Bad hangxiety again

This is me if I drink Prosecco. So now I don’t.

I think you’ve had a hard time OP, so don’t be hard on yourself but I think you and I should both probably drink less, and we’d feel better for it.

Same! Long time crippling anxiety sufferer, minimal anxiety now I'm sober!

I also gave up due to the black outs and beer fear!

The hangovers were getting worse, the anxiety lasting longer, less able to remember the details of the night... it just wasn't worth it to me any more.

After a particularly bad night, I quit. I didn't try to have one or two, as I'm an all or nothing kind of person (hence the binge drinking). And it's changed my life.

I've been sober for just over 4 years, and I'd never go back. I'm a better mum, partner, person... I like myself better!

If you can't commit to quitting indefinitely, why not set yourself a challenge, no alcohol for 12 weeks for a reset, then see how you feel?

I feel for you right now, beer fear is no joke

Sounds like there's a fair few among us!

It's hard when you're the only one in a group and everyone else seems to be enjoying themselves/are happy drunks. But honestly, give it a go. It's been several years for me and has revolutionised my weekends/general mental health. I hate to say it but I think age is a factor as well - we don't bounce back like we used to.

This is also why I stopped. Sometimes I would be a bad drunk and sometimes not but always the hangxiety and I just thought it wasn't worth it anymore. I feel so much better now and don't miss it.

I'm another who has stopped drinking because of it. It was getting worse and worse and I would still feel shit on Monday after what I wouldn't describe as not a heavy night.

It's been 6 months for me now and I do not regret it for one moment.

Ah OP I've had the hangxiety so many times! It took me a while, but I've learnt to not overdo it when I'm out, and life is infinitely better. You've had an awful time and you need to be kind to yourself. You haven't done anything bad, that is literally the low dopamine in your brain after the acohol rush playing tricks on your mind and making you anxious.

And to answer you question, I think you should do both. Cut yourself some slack, and maybe try a week or month alcohol free and see how you feel.

I never thought I could do it as I loved a glass of wine (or 3!)

Another one coming here to say this was the reason I stopped drinking. It's been 8 weeks now and I haven't felt this good in years my mood, sleep and energy levels are so much improved.

So sorry to hear that you have had a difficult time. You sound to have lovely, supportive friends.

I firmly believe that this underpins alcoholism - one sure-fire way to quieten that anxiety is to have another drink…. The rest is history, for many of us.

I’m working on giving up too. I was a daily moderate to heavy tippler, and the hangxiety was basically a permanent condition, and I just didn’t realise that.

Just over a year. No regrets. I still enjoy a nice cocktail or a glass of wine now and again but don't over do it or binge like I used to. So much happier.

Yeah sorry, another here who had to knock it on the head. Used to drink 2-3 glasses of wine every night, more on a weekend. I used to throw up in the mornings a lot too. Makes sense when you realise alcohol is actually a poison. I only occasionally have one or two drinks now and that's it. I actually enjoy myself better now when I go out though, and can drive home! My shopping is a lot cheaper too, which is an added bonus! I do kick myself it took me so long to work it out, so again, no judgement here.

It's time to stop drinking. Alcohol is not your friend. And I think the anxiety you're feeling is just your inner wisdom trying to tell you this.

Yep. Another one that has quit for similar reasons. No more worries about what I’ve done, said or texted. No more blackouts. Over a year now.

I am sure your situation is making your anxiety worse and your friends are not getting fed up that's part of your anxiety too.
As is clear on here many of us absolutely understand. Be a bit kinder to yourself and maybe try and cut down. No judgement I could write a book on my mishaps over the years. X

I have a set number of drinks 4-that i can enjoy over the course of an evening without ill effects. If i drink more i can get anxiety the next
Day and i sleep badly.

It rarely does come to it but it it does I just talk myself through it. That its just chemicals in my body making me feel bad. That in 2-3 hours they will be gone. And i'll feel normal in no time at all. And that the feelings aren't real.

Your case does sound extreme it you are needing reassurance from others so I would deffo curb the drinking. I have great fun without it!

I stopped drinking 2 years ago (I'm 33) as I hated this feeling and knowing id made a fool of myself. Best decision ever. When I'm stressed or sad now I do things that feel good for me like relaxation activities, Sound Baths, Restorative Yoga, massages etc.

I'm sorry for all your loses I can't imagine how tough that must be. 💐

Also why I stopped drinking the anxiety is just awful, don't be too hard on yourself OP it will pass it's just taking a while to go. Concentrate on one day at a time and you'll feel a lot better very soon x

I've pretty much stopped drinking as I didn't like what the hangovers were doing to me. I'm not T-total but will now only have one or two drinks a few times a year. I don't miss it at all. It's worth thinking about.

No judgement here as I loved a good drink and night out when I was younger. I'm 35 and that's not for me anymore.

If this is a regular thing every time you have a drink, you need to cut down the amount you have in one night or stop altogether.

Alcohol gives me confidence that I wouldn't have sober, and helps me loosen up and have a dance and a lot of fun. It would be very hard to enjoy a night out without it, but I don't feel I have a problem, it's just drunken silly ness that makes me paranoid the next day

I limit myself so once I start to feel tipsy I switch to soft drinks for a couple of rounds and pace myself. Them have another alcoholic one a bit later on.

Never heard it called hangxiety before. I've always called it Beer Fear and it's the reason I don't drink much, totally not worth it.