I have a friend who I was close to for years, my 2 dds were her dds close friends.
A year ago, my friend had started mixing with a new group of people and seemed to change. She had Covid conspiracy theories, was mixing with a group taking light recreational drugs (not crack or heroin) and she seemed to be different around those people than she was with me. She also kept cancelling plans and letting my dcs down. I was also going through bereavement which made it harder.
I got annoyed with her cancelling and made a comment about not arranging anything more with her. Unfortunately this triggered a type of rage and she sent several nasty messages to me and stopped my dds attending the tennis group they loved (she was the leader of the group).
I ceased contact with her after this. My dds have mourned the loss of their friends over this time and have begged me to reconcile. I have explained to them that she treated me badly but they both don't understand. To try to cut this story shorter, I bumped into this ex friend recently at an activity and she apologised. I accepted the apology and thought we'd moved on.
My dcs were so happy. They mentioned that her dds didn't speak to them when we'd bumped into them but I didn't think much of it. My dcs have begged me to meet up with them. I have now tried arranging a meet up with them several times. We are back to my friend delaying, cancelling or making excuses not to meet up.
My dcs have again been very upset and disappointed by it all. They are questioning if there's something wrong with them and I've reassured them it's not that. Would you come out and ask this person what's going on or just leave this now?