The mum didn’t remember me.

I’m face blind. I recognise people by hair styles, voice, mannerisms, the way they walk etc. Sometimes even by their car or something said in conversation. Even people I know quite well I’d struggle to pick out of a line up. I am quite good at the tiny signs so most people don’t realise. My close friends know as I’ve told them in case they think I’m acting odd sometimes 😂😂

I'm like this - I used to do Ann Summers parties, and I could tell you names of guests at a particular person's party and where they were sitting, maybe even their order, but I wouldn't be able to recognise them. I have ADHD and possible autism, and far from a PP saying about people taking pride in not bothering to remember details, I find it infuriating and embarrassing.

Be reasonable - there are 29 other mums in the class and I expect that if she has other dc or has used other childcare settings then there are even more people in her mental register of ‘other mothers of kids same age as mine’. I find it hard to match faces to people, particularly out of context. I wouldn’t dwell on it.

I do still find it weird

OP, really? Even though facial blindness has been quite clearly explained to you now? What are you not understanding?

Is there a support group for this condition? It only hit me as an adult.

Not that I've ever come across. Shame there isn't more support, as this affects people in day to day life! I'm definitely much more socially awkward because of it and will avoid people in gatherings just because I don't know who they are but know I should - it's embarrassing!

I think it’s weird to not remember going to a party and not remembering the host or your child for that matter.

Great, thanks.

This is a bit cancel the cheque. Is there a support group for this condition? It only hit me as an adult.

I can't recognise faces. It's awful at the school gates.

I think it’s weird to not remember going to a party and not remembering the host or your child for that matter. She surely wouldn’t have changed that much .

I am awful at remembering names and faces. Seeing someone out of context, with a different haircut, wearing glasses or sunglasses or a hat really can bamboozle me. Getting into a conversation with a stranger and then realising that they know me has not been an unfrequent occurence in my life. I don't mean to be rude!

Not the same but I once had my DS's primary school teacher, who I thought I knew quite well, muddle me up with another mum. She grabbed me to talk about DS behaviour of some concern and, it was only when she mentioned his twin, I twigged that she had got it wrong - she was very red faced when I explained. The other mum had bright red hair (not my colour) and was physically disabled (had to use crutches) which I'm not - I was a bit surprised at her confusion!

I've spent my life pretending to know people. It's not you op.

Op, is there a reason you’re still confused about this when every other post is explaining face blindness to you? Maybe you have a similar issue with reading comprehension?

May she have memory issues.many meds cause these or is she just very awkard

Tbh I think this 'who are you' thing is a technique some people use when they don't want to be too friendly with someone.

Op could you guarantee you would remember everyone you have ever spoken too yourself? I couldn't

I have memory problems and often don’t recognise people in a different context and I can forget events in my life. Don’t get me started on my anxiety about names, so it may well not be you aren’t memorable so much as they can’t remember you.

I literally don't remember people if I don't see them regularly or if I see them out of context. I feel awful as it feels rude but it's genuinely not deliberate. I wouldn't take offence she's probably busy/distracted.

Woo face blidness. I'm dreadful. My partner had to tell peeps I didnt recognise my sisters in laws. Oh dear. And it's quite stressful. Hiding in shop doorways

I will normally remember the conversation perfectly just not identify the face

Agree it's not personal.. when this happens to me (and when I clearly, definitely remember the pers because we have met and talked, ) I wonder what's wrong with them.

I used the have an amazing memory but in the past 10 years it has really deteriorated. I used to struggle to understand why people at work around me were so unreliable and scatty. Now I am those people. Possibly worse 🤣🤣🤣

Apart from memory issues she could have social anxiety and just put her head down and do the school run/parties and avoid engaging and ergo not take much notice of people.

On the plus side, you're clearly not memorable in a bad way, possibly a nice under the radar type when it comes to the playground - that is a good thing.

Paula and Steve!

I haven’t read through all the thread, so apologies if this has already been said. However, there is a condition where some people cannot recognise faces (I’m sorry, I forget the name of the condition). It is a recognised medical condition. Perhaps the mum suffers from this?

Thanks, I know about this but don’t think I have it to this extent. If it can be on a spectrum then I’m on it!

And people can be good at either of these things but not the other. I'm extremely good at remembering conversations, and extremely terrible at recognising faces.