To think this was a bit gross?

KimberleyClark · 2023-09-19T15:18:16+00:00

Woman in gym changing room sitting with bare arse on bench. Quite prepared told IABU.

LuciaPillson · 20/09/2023 06:04

It may be misogyny not to want to sit in a festering puddle of a stranger's vag fluids (surely not, though) and perhaps changing room benches are fair game, but honestly, if your neighbour came round naked and planted her minge down on your sofa, wouldn't you slightly be wondering about her hygiene standards in general and whether it was a good idea to eat the "tapioca surprise" that she'd so generously baked for you? Smiling and nodding along with her whilst frantically searching for "upholstery steam cleaning" on your phone. Anyhoo, I'd be spraying down the bench with Lysol at the very least and perhaps setting it on fire, heck I say take off and nuke the site from orbit. It's the only way to be sure.

I may be odd though as I always wear a full hazmat suit to the gym and carry a flamethrower, I may BU but I approach my personal comfort zone as a military operation. This is neither the time nor the place to discuss my emotional support ostrich but let's just say people leave me the hell alone.

Sigmama · 19/09/2023 21:20

I don't even like thongs

maddening · 19/09/2023 21:10

usernother · 19/09/2023 21:08

@maddening No I sit on a towel

Why? Presumably your arse is clean if you've just washed it.

Goodness knows, appreciate it may be unusual but that is just me 😅 not hurting anyone else I guess

usernother · 19/09/2023 21:08

@maddening No I sit on a towel

Why? Presumably your arse is clean if you've just washed it.

maddening · 19/09/2023 21:00

usernother · 19/09/2023 20:32

What? You never sit naked on your bed after a shower?

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No I sit on a towel

Chunkyspunkymunkey · 19/09/2023 20:52

I would sit bare arsed on a bench- God knows what you might catch!

FFS when did people decide to start changing sanitary items in public view? And why?

AlwaysPrettyOnTheInside · 19/09/2023 20:51

Blondebutnotlegally · 19/09/2023 20:16

I guess the generalised assumption is women have to cover up their bodies to remain "dignified" whilst men's changing rooms are notoriously free and people dont tend to complain. So although it might not be internalised misogyny on an individual level, a statistical level would likely prove otherwise.

Maybe thats because men have lower standards.

Onceuponaheartache · 19/09/2023 20:35

Genuinely I stopped my membership to thegymgroup in our town after a woman was stood butt naked in the changing room, foot on the bench changing a tampon.

I have never been so digusted in my life.

usernother · 19/09/2023 20:32

maddening · 19/09/2023 16:41

Grim. I don't sit bare arsed in my own house let alone where it is a shared space.

What? You never sit naked on your bed after a shower?

Blondebutnotlegally · 19/09/2023 20:27

Not a period!!!! Bring back stoning I say

Blondebutnotlegally · 19/09/2023 20:26

I think the misogyny comment was directed towards the posters complaining about women being naked gasp in a women's changing room

35965a · 19/09/2023 20:24

whatwasthatgrandma · 19/09/2023 20:21

Plus the notion that female genitalia is nasty and wet and germ ridden. It's the same women franctically hiding tampons in case anyone thinks they might have a (disgusting) period.

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Sweaty balls are just as manky

jolaylasofia · 19/09/2023 20:22

Blondebutnotlegally · 19/09/2023 20:16

I guess the generalised assumption is women have to cover up their bodies to remain "dignified" whilst men's changing rooms are notoriously free and people dont tend to complain. So although it might not be internalised misogyny on an individual level, a statistical level would likely prove otherwise.

i don't think it matter she was naked. doesn't matter if it was a man or woman, just bare genitalia on a public seat is unhygienic

whatwasthatgrandma · 19/09/2023 20:21

Blondebutnotlegally · 19/09/2023 20:16

I guess the generalised assumption is women have to cover up their bodies to remain "dignified" whilst men's changing rooms are notoriously free and people dont tend to complain. So although it might not be internalised misogyny on an individual level, a statistical level would likely prove otherwise.

Plus the notion that female genitalia is nasty and wet and germ ridden. It's the same women franctically hiding tampons in case anyone thinks they might have a (disgusting) period.

Blondebutnotlegally · 19/09/2023 20:16

I guess the generalised assumption is women have to cover up their bodies to remain "dignified" whilst men's changing rooms are notoriously free and people dont tend to complain. So although it might not be internalised misogyny on an individual level, a statistical level would likely prove otherwise.

FoxtrotOscarFoxtrotOscar · 19/09/2023 19:50

Attention seeking.

WednesdayLounge · 19/09/2023 19:43

Wouldn't bother me, wouldn't do it myself because I'd be worried about catching something, but I don't think I'd really even notice if someone else did it tbh.

Legale · 19/09/2023 19:33

"Internalised misogyny." 😂 I don't care what it is, I don't want to see naked genital or a bare arse plonked down on a communal bench. Totally with you OP, there's no need.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 19/09/2023 19:15

If you didn’t mouth, “Your minge!” at her, then I don’t believe you’re a Mumsnetter

whatwasthatgrandma · 19/09/2023 19:13

Nobody is laying around naked in grubby changing rooms. Such exaggeration!!

ASGIRC · 19/09/2023 19:11

@whatwasthatgrandma Have you ever been in a changing room? To get to the cubicles, you usually have to walk through the communal area.
And there, a lot of the time, people are naked. And not just "Im putting my clothes on real quick" naked, but "imma gonna sit here, naked, on my phone, for a good long while".

Its pretty hard not to see. And Id rather not.
This is not about people getting changed in changing rooms. Its about people laying about, naked, in said changing rooms, and changing dirty period pads, and sitting bare assed on benches.

No one who is just changing clothes has time to sit their naked ass down on a seat!

menopausalmare · 19/09/2023 19:09

Thrushtastic.

whatwasthatgrandma · 19/09/2023 19:07

ASGIRC · 19/09/2023 19:03

I do. And use the cubicles to change.

Im not sure what kinda gotcha you think you have here...

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Then you need to think harder.

If you use cubicles, you're not out there to see anything: so you have no reason to complain about seeing anything.
If you don't use the cubicles and choose to get changed in a place others also get changed: you also have no reason to complain about seeing anything.

Ergo., none of you have any reason to complain about seeing naked women and what are you even wittering about?

ASGIRC · 19/09/2023 19:03

whatwasthatgrandma · 19/09/2023 17:09

To the people who object to seeing a naked woman...you need to stay out of womens communal changing rooms.
You are the problem.

I do. And use the cubicles to change.

Im not sure what kinda gotcha you think you have here...

loislovesstewie · 19/09/2023 17:44

Fine, I'll start a campaign for nice individual changing rooms, with actual doors! Bliss!