Please read. Is this weird??

It makes me so mad that men think all women will be flattered by their attention.

OP I totally understand that you are trying to be nice and probably don't want to come across as rude, unfortunately blokes like this you actually have to spell it out.

If he messages again say I am not interested, your're the same age as my mum. Then block him.

The amount of situations I have ended up in by considering other peoples feelings before my own and of course always being kind. You did nothing wrong but it's time to be assertive. He is clearly a loser so not a bad thing if he is offended and ignores you!

And there was me thinking he's a total catch 😂

OP, I feel like people are telling you off a bit, which is slightly unfair but seems out of concern. You did absolutely nothing wrong. You were trying to be sociable and now this dickhead has got in the way. What a shame. Look after yourself, learn from this, abd good luck with your next night out. Don’t let it put you off!

Pushy and presumptuous.

All in the name of getting his leg over.

His dialogue and chat up lines are straight out of the book that those Turkish Love rats have read for the purpose of winning women over in order to bed them.

In other words he's a smarmy creep.

I have a lot of compassion and do feel bad about stuff and take peoples feelings into consideration, but I need to learn to think of myself more and be more blunt

It's understandable if you're in your early 20s. I remember back then I'd feel so guilty if I rejected a guy and he gave me the hurt puppy look. I'd let them down easy and dress things up like "you seem really lovely but I don't think I'm interested in dating right now". The problem is some men will use any shred of niceness on your part as an excuse to keep harassing you.

After years of enduring being harassed I have no qualms about telling a man "can you fuck off and leave me alone".

Hey Mr Manager, just a heads up before you suggest Rapey Mcbarstaff walk any other unsuspecting customers home, this is what he is getting up to, I appreciate you thought you were doing a good thing having someone walk me home but you kind of set me up as serial killer bait... thanks ex-customer.

Block him on your mobile and on Facebook. Simple enough.

I'd send one last message stating firmly that I wasn't interested and not to come round to the house or leave anything from now on. Then I'd block.

Return the wine to his boss and hope for his sake that he paid for it.

At what point did @xx200xx say she got pissed ? And even if she did that gives this guy no right to expect her to want to go out with him.
Women ( and men ) should be able to go to the pub / restaurant wherever with out been harassed later

@xx200xx he is been a creep , I agree with pp you need to send a very clear blunt msg, I do not want to go out with you , please stop contacting me.
If you still have it put the bottle of wine on his door step with a note firmly taped to it saying you are returning his gift as you do not want it or any others.
If you meet him in the street be very cool towards him. Reply monosyllabicly if he speaks to you and don't divulge any personal info , or where you are going / will be back.

Smokes weed, alcoholic, doesn’t see his children and love bombs a complete stranger.

yep, run a fucking mile and then keep running!!

Sapphire387 · Today 10:36
'Hi, as I have said, I'm not interested in a relationship. Your messages are making me uncomfortable, please stop messaging me like this.'

Not bad but its too placatory - try;'As I have said, I'm not interested in a relationship with you