinkofone · 05/10/2023 15:15

I also recommend straightening long hair in small sections as the straightners fry the eggs

gotomomo · 05/10/2023 15:13

Get the proper headlice treatment for the whole household, also wash bedding. Then daily use lots of conditioner (tea tree oil conditioner, just the cheap stuff is ideal) and a nit comb daily including behind ears as this is where they seem to hide.

ManyATrueWord · 05/10/2023 15:10

I've been a Nitty Gritty fan for years but apparently they get less effective. Just switched to this:

Nitbusters Infinity Stainless... https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07ZD8NZYM?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

Very embarrassed about the amount I got out of my hair today. I thought we were on top of it.

DrPsy · 05/10/2023 15:09

All of this. Also, if you have the time/patience remove each egg with tweezers by pulling the egg down the hair shaft. It will take AGES and you will probably have to ask someone to help you do yours, but from experience (with long thick hair) it’s very effective

SaffronSpice · 05/10/2023 15:03

Oysterbabe · 05/10/2023 12:50

A week is enough time to get rid of them.

A week is not enough time to get rid completely - you need to keep going for a good couple of weeks combing every other night. So continue when you are on honeymoon. They will mostly be gone in a week though; after that it is about catching the odd egg you’ve missed to stop them repopulating your head

Latenightreader · 05/10/2023 15:03

Does anyone else have a really itchy head after reading this thread?

I can’t suggest anything that hasn’t already been said. Best of luck OP - you can do this!

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 05/10/2023 15:00

Ditto to the Hedrin overnight one. Invest in some really cheap shower caps (Boots) to contain it.

Maray1967 · 05/10/2023 14:57

Readeatcake · 05/10/2023 12:51

You can have them all out in a week, I would go straight in with a professional treatment shampoo/spray to kill them all.

Yes natural treatments are better but you want something 100% effective right away.

Then do the wet combing with conditioner every night up until the wedding. If possible do it twice a night.

Exactly this. Attack first with the Hedrin and then conditioner every day afterwards. Hedrin killed my DSs invaders in one go - we conditioned for days afterwards and found nothing live. Within a few days he was clear.

Xiaoxiong · 05/10/2023 14:56

I agree with a week of intensive treatment - having had some unfortunate experience with this with multiple heads in the family needing treating at the same time!

I threw EVERYTHING at the problem and within 2 days wasn't getting any more nits or eggs on the comb (but kept combing for days, just in case).

Day 1: Hedrin Once/Full Marks/Nitwits, follow instructions on the box, comb comb comb with a Nitty Gritty comb.
Day 2, 3, 4 and 5: comb every night!
Day 6: Another treatment with your chemical of choice, leave to sit, comb out with conditioner
Day 7: Nit-free wedding day :-)

crumblingschools · 05/10/2023 14:56

Let the stylist know. I have had to do the walk of shame at the hairdressers before when didn't know we had nits

TSJ19 · 05/10/2023 14:54

Nitwits worked best for us. We had them really bad last summer.

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