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Age gap argument

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Queseraseraa · 01/10/2023 18:03

We are a big group of friends ages 22- 27. We are all childless so socialise almost every weekend. We went for drinks last night and I ended up in a disagreement that got a bit heated.

One of the guys (22) said he would like to go to a certain bar as someone he’s been chatting with let him know she was there last night. He then divulged she was 18 and turned 18 just 2 months ago.
I said I thought that was a bit grim if I’m honest and he could not see the issue. I pointed out that it was in my opinion a bit strange to be a 22 year old that has been an adult for 4 years to find someone attractive that only a few months ago was legally a child.

He then got in a bit of a mood and said I made him feel weird about it now and was in a mood with me all night.

WABU? Yes, I know this girl is now legally an adult but she has only a few months ago left sixth form?! We are all working adults with careers and I definitely would have viewed an 18yo as still almost a child in regards to dating when I was 22!

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Ohhelpicantthinkofaname · 01/10/2023 18:08

I don’t think that 18 and 22 is a huge deal tbh. It would have been totally the norm when I was young. I know she gaps are more frowned up on these days, but still could get worked up about that one. It’s not like he’s 30.

KajsaKavat · 01/10/2023 18:07

I think people are faking this a bit fat nowadays. 18 and 22 is not that far apart. Do you fancy him yourself?

Persipan · 01/10/2023 18:06

Well, The Ratio says the youngest age of person you should get involved with is half your age plus 7.

Nannyfannybanny · 01/10/2023 18:06

Yabu,look up the different ages male and female brains develope.

ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 01/10/2023 18:06

YABU. 18 and 22 is not a big deal in my opinion.

Bluelightbaby · 01/10/2023 18:06

I really don’t see an issue with a 4yr age gap ?

gerrithedom · 01/10/2023 18:04

I don't really see a problem, and don't think that's particularly unusual.

If they were 14 and 18 it'd be completely different.

truecolour · 01/10/2023 18:04

It’s not a problem. She is an adult.

You have an issue with it because I imagine you’re closer to 27.

No issue with someone who is up to 24 I’d say, being with someone who is 18. It’s all about the people involved. YABU