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Disillusionedthesedays · 05/10/2023 12:24

I live next door to a barking dog. It's driving me nuts. It's certainly not all day. But at least 7 to 10 times a day, it gets set off and barks almost constantly for between 5 and 15 minutes.

I used to brush it off, but recently it's been annoying me more and more. I think the reason I'm increasingly annoyed by it is because of the dog's situation. My neighbour lives in a small flat, with a small yard. She has 3 large dogs, including a rescue doberman (doing the barking). She works out of the home during the day, and sometimes lives away from home for several days to help manage the family business. Last month she was living at the bedsit for 2 weeks while her family were away, before going on holiday herself for a week.

When she is out of the house, she has a family friend come over and sit with the dogs. He is an old man whose only counter is to shout "stop barking!" To which the dog invariably shouts back. I understand she takes him to dog training once a week but he is upset by any outdoor noise.

I don't see her walk the dogs and as far as i know they are walked rarely, and left to run in circles round the small yard (barking). We walk our cockapoo 4-5 times a day so know most of the local walkers and don't see our neighbours out walking.

So while the noise is annoying, I'm also annoyed by the dogs' situation, which I suspect worries me more. The trouble is I actually really like my neighbour. She is very sweet, with various health issues herself. She has no kids and has told me that her dogs are her babies and she seems to love them lots.

We've discussed the barking. She asks me to let her know when they bark, but I would be literally messaging her several times every day. And when I do message her, she just calls the old man and he squirts water at the dog or takes him inside. I tend to call her when it's been going on for more than 10 minutes or if it is after 10pm when it wakes my kids. It often starts early, before 7am and last week he was barking c. midnight.

So my question is - should i be taking action? Reporting her or forcing the issue, even if it affects our good relationship? Or should I let (barking) sleeping dogs lie?

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Hello1989 · 25/10/2023 06:59

Hey yes I had a simialr situation (not sure where you live) but I lived at the time in south london, you report to your council and animal cruelty services it comes through completely anonymous and they will send someone around to asses whether it’s suitable or not. Poor dogs!

Poppysmom22 · 06/10/2023 19:04

5 times a day though when is it learning to just be calm

DisquietintheRanks · 06/10/2023 19:03

Poppysmom22 · 06/10/2023 18:59

You walk a cockerpoo 5 times a day wtf for it's a cockerpoo

My sil has a cockerpoo and it's one of the most high energy dog I've ever met. Both cocker spaniels and poodles were bred as working dogs, they have plenty of energy and stamina.

Poppysmom22 · 06/10/2023 18:59

You walk a cockerpoo 5 times a day wtf for it's a cockerpoo

mapleriver · 06/10/2023 18:45

The council, the RSPCA are useless even when a dog is being neglected. Council have been great, dog noise is taken more seriously than it used to be as it should be.

Precious1243 · 06/10/2023 18:37

I think you are disgusting. Sorry but if an old woman was my neighbour and she didn't have any family just her dogs i would work with her not against her. I think her company is more important than you and your peace and quiet. Don't pull me apart it's my opinion but she seems to want to work with you not against you. 😑

MaryLea · 06/10/2023 17:44

Who did you report it to? The RSPCA or local council?

mapleriver · 06/10/2023 13:41

Yes report it, I'm going through the same thing with my neighbour's dog scream barking from 8am to 10am every day (I'm SAHM) and it drives me mental. They'll probably send you a link to a noise recording app, and you record it for a week and then they will send a letter. After sending a letter if it doesn't change, they'll come out to listen to it themselves with two people, and then issue a noise abatement order. Barking for longer than 20 minutes at a time is considered a noise nuisance, and they can go to court if they breach the abatement order. Don't put up with this, it's not fair. They used audio of rabbits screaming in war to get people to surrender, repeated noise is torture and you don't have to put up with it.

MaryLea · 06/10/2023 13:17

One thing I would say, however, is that reporting your neighbour will not help the dogs, as the RSPCA will do nothing at all.

MaryLea · 06/10/2023 13:10

Your neighbour may say she loves the dogs like they were her babies, that doesn't make her sweet. Thank goodness she doesn't have actual babies if that's how she treats dogs. She's in over her head and clearly shouldn't have the dogs as she has no notion how to look after them.

