I wouldn't normally get involved in other people's business but I'm not sure if I should say or do something about this.
In my office, a couple of people had an affair and its all got a bit much and I'm not sure if things are needing some kind of intervention.
It was all a bit unorthodox . She
seemed infatuated with him from her first day and followed him around like a puppy (bit uncomfortable as he seemed to be quite obviously not keen). I remember being a bit suprised that anything happened at all because on work nights out he seemed to be leaning away and so on.
Anyway, I think it was a bit one sided but ended up becoming sexual as I understand it, and right away the drama of it was carried over into work. I'm really not sure what went on but there was lots of tears in toilets and so on and I felt it was quite inappropriate and made everyone uncomfortable, but fine. Thought it would blow over.
The gist is he has a girlfriend and wants the girlfriend but the female doesn't want to accept that and is having a lot of public meltdowns saying she loves him blah blah. I understand the female contacted the girlfriend and told her (gaaahhh) so all quite unpleasant.
Anyway, as well as the tears and general disruption, the male colleague requested to end contact but the female won't accept this so she's constantly going into his office (20 times a day? and coming out crying) and is apparently calling his home and sending letters and so on.
This has gone on for around four months and isn't lessening and the male colleague looks visibly ill and has had a few stress related absences. He's always been quite quiet and hadn't said much.
This doesn't fall in the realm of normal does it? Im not sure if I should say something to get some help or boundaries put in place. I have tried gently talking to her but it has no effect.