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How to butter a bread roll

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Lauralaaaa · 30/09/2023 22:00

My darling boyfriend kindly made me a ham bread roll after my 12.5 hour shift. He asked if I wanted butter and I said yes please. I come home to find he has buttered one side of the roll and left the other plain. He claims you make more work for yourself if you butter both sides, just double up on the one side.

He does this with a normal sandwich as well apparently. I may have to end the relationship.

Please tell me I’m not going crazy and he’s a lunatic.

YABU- only butter one side
YANBU- butter both sides

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Tarkan · 01/10/2023 23:47

DH used to only butter one side of a roll until I set him straight. He does it the right way now. Grin Nothing touches my bread without a spreading of butter first and he's realised how much better it is.

I still haven't been able to convince him that brown sauce is better than ketchup on a bacon roll though. You can't win them all I guess!

girlwhowearsglasses · 01/10/2023 23:35

thinking about it though, my favourite sandwich has no butter -

from the bottom up:
very lightly toasted ciabatta, olive oil, buffalo mozzarella, slightly sun dried tomato, olives 🫒, fresh pesto, ciabatta. OMG

GasDrivenNun · 01/10/2023 22:48

Only one solution.....LTB

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Lauralaaaa · 01/10/2023 18:21

I think what I’m most concerned about now is who taught him to butter like this?

He is going home for a roast tonight so is going to ask his parents where he gets this from.

As a side note he’s only just this year started having grazy. Crazy.

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ilovepixie · 01/10/2023 15:47

I work in a Sandwich bar and lots of people don't take butter or Mayo in a sandwich. And some filling combos people ask for are just weird!

Lemonyfuckit · 01/10/2023 15:19

randomrandom · 01/10/2023 09:48

Apparently the level of sogginess is important to me 🤣

I actually prefer things a bit soggy.... give me the soggiest, least crispy Yorkshire pudding any day. I like soggy chips drowning in gravy. I can't have too much sauce / gravy on anything which requires too much sauce or gravy. Probably why I butter both sides even for 'wet' fillings or bacon sandwiches.

Lemonyfuckit · 01/10/2023 15:17

Actually I think I answered too hastily before / didn't read the question properly. I don't on reflection butter burger rolls, that seems completely wrong. So I suppose it's not entirely logical that I would butter for a bacon sandwich, and now I have no clue what I do for a sausage sandwich. I concede I can see the logic of those who butter the bottom of a roll / bap when bacon / sausage is going on top and then not the top because there will be sauce.

And now I really want a sausage or bacon sandwich.

girlwhowearsglasses · 01/10/2023 09:55

At least it’s butter not Margarine eh?

randomrandom · 01/10/2023 09:48

Apparently the level of sogginess is important to me 🤣

randomrandom · 01/10/2023 09:43

Question to those who butter the top of a roll: would you still butter the top if it was a roll with
A) sausages
B) a burger
C) a "wet" filling like tuna/egg mayo?

A) definitely
B) no butter goes in a burger at all, because you lightly toast the inside of the bun so it doesn't go soggy!
C) yes, it stops the bread going soggy

KajsaKavat · 01/10/2023 09:38

My three teenagers only want butter on one side , if they even have any butter.

elrider · 01/10/2023 09:36

spitefulandbadgrammar · 01/10/2023 00:46

You’d butter a burger?!

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You'd slap a burger straight on the roll then? I automatically butter any roll or any sandwich or any slice of toast regardless of what's going on top.

Usually I toast the roll/bun if a burger is going in, then a light application of butter on the bottom section before adding the burger. 😅 There's plenty people who don't like ketchup or mustard - how dry would that burger be if you just had the burger, or just a burger and lettuce or whatever!

Slidingsocks · 01/10/2023 09:36

He's telling you who he is OP. Loud and clear.

sadaboutmycat · 01/10/2023 09:30

My mother always did that. Sandwich fell apart.
He needs training 😂😂😂

elrider · 01/10/2023 09:20

Lemonyfuckit · 01/10/2023 08:40

A) yes
B) yes
C) yes

I like butter in my sandwiches and/or rolls. It would never occur to me to not butter both sides. That's just doing half a job.

All these people who say oh I butter both sides if it's this type of sandwich/roll/filling but not this type of....why though? Is it just laziness?

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It's just how I was taught growing up, same for DH. You butter the bottom of a roll then add fillings. Nobody ever buttered the top. Can't really explain it beyond that! Other than, as I said, there's often sauce on top of whatever is on a roll.

I've never considered not buttering both slices of a sandwich though - again, everyone in both families always buttered both slices too, so it's never been in question! But it's less likely to have a sauce. E.g. a cheese sandwich would be a bit strange without butter on one side, but a bacon roll with brown sauce on top isn't as big a deal.

Mum2aTeen · 01/10/2023 09:19

I grew up this way but never butter as that is too fattening and so unhealthy (according to everyone in the 80's/90's here (Australia) so we used no fat margarine and spread very thinly) when I met my DP he was like what on earth is this my whole inlaws spread both sides that was totally new to me I didn't understand it at all.
When I first tasted butter, it was like a thing I've missed all my life so delicious.
These days if I think of it I'll spread either butter or margarine on both sides or sometimes we just use cheese (as if we use cheese definitely no butter as to me that makes no sense at all we don't use Mayo either but we don't like Mayo my partner is allergic to it and I'm not a fan of the taste.
It's so different everywhere I still shocked sometimes over something so little but trivial.

WirKindervomBahnhofZoo · 01/10/2023 09:08

STBEH did this ...

Lemonyfuckit · 01/10/2023 08:40

elrider · 30/09/2023 23:04

See I would butter both slices in a sandwich, but only the bottom of a roll. It's one entity, so not quite the same as a sandwich which could be eaten either way around! Usually there is some kind of sauce on top of a roll anyway, but not always.

Question to those who butter the top of a roll: would you still butter the top if it was a roll with
A) sausages
B) a burger
C) a "wet" filling like tuna/egg mayo?

Answers on a postcard, please.

(FWIW, DH doesn't butter the top of a roll, nor does anyone in either of our families, so this is a new concept to us!)

A) yes
B) yes
C) yes

I like butter in my sandwiches and/or rolls. It would never occur to me to not butter both sides. That's just doing half a job.

All these people who say oh I butter both sides if it's this type of sandwich/roll/filling but not this type of....why though? Is it just laziness?

LynetteScavo · 01/10/2023 08:34

I once worked for an American (I think that's relevant) who got very grumpy when I made them a peanut butter sandwich with butter. They said peanut butter was like ham- you don't put butter in the sandwich.

WTAF?

Many years later I still think they're wrong.

quickqpls · 01/10/2023 08:21

LTB. One dry piece of bread flapping about? No thanks.

PimpMyFridge · 01/10/2023 08:03

This sounds like the tip of the iceberg! ⛳

ShagratandGorbag4ever · 01/10/2023 07:59

I bet he doesn't even cut the crusts off.

Clevs · 01/10/2023 07:58

I only butter the bottom piece of bread or bottom of the roll. I thought that was normal but it's clearly not!

BlueKaftan · 01/10/2023 07:49

Butter on one side and mustard on the other side. You get the moisture and flavour of both.

Oysterbabe · 01/10/2023 07:37

He claims you make more work for yourself if you butter both sides, just double up on the one side.

That's next level laziness.