SquirrelFeeder · 06/10/2023 09:14

I'm just stunned that your dog manages to go for a walk 4-5 times per day 😳 We have a dog roughly the same size as yours and he'd collapse if he went for a walk that many times per day. Even when he was a puppy. He gets a 1 hour walk once per day and sleeps for 3 hours afterwards every single time. Fit as a fiddle

Puffinsandcreeks · 06/10/2023 09:12

It's interesting that you say we walk our dog too much. It's only a 10 minute route that we do 4 to 5 times a day because she doesn't use the garden much for toilet so we try to take her out when she looks desperate. But maybe a longer walk and less often might be better for her?

Ah I thought you meant you walked her for longer periods 4 - 5 times per day where she was running around which would be way too much. Yes I'd say one or two longer walks, less frequently, in different (varied) areas would be better and more enriching for her. You can always do a utility walk up and down the road outside of this if she won't toilet in the garden.

namechange55465 · 06/10/2023 09:00

YANBU but walking your dog for 10 minutes at a time on the same route is not great either.

AbbeyGailsParty · 06/10/2023 08:57

Phone the council. I had to download an app, record the batting and send, it recorded decibels and was time stamped. Neighbour had warning letter from council. She didn’t know it was me , I’d tried to help her with the dog but she didn’t want to know.

Dream246 · 06/10/2023 08:52

I think it's a tricky one as others have said we all do make noise but I can sympathise with you as our neighbour as 3 big dogs that at one point were outside all day barking and she never told them to stop. They are not approachable people at all so my only option was to report them to the council. We also had to keep a log and write down all the times they were barking and how long it went on for. The council then sent them a letter saying they had been reported and if they didn't curb it to a reasonable level then they could be issued with a large fine. Since then the bankable is at a normal level. As for kids being noisy in the garden, i can't imagine they are out there all day due to school etc and as long as they aren't out there at 6am or 10pm screaming and shouting then again it's really classed as normal kids playing in their garden!

TruckerDave · 06/10/2023 08:46

Oh, wow, touchy subject for me this and just had to comment lol! I've just moved house and was surrounded on ALL sides by houses with barking yapping dogs, it causes misery! Even visitors would wince and comment on the noise from them 😔 If it wasn't one barking at one time it was the other. Made a complaint to housing who issued letters, then talking with said neighbours they'd mention it "oooh we got a letter about the dog barking, it's not ours tho ours is quite quiet!" Errr, it IS yours mate/love, it's all of yours! And that's the problem, it's like dog owners become "ear blind" to their own dog's bloody incessant yapping!

5-15 mins / 7-10 times per day??! Taking the absolute p*ss that! Imagine if I revved my car for 5-10 mins per day 7-10 times per day, I think I'd be issued a noise abatement order and if ignored then brought before the courts for antisocial behaviour pretty damn sharpish! No neighbour is backwards coming forwards when they have an issue, I've noticed that over the years, no matter how nice you are (and I am nice!) Once, last year, my neighbour, (with a yapping dog every damn day) once came out to me telling me to stop making noise as her husband was in bed as up early as soon as I used an angle grinder one summer's evening at 7pm for 5 minutes! And another, at the back complained and we got a letter from housing as a result... cos we DARED have 1 small party (the first and ONLY party in 4 years!) That was in all of 2 years being there til midnight out the garden in the summer on a Saturday evening! And who complained? One of the yappy dog owners with 3 yappy shitzus! The nerve!

End of the day, and this is for any of you dog owners reading this, if you choose to have a dog, that's YOUR perogative, life choice/hobby/interest, whatever, you don't NEED that dog, (The blind excluded obviously!) It's a life choice, So, it's YOUR responsibility to make sure that dog is not a nuisance due to barking, this is YOUR responsibility, you have a duty of respect to your neighbours, you have a dog and it's your responsibility to care for, feed properly, walk regularly and put the time in to train them yourself OR pay for proper training / walking service, but you are bang out of order if you think it's OK or just do nothing about your dog and expect your neighbours to live with your dog as well and its noise pollution too, and to anyone reading this if you let this happen you deserve all the grief you get for doing so and being so damn selfish and c*nty! Rant over! 😆 seriously tho, if you've tried all reasonable communications with your neighbour then you have no real choice other than to complain to council and insist they come and do a sound level measurement for the frequency of the barking (read up on this, google it) and if is deemed excessive, they will pursue her over it, it either stops, or the dogs have to go! Good luck! 👍

Coolblur · 06/10/2023 08:31

Universalsnail what effect did reporting it have for you?

