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Reception New Starter Visits - Going Round In Circles.

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RoundInACircle · 28/09/2023 09:46

I wasn't sure the best way to word this but hopefully it makes sense.

DS will start school next September so I know around now I should be looking into visiting the schools we are considering applying for and that they will hopefully be hosting open days of some kind but apparently I live in some sort of Bermuda triangle area where not one of the schools are actually advertising when these days/evenings are, nothing on their websites or social media platforms etc.

So two weeks ago I emailed all the schools a generic email asking for more information...none of them replied.

This morning I've called 3 of the schools, the ones I want to look around most to ask if they have anything planned and all 3 have said they're not sure so took my name and number and said they will call me back.

I don't want to come across as over the top and I know term only started back a month ago but schools around have 2 weeks off in October and if I don't know the dates soon then I can't guarantee I can get the time off to actually visit.

Just wondering when your schools had these visits I'm guessing it will be before Christmas? Also how did you find out about them, I feel like I'm missing some secret insider knowledge.

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TheLightProgramme · 28/09/2023 18:06

The reality is its only an illusion of choice - unless schools are surprisingly undersubscribed near where you live, you are likely to get your catchment school or nearest school.if your nearest school is very popular and you don't live close to it, you'll get a less popular school. Look at the allocation statistics for the last few years, see where you would realistically usually get in and plan accordingly.

HunterAngel · 28/09/2023 18:00

Try following the schools on Facebook, sometimes they post open days on there. I found most of the schools local to me didn’t have open days until late November/ early December and one wasn’t until January. Your nursery might know, they often get details of open days to hand out to parents.

KoalaChaos · 28/09/2023 17:59

I'd check the school callendar. It's normally published online for parents evenings and school plays and such and open days are normally listed just so the staff can prepare fancy wall displays

RoundInACircle · 28/09/2023 17:50

Pleaseme · 28/09/2023 17:45

I think the whole 1 week/ 2 week October break depends on agriculture. It was 1 week when I lived in a city but 2 weeks where I am now. Local kids would have spent the time tattie picking back in the day.

I personally would email the schools as it’s harder to ignore with a paper trail.

I don't think it's anything to do with agriculture our areas anything but rural hence having so many schools in close proximity. It started about 10 years ago with a handful of schools doing a 'Christmas shopping week' and now it's quite widespread here and a school would definitely be in the minority to only have a week.

I've tried emailing but as I said I've had no reply. I figured calling might be better because they couldn't ignore a call. Hopefully I get a call back at some point soon and can plan visits.

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Pleaseme · 28/09/2023 17:45

RoundInACircle · 28/09/2023 10:27

Half term is one week in state schools, btw

Half term here is definitely two weeks and has been for a while now. I know some areas still have one weeks in October but around here it's definitely two.

Fingers crossed the receptionist get told a date soon and get back in touch. In the meantime I will continue to periodically check their websites and hopefully not miss it if they make an announcement.

I think the whole 1 week/ 2 week October break depends on agriculture. It was 1 week when I lived in a city but 2 weeks where I am now. Local kids would have spent the time tattie picking back in the day.

I personally would email the schools as it’s harder to ignore with a paper trail.

bnotts · 28/09/2023 16:13

Round here you only get into the school you are in the catchment for. Most school therefore don't have Open Days but you can book and they'll give you a tour often with some other parents but honestly school are so busy right now with the start of term. Our half term is last week of October and first week of November

Zola1 · 28/09/2023 16:12

I didn't go to an open day and I didn't send her to the local one, I just read the ofsted report and looked at the website and decided that way

CattingAbout · 28/09/2023 16:07

We had trouble 2 years ago sorting out primary school visits (admittedly was tail end of pandemic). Agree with pp, ring after half term (don't bother emailing, they probably won't reply). If they haven't got any dates organized by then, ask for a meeting and tour with the Head. I think mostly we did visits in November so there's still lots of time.

We did find a couple of the more over subscribed schools just didn't seem to bother offering a look round though!

AndIKnewYouMeantIt · 28/09/2023 15:53

YANBU to be looking. We contacted my son's school last September and had a tour with the head. The other 3 had open days at the end of September. All this info was on the websites! We'd picked the school by 1st week in October.

RoundInACircle · 28/09/2023 15:49

hiredandsqueak · 28/09/2023 14:21

Schools around here hold their "open days" October/November but it's essentially an hour after school rather than a day. They send flyers to local pre schools and nurseries usually.

If be quite happy with that to be honest. I don't need to see the children although that would be a nice bonus but I would definitely like to see the classrooms, outdoor space and speak to some of the staff.

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hiredandsqueak · 28/09/2023 14:21

Schools around here hold their "open days" October/November but it's essentially an hour after school rather than a day. They send flyers to local pre schools and nurseries usually.

RoundInACircle · 28/09/2023 14:02

Ruralparents · 28/09/2023 12:56

Be very careful with this, if it’s anything like our area if you don’t take the catchment school and your chosen school turns out to be oversubscribed when any younger siblings are ready to start school, they will send your children to different schools without a 2nd thought.

We fell foul of this and ended up with our two placed in schools 14 miles apart and the appeal panel takes absolutely no interest in any mitigating circumstances or reasons for your school choice I’m afraid.

