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Eavesdropping rude couple

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Ibizafun · 22/09/2023 20:29

I met a friend for a coffee early morning and we were the only people there. A couple came and sat on the table next to us.

I was quietly telling my friend that I had recently had a hysterectomy and developed a UTI. No gory details, just that.

The man turned to me and said "Do you mind, we're eating?" in a very rude manner.

I told him to stop listening to other peoples' conversations and talk to his wife. He could've sat down or moved anywhere else.. no one there. Was I being unreasonable?

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Ibizafun · 26/09/2023 10:07
Grin
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JanglingJack · 24/09/2023 01:46

Oh... Now you've made me follow through. I hope these adult nappies are as good as they say. Tuck in! Don't let me keep you away from your food!

SmileyClare · 24/09/2023 01:04

Haha happy to help.
Im sure if he did have a UTI he’d be moaning to all and sundry about it!

Get well soon op x

Newestname002 · 24/09/2023 00:54

Every day's a learning day - thanks! 😁

SmileyClare · 24/09/2023 00:47

Newestname002 · 24/09/2023 00:36

I sincerely hope he gets whatever the male equivalent of a UTI is; then he'll have something to complain about. 🌹

The male equivalent of a UTI is erm a UTI (urinary tract infection) 😂

I agree he was a twat though!

Clearly being a man he gets to police women’s conversations and dictate what’s tasteful enough.

Poor sensitive flower.

Newestname002 · 24/09/2023 00:36

I sincerely hope he gets whatever the male equivalent of a UTI is; then he'll have something to complain about. 🌹

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Ibizafun · 23/09/2023 17:47

Again thanks so much all. Made me feel like shit even though the worst thing I said was "UTI". Really hope his horrible nature gets him in trouble one day!

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NoMor · 23/09/2023 17:01

"Do you mind, we're eating." I do mind your eating. Your table manners are awful, you eavesdrop and you interrupt other people's conversations. I'm surprised your wife takes you out in public.

lemmein · 23/09/2023 16:52

People are arseholes, he was very unreasonable sticking his nose into your conversation.

From your description though it wasn't a rude 'couple' - it was a rude man!

I remember years ago having a phone conversation with my friend who was having a bad episode of thrush. She went into minute detail of how her vag was burning and she couldn't stop scratching - the discharge, the smell...I had the full rundown of how it was pissing her right off; then she said very casually, 'anyway, im gonna go, the in-laws are here' 😳 They had been sat next to her the whole time. I couldn't stop laughing at how unbothered she was by their presence Grin

If the cafe man was her FIL his head would've exploded!

Graciebobcat · 23/09/2023 16:32

If I hadn't gone into gory detail already that would be my cue to start.

Rude cunt.

Cowlover89 · 23/09/2023 16:29

YADNBU X

Dweetfidilove · 23/09/2023 16:28

Absolutely not! Good on you for telling him too ☺️

Xatz63 · 23/09/2023 16:04

I agreed with you

Newestname002 · 23/09/2023 15:50

@Ibizafun @sadsack78

I could be wrong but I feel like most women who overheard your conversation would just feel sympathy and maybe even say 'well that happened to me too'.

Very very true. I had a hysterectomy years ago (not keyhole surgery) and my friend had a myectomy within days of each other so talked about those a lot. Anyone who didn't want to hear us comparing notes and providing mutual sympathy, whilst sitting in an near empty cafe should just sit elsewhere! 🌹

Wolfricbriandumbledore · 23/09/2023 15:42

They were awful. You did absolutely nothing wrong. And the guy was thick as well as rude — surely when you’re eavesdropping, you don’t point it out to the people you’re eavesdropping on? And if you’re eavesdropping and don’t like what you’re hearing, you keep schtum and stop listening.

KimberleyClark · 23/09/2023 15:33

What an awful couple.

DinoMummsy · 23/09/2023 15:05

It would have been a simple "oh, fuck off" from me. What a complete tosser!
Hope you feel better soon.

Tonightsthenight91 · 22/09/2023 22:08

What a knob. Good for you for putting him in his place!

yesterday I was at a restaurant with a friend who - as we were getting up - said to me “you ok? You look really sad” que the couple next to us literally downing tools and both turning in sync and looking me dead in the eye to await my answer. We all kind of paused at the awkwardness and then the woman sort of leaned in like I was going to tell her my life story. I swear some people just go out to be busy bodies.

PinkMoscatoLover · 22/09/2023 22:00

He has a bloody nerve! You absolutely did the right thing

sadsack78 · 22/09/2023 21:53

YANBU. He was very rude, and also sounds full of distaste about you discussing your 'women's problems' where he could hear it.

You weren't being crude- you had a very serious surgery and of course wanted to tell a friend about it.

I could be wrong but I feel like most women who overheard your conversation would just feel sympathy and maybe even say 'well that happened to me too'.

Hope you're doing better OP.

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 22/09/2023 21:50

You did nothing wrong having a private conversation, why did they sit next to you when there were other tables free. You should have said why did you sit right beside us then and stop listening in on other people's conversation. The other answers are funny, you should have talked about your vagina really loudly and watch him blow his fuse. Or mentioned how you cannot wait until your new vibrator arrives in the post to give it a try.

UncleHerbie · 22/09/2023 21:47

I might’ve whipped out a pic of my massive fibroid! That would’ve put him off his bacon sarnie (Polaroid taken by my gynaecologist and given to me 😂)

Goldbar · 22/09/2023 21:42

I think you were quite restrained tbh.

SauvignonBlanche · 22/09/2023 21:28

What a rude git! 😡

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Ibizafun · 22/09/2023 21:26

Loving the answers here and thank you for telling me I wasn't be unreasonable.. felt myself go bright red!

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