Coolblur · 06/10/2023 08:29

Speak to her first, ideally directly, but if you don't like 'confrontation' then message her. For some reason no one ever does this, but the reality is that it's the best way to try to resolve the issue.

You could report to the council regarding the noise issue, but all they will do is send a letter. How would you feel if a neighbour had the local authority send you a letter saying one of your neighbours reported you for something? I think it's very likely to cause upset, but unlikely to change things.

You could report to the dog warden or an animal charity, but as the pets are looked after (you said she has someone sit with them when she's out), there's nothing they will do.

barneythedino · 06/10/2023 08:26

I work for my councils dog warden service. We would tell you this is a problem for the anti social behaviour team.

Roxydenn · 06/10/2023 08:21

You can report all you want, nothing will happen.

Toenailz · 06/10/2023 08:07

I had a neighbour comment that the reason my foster dogs were behaving poorly (nothing to impact her, toileting problems) was because they aren't walked enough. She's a self proclaimed dog trainer (though with no qualifications that I know of. Apparently, they should be going for really long walks every day (hours over big distances)

They're rescues that arrived 2 weeks ago, and 5 months old, and haven't lived in a house. It's very well known puppies shouldn't be 'walking for hours' every day, even more so when they're a flight risk, haven't ever worn a collar + lead (or in our case harness and lead) nevermind so much as been taken for a walk before they arrived, and scream as soon as they plonk their arse putting pressure on lead themselves.

We do short walks with them when it's quiet late at night (think 11pm-midnight) to ease them in without distraction and super early in the morning (think 5am) - which incidentally, is within the hours most people sleep, including our neighbour. They are fearful and overwhelmed when we try to take them at more human hours. We'll build it up to it when the dogs are ready, not when she thinks they are.

She doesn't have a clue, and I didn't answer her comment, because I don't her an explanation of when we walk our dogs, if she wants to make assumptions that's up to her. It's equally as likely that if the dobe is reactive like you say, she could be walking it very late at night and you wouldn't have a scooby.

MidnightOnceMore · 06/10/2023 08:02

Disillusionedthesedays · 05/10/2023 12:34

Dog warden with local council

Given how the Conservatives have destroyed council budgets, there really isn't much resource to deal with barking dogs at most councils.

However you can report it and you might get somewhere - you could keep a noise diary and report to Environmental Health too.

Universalsnail · 06/10/2023 07:58

I would. I recently reported someone's multiple dogs because they let them bark and howl numerous times a day for ages at a time every day including waking me and the kids sometimes several times in the night. I didn't report for ages but tbh I can't cope with it anymore and they can do something about it but don't. It's not my fault they don't train their dog not stop it quickly when it starts howling.

Dogs bark sometimes but as an owner you can train it or make it stop. It's not acceptable to leave a dog barking in a residential area several times a day for 15 mins at a time (or in my case in the middle of the night)

Bladesmum · 06/10/2023 07:51

I had this problem, I told the neighbour their dog was howling all day and night when they were out, which was every day and at least 5 nights a week, sometimes they were out all night leaving a puppy on its own. My neighbour just shrugged his shoulders and said he had to go to work and go out. So I reported him, my local council wrote them a letter but the dog still continued to howl, we recorded the dog on the councils recording equipment. The council issued an abatement order ( kind of an ASBO) and told them they would either have to get rid of the dog or sell up. It took 3 years but they sold their house, my new neighbours dogs bark but they are now keeping them quiet. Im a dog lover but know it does grate on you when the barking is relentless. Its not the dogs fault but the owners. I would explain to your neighbour again, that its annoying and that if it continues you would have no choice but to report her. I know you say she is a nice lady but dont let that put you off. I got on with my neighbour and yes it affected our relationship but my sanity was far more important. Good luck

Disillusionedthesedays · 05/10/2023 14:31

I know that at least one other neighbour has reported it as the dog warden came over before. I will start noting how often it occurs and recording it too. Thank you, Good ideas

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