No younger siblings to worry about thankfully but even so I think we would have hopefully been ok due to the small distance and 2 form entry. Sorry you had such a tricky time with it.

I've scrolled back as suggested, a great suggestion I might add, and 2 of them had open days last year in the first week of October so hopefully this means when they get back to me the dates won't be too far away.

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User2123 · 28/09/2023 13:41

All of the schools around us had open days, they started in early October and each gave a choice of a few different dates and times up until mid December. I saw the first one advertised in our local community newsletter/newspaper then checked the school websites and they were all mentioned on their homepages. We had to sign up to a tour in advance by emailing the school. Can you scroll back through their social media to this time last year and see if they were advertised then?

Giveuprobot · 28/09/2023 13:05

EaudeJavel · 28/09/2023 12:24

that sounds like bliss, ours are so subscribed, a couple of new builds are enough to move the boundary of the catchment. When you want a really good school, you need to pay a fortune for a property and be REALLY close.

I come from that kind of area so entirely sympathise. The pay off is having to live in the arse end of nowhere so very much swings and roundabouts!

FrenchandSaunders · 28/09/2023 12:57

Just had a look at our local school website ... 3 dates advertised this side of half term.

Ruralparents · 28/09/2023 12:56

Be very careful with this, if it’s anything like our area if you don’t take the catchment school and your chosen school turns out to be oversubscribed when any younger siblings are ready to start school, they will send your children to different schools without a 2nd thought.

We fell foul of this and ended up with our two placed in schools 14 miles apart and the appeal panel takes absolutely no interest in any mitigating circumstances or reasons for your school choice I’m afraid.

mindutopia · 28/09/2023 12:51

It's still quite early days. Usually these visits are in November. It's only just the start of term. They are still catching up on admin and settling in new students. Applications are due in January, so you have plenty of time. My eldest is applying for secondary school (due 31st of Oct) and open days only announced 2 weeks ago - one is today and one is next week. Just give it time and check back towards end of October. We had dates circulated to us by our nursery. Or just look on the school website.

EaudeJavel · 28/09/2023 12:24

Giveuprobot · 28/09/2023 11:50

This very much depends where you live though. My whole area is undersubscribed so you could go to any school within about a 30 mile radius and they'd be delighted to have you.

that sounds like bliss, ours are so subscribed, a couple of new builds are enough to move the boundary of the catchment. When you want a really good school, you need to pay a fortune for a property and be REALLY close.

elliejjtiny · 28/09/2023 12:21

I'm a bit jealous of you having 3 schools within a 10 minute walk. We live 45 minutes walk from our nearest primary school.

My eldest started primary in 2010 so my experience is probably out of date but I just rang our nearest school up and they booked me in with the head teacher for a short tour. I had a quick look at the reception class, the hall and the library, asked a couple of questions and talked briefly to the senco. To be honest unless it was awful then ds would be going there as the next nearest schools were miles away, over subscribed about of catchment so very unlikely ds would get in. The secondary school near us has an open evening and I always go when I have a child in year 6 because it's nice to see the school and there is always free food. However there isn't a choice and the next nearest school is miles away. College is better, you get a choice of 5 but the closest is 6 miles away so the school run is complicated and takes ages.

Flora56 · 28/09/2023 11:55

Schools in my area don’t do visits, so I booked to look round (the only school in our catchment!) on my own. The head was very happy to give me a little tour. The school I work in doesn’t either, but again would be happy to do a private visit.

Check over subscription info too. It could be, that realistically, children are given what’s available and if open days were promoted, parents would simply end up touring and applying for schools that they have absolutely no chance of getting a place in.

RoundInACircle · 28/09/2023 11:51

elsieandthepooch · 28/09/2023 11:47

Our local ones tend to be late Oct / early November.

We are only a few weeks into the school new year so give them time.

The trouble is late October and early November are when the school is closed for half term hence wondering if they have have the open days before then.

Visiting for the Christmas fair idea is a good plan I will have a look to see if any of them have Christmas fairs.

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Giveuprobot · 28/09/2023 11:50

PenelopeTheShroudWeaver · 28/09/2023 10:01

Exactly this. You can put down up to 3 choices on the form but unless you fit one of the priority criteria (religious affiliation, safeguarding etc.) you're unlikely to be accepted for anything else than your nearest one.

It's very much the same for secondary as well. They do have open days but if you have to rely on general admission criteria you will more than likely be allocated to your nearest one. I have known people to move house just for that reason.

This very much depends where you live though. My whole area is undersubscribed so you could go to any school within about a 30 mile radius and they'd be delighted to have you.

PinkandSilverCandleHolder · 28/09/2023 11:50

DDs primary school do an open morning in October Half Term but will do tours at anytime if you contact them.

We went to the open morning but then wanted to see the school with actual children in it so booked a private tour. We loved it and thats where she went.

elsieandthepooch · 28/09/2023 11:47

Our local ones tend to be late Oct / early November.

We are only a few weeks into the school new year so give them time.

EaudeJavel · 28/09/2023 11:46

My local schools don't have open days, for many reasons, but one being that it was not ideal for the children in reception, who have only been settling in for a month or 2.

You should check the dates of the Christmas Fairs, open days or not, they will give you an interesting feel of the school, parents and children.

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