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Desperatetime · 23/09/2023 16:18

I've noticed that everybody seems to he in a rush and some have a attitude I'm sick of people up my rear end when I'm doing the speed limit and hovering to overtake.
Last night around 11pm I had somebody up my rear flashing and blowing thier horn at me when I was doing the speed limit maybe just under aibu to think this behaviour is getting worse.

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FFSWhatToDoNow · 23/09/2023 20:54

Neverwatchedgameofthrones · 23/09/2023 20:40

When o see blue lights behind me, I out my hazards on and pull over to allow them a clear route through. Guaranteed, 3-6 cars will go around me rather than let the emergency services (usually an ambulance) past.

If you’re putting your hazards on they will think you have broken down. No need to do that just because you’re pulling over for an emergency vehicle.

FFSWhatToDoNow · 23/09/2023 20:54

I drive a lot for work. It’s the dawdlers and the middle lane hoggers that are the dangerous ones. Fucking idiots. Too right I’m getting the hell away from them ASAP.

(also have front and back dashcams on all my cars and the footage gets uploaded to operation snap.)

Neverwatchedgameofthrones · 23/09/2023 20:40

When o see blue lights behind me, I out my hazards on and pull over to allow them a clear route through. Guaranteed, 3-6 cars will go around me rather than let the emergency services (usually an ambulance) past.

Neverwatchedgameofthrones · 23/09/2023 20:37

I see dangerous driving every single day, I hate driving now. There's no deterrent, even if you kill someone, chances are you won't even get banned never mind jailed. Don't get me started on on the dickheads that drive like arseholes, kill themselves and are then regarded as the blessed martyrs, which requires more dickheads to assemble and drive like arseholes en masse to "show their respects" to the "hero".

DrunkenKoala · 23/09/2023 20:16

Yes I’m noticing it too. People don’t seem to stick to their side of the road and they turn right into side roads cutting the corner, then seem surprised to see me coming in opposite direction- it’s like they’ve forgotten it’s a two way road.
Not sure if it’s lack of police or police can’t be bothered to deal with it until someone gets hurt (witnessed a couple of incidents in front of police and they’ve done nothing)
Someone mentioned it being mainly men, tbh where I am it’s women.

DinoMummsy · 23/09/2023 20:01

It's not just you - every single day I encounter absolutely vile idiots on the roads (and this is just doing school dropoff/pickup which is only 15-20mins each way). Recently bought a front/rear dash cam and vivid yellow "video recording" stickers for my car. Definitely noticed a decrease in tailgating, but unfortunately it doesn't seem to have put off the hardcore nutters. Would love to never have to drive again - downright scary dealing with all the absolute arseholes speeding, dangerously overtaking on blind bends/hills and general twatish/aggressive behaviour of some drivers. Makes me wonder how the hell they passed their driving test. 🙄

owwwfoot · 23/09/2023 20:01

Yep. I am noticing it too. There are some real, real idiots on the road. Pulling off without checking blind spot. Jumping into gaps on motorways that just are not there. Driving too closely behind you no matter the weather condition. Genuinely scares me.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 23/09/2023 19:56

Yes, it's a thing where I am too. I hate to say it but it's usually men. I think pandemic cutbacks mean that there are just not enough traffic police on our roads anymore, people broke traffic laws during the pandemic and got away with it, and so have continued in that vein. ie. they want to do what they want. Drive as fast as they like. Not have to stop at reds. Park on double yellows. Once they've got away with it a few times they get a confidence that they can do what they want on the roads and there is very little comeback.

It is depressing, yes, because it indicates a decline in an aspect of behaviour that is part of what makes us a civilised nation.

Greyandrare123 · 23/09/2023 19:45

Yes
Tailgating
Flashing
Veering out onto other side of the road
Shouting obsenities

Then I got a large back window dash cam and I squirt screenwash to show the tailgator they are being recorded and they often back off.

The issue is its not just cars. Lorries, coaches also tailgate and veer in and out as well

Ive 36 yrs driving experience and I drive on the speed limits. Most of my tailgators have blacked out windows or I can barely see their head as they are lying almost flat in the drivers seat. They never indicate either so I have to guess where they are going on roundabouts.
It really puts me off

junbean · 23/09/2023 19:14

If you google it, it's a fact that drivers have become more dangerous, impatient, etc. since the pandemic. I live in a small mountain town in the US and prior to covid I drove for Uber so I'm very familiar with roads & drivers here, and after Covid it's gotten so bad I don't drive unless I have to. I had someone follow me home (I realized they were following me and did not go to my actual home) and proceeded to scream and curse at me from their window- all because I went the speed limit and they wanted to speed. Another time I braked suddenly as a bicyclist was crossing with right of way, and the driver behind me was so close they almost hit me- their fault! And they sped up to get beside me and scream obscenities at me. I gave them the finger and they got in front of me and slammed on their brakes. But I wasn't tailgating so they just ended up looking like psychos and really scaring me. I was being extra careful with the bicycle because a group of cyclists had been hit & killed on the same road recently. Another time a man in a big truck in the next lane over decided he wanted to be where I was, so he began to ram his truck against my tiny car to make me move over. He didn't actually hit me, just made that maneuver. Traffic was packed and there was nowhere for me to go! He basically tried to run me off the road because he realized he was in the wrong lane. He even put his arm out the window and motioned me to move over. Complete disregard for life. These are just a few examples. Prior to the pandemic drivers here were extraordinarily courteous. I don't know what happened but I've seen it reported on the news everywhere so it's not just you!

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