Husbands Alarm

Sofa. I have zero patience if my sleep is meddled with

My goodness OP, regardless of whether he actually gets up seeing as he knows you are a light sleeper if he wants a 530 alarm he can sleep on the couch or else figure out a time to go for a run that doesn’t impact you.

My partner is a snorer/mouth breather, and he has to wake up at 5/5:30 most days 😭

I use these, mainly because they were provided for the guys that worked with heavy machinery at my old job. They're very good, I still wake up for my own alarm on the bedside table, but I can't hear anything else. They are disposable though.

Earplugs

My partner has a vibrating under pillow alarm designed for deaf people and it doesn't wake me ( he isn't deaf, Kish doesn't want to wake me !)

I know it is no help, but when I read stuff like this - and about women being kept awake by snoring, left, right and centre, I'm so absolutely grateful that I've had my own bedroom separate from my husband for the last 15 years. His snoring is so loud it could wake the dead.

AND, I would lose my fucking shit if my DH woke me most days with a 5.30am alarm.

Surprised someone hasn't come on here yet to post 'actually OP, 5.30am isn't that early really. Are you usually a lazy person?' 😆

He needs to sleep on the couch !!! Selfish arsehole. This is grounds for divorce IMO.

If he wants to set his alarm early then he sleeps on the sofa with everything he needs ready next to him.

By god I'd not be letting him stay asleep of he woke me up with his alarm. If I was up then he sure would be too. Either force him up or turn his alarm off when he's sleeping as he's not going to get up anyway

im married nearly 40 years. My advice. When he’s asleep. Turn off his alarm. 👍

OMG my husband sometimes does this and it drives me batshit. Exactly the same as you, he sets it for some ungodly hour, repeatedly snoozes it whilst he snores except the first crack of dawn one woke me and now my mind is full of things and I can’t get back to sleep. Worse still was the time he had some godawful app that tracked his sleep state and woke him according to a good time in his sleep cycle. Bloody thing would start gently rousing him around 4 and would jerk me out of deep sleep. That didn’t last long.

luckily my husband generally is not a selfish CW and if he were to do this on a regular basis I could ask him to stop and he would. I tolerate the occasions it happens. But I do feel your pain OP. Twice a week would not work for me! You are more patient than I’d be.

My DP did this is in the mornings before starting a very early job, he snoozed his alarm for the best part of an hour whilst I led there infuriated. He now sleeps on the sofa on weekdays- it's bliss

My dh gets up earlier than me so his alarm goes off. 99% of time I sleep through it due to wearing silicon ear plugs and a face mask.

So just to clarify; he wakes you up at 5.30am for no reason, then goes for a run whilst you are working, leaving you to do childcare of young children (including feeding them?) during your working day?

That's bullshit.

He's not only fucking with your sleep, he's fucking with your career and passing his childcare responsibilities in his parenting time onto you during your working day, so he can do his hobby. WTAF??

He's a shit husband and a shit father.

I used to use a "Mi Band", cheap little fitness tracker watch with a decent vibration alarm. Woke me up pretty consistently, although to be fair I never needed to use it as early as 5:30am.

Call me horrible and controlling but I just go and check my husbands phone after hes fallen asleep to see when he's set the alarm for.. and if its a ridiculous time for no reason I just set it to later. Idgaf what anyone thinks. Im not gonna be woken up at the crack of dawn for someone who will just sleep thru that alarm anyway (he's a heavy sleeper and if he doesnt actually have to go to work would often just turn over and ignore his alarm) I'm a very light sleeper. I sleep with wax earplugs but a phone alarm even on vibrate will wake me right up and I won't be able to get back to sleep.
I'm going to take care of myself and make sure I dont fall apart from lack of sleep and if that ,exams going and altering my husbands alarm so be it.
Tbf he never really complains, sometimes he doesnt even notice because he's just forgotten he was going to get up at that time to do whatever.
People who sleep thru their unnecessary alarms absolutely give me the rage. Im just not accepting it and thats all there is.
You shouldn't accept it either. Its deeply selfish.

I bought some loop earplugs, night time ones, and they are fantastic for both settling me to sleep and blocking out DP's snoring. I wonder if that may help you.

I am a really light sleeper, and don’t find sleeping an easy thing to do. Almost a year ago, I started wearing an eye mask and earplugs at night. It’s been an absolute game changer for me, has saved my marriage and my sanity. I would still hear doorbell, smoke alarm, loud noises but the low level stuff is zoned out. If I do waken, it’s much easier to fall back asleep as I’m not wide awake and stunned. Honestly, try it. It changed my life.

I get up at 5.30 to exercise, I wear my watch so it vibrates, I get everything ready the night before and put it downstairs so I don't disturb dh. Your dh sounds selfish. Can you nab his phone and turn off the alarm? Some people are just so bloody rude.

This is exactly what I do. It’s selfish to wake up your partner unnecessarily and it wnbu of you to tell him so.

Surely you have a sofa? He can sleep on that if he wants to set his alarm for 5.30, it'll presumably make it harder for him to just fall back to sleep and then he may actually run.

Either way, you won't be disturbed.

He's being a selfish arsehole, especially when you're ill. He should be VERY apologetic and ensuring you get an undisturbed lie-in tomorrow.

I'm a very light sleeper too and my DH also gets up at 5.30 to run. He wears a smart watch though which vibrates. He then moves ninja like out the bedroom to the lounge where he's put out all his running gear the night before.

I still hear him but it doesn't wake me fully so I'm able to doze. You really have my sympathy, lack of sleep is horrendous.

When his alarm goes off kick him out of bed. Or just turn the lights on and start reading your book once he’s woken you up.