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Bedtime for 13yo

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sprinkleblush · 19/09/2023 22:46

DC is 13, will be 14 just before Xmas

Solo parent with zero childcare ever (literally never)

So DC bedtime is 830, lights out 930

Up at 630am and usually tired!

AIBU in thinking that's not too early to go to bed?

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Marblessolveeverything · 19/09/2023 22:58

My 9 year old is up an hour later! 15 year old lights out before 11 on school night.
Waay too early, sure they won't even be back from training here.

The poor kid. I parent alone as well but I stepped back when it was clear they self manage their time. He is tired because his natural body clock is set to go to bed late up late. Neuroscience has this proved. Why does he have to be up so early, is there a way to reduce this?

Valhalla17 · 19/09/2023 22:56

6.30am*

Valhalla17 · 19/09/2023 22:56

I think its fine, particularly if getting up at 6.30pm. Kids seem to be going to bed later and later these days, but the reality is they need 9-11 hours sleep! They are growing, learning....

jackstini · 19/09/2023 22:54

My 14.9 yo is lights out by 10 on a school night
Later at weekends (although up for work at 5.45 on Sat)

angelikacpickles · 19/09/2023 22:52

That seems early. My 12 year old goes to bed at 9.20, lights out at 10pm on school nights and I would have thought that was early. My 9 year old goes to bed at 9pm!

Sparrow7 · 19/09/2023 22:51

Same as my DC who are both 13. Up later in holidays and weekends. But 8.30pm school nights. They are so tired by that time!

Magnalux · 19/09/2023 22:50

My just turned 14yo is in bed at 10 lights out 10.30.. has to be up at 7.30, though he usually wakes up himself naturally before 7.30. 9.30 seems early for that age.

GCWorkNightmare · 19/09/2023 22:49

It seems waaaaay too early to me (but my DD is a born night owl who would only ever have gone to bed at 8:30pm if she was ill!)

My DD is about to turn 13 and gets up at 7am on school days. She goes to bed at about 10pm. She has 2 nights a weeks where activities keep her out till 9:30pm!

DinnaeFashYersel · 19/09/2023 22:48

It seems pretty early to me but then yours is tired in the morning so could be tight for you.

My 11 yo has a 10pm bedtime. Some of her extra curricular activities don't even finish till 930.

MixedTocopherols · 19/09/2023 22:48

That seems early for a teenager.