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Are we classed as "poor" or average

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FutureMrsBourne · 17/09/2023 17:25

Sorry I couldn't think of a better word.
DH earns around £70k.
I only earn £12ph and work 3 days a week as we have 2 children under 5.
Most of my friends are on slightly more than me an hour but not massively, have maybe slightly nicer but similar houses, only really get their hair done in terms of beauty.. but most of DH's friends partners earn £50+.. have big houses with cinema rooms, bars.. have regular Botox, lip fillers etc.
we live in a 3 bed and semi and have saved since 2018 for a new kitchen.
Are we poor.. or average? I feel such a failure compared to DH's friends wives and I worked bloody hard for my qualifications that are rubbish pay!

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pompomdaisy · 17/09/2023 17:57

www.ons.gov.uk/visualisations/dvc1802/calculator/index.html

Put your figures in and see for yourself

krustykittens · 17/09/2023 17:57

We have your income, OP, and we feel rich., But we don't value botox and cinema rooms. Do you have what you need and most of what you want (YOU, not what your friends want)? Then you are rich. Your income certainly doesn't make you poor, by anyone's standards. We live in an area where there is a lot of poverty, it is heartbreaking. Not being able to afford plastic surgery is not deprivation and you will never be happy if you are always looking at what someone else has got, as there is always someone who has more.

ConnieTucker · 17/09/2023 17:56

OnAFrolicOfMyOwn · 17/09/2023 17:31

Another goady thread on this subject ...

Quite.

I only earn £12ph and work 3 days a week as we have 2 children under 5.
you only work 3 days a week because you choose to work 3 days a week. Many people work full time with small children. If you want more money, you can work two extra days. Have more in your pension. Have more opportunities at promotion. It might not be more immediately, but it will be more when both children are at school.

Jojoanna · 17/09/2023 17:54

Ridiculous

GrouchyKiwi · 17/09/2023 17:54

I'd say you're well above average. DH earns less than your DH, and he's the sole earner for our family. We're comfortable.

MajesticWhine · 17/09/2023 17:54

You are not poor. You are not super rich either. Somewhere in between but pretty comfortable.
All this Botox or going to Turkey for dentistry is really tacky - not something to aspire to at all.

Desecratedcoconut · 17/09/2023 17:53

Sounds tough, I can send you a food parcel, op?

ThePoshUns · 17/09/2023 17:53

Nice try.

Sworntofun · 17/09/2023 17:52

Stop comparing yourself to others. That way only brings misery. If you’re happy who cares what you earn or what you’ve got.

Glitterybee · 17/09/2023 17:51

😂😂😂

ManuelBensonsLeftBoot · 17/09/2023 17:50

If I won multi millions on the lottery I wouldn't be spending it on getting poison injected into my face so I guess I would still be poor by your slightly strange measure.

Testina · 17/09/2023 17:50

Yeah, you’re poor 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Flatulence · 17/09/2023 17:50

Your household income is over 80k a year. You're richer than the vast majority of households (the median household income is about 38k).
Your DH's friends are either loaded or up to their eyeballs in debt.

Notpooryet · 17/09/2023 17:48

Boomboom22 · 17/09/2023 17:36

Above average so basically rich according to both labour and the tories at the moment.

Three times average. So objectively very well off.

kezzyleah · 17/09/2023 17:45

Honesty you just have to be content with your own situation. Comparison really is the thief of joy. You sound like you have a lovely family life, house and job so be happy with what you have.

PonyPatter44 · 17/09/2023 17:44

This is utterly tone deaf. There are people trying to put food on the table and worrying about their heating bills, and you are wittering about being poor on a £80k+ household income. Have a word with yourself, for goodness sake.

TheHolyGrailSpeaks · 17/09/2023 17:43

I would comment if I could speak (we earn £eleventy billion pounds and my lips are so full of fillers they obscure my face).

ghostyslovesheets · 17/09/2023 17:43

Single parent on about £32k including maintenance - 3 kids, mortgage - do not count myself as poor - not wealthy but managing

you have double that income - so no you are not poor - your partners friends simply earn more money than you do

neilyoungismyhero · 17/09/2023 17:43

Going to go shoot myself now..

Babyroobs · 17/09/2023 17:43

Hate these kind of moronic threads where people not far off 100k claim to be struggling in comparison to other. WTAF.

NoSquirrels · 17/09/2023 17:42

Comparison is the thief of joy, OP.

You’re not poor, absolutely not, but you feel it in comparison to your friendship group’s £700K houses with cinema rooms.

But it’s irrelevant. Can you pay your bills, live comfortably with some of the nice things in life, and put some by for a rainy day or the future? If so, you’re OK.

tedybear · 17/09/2023 17:41

Household income of above £80k a year! Yip ur so poor. I can't actually believe u have used that word, honestly! You do realise some families have incomes of half of that and wouldn't consider themselves poor.

Beezknees · 17/09/2023 17:41

RedLollyYellowLorry · 17/09/2023 17:38

You need to claim benefits that you are entitled to if you are a single parent.

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I do don't worry! Certainly doesn't add up to £70k though.

Allthecatseverywhereallatonce · 17/09/2023 17:40

Honestly as soon as I saw 70k I did a massive eye roll. You are better off than me and my Dh, both working full time. Does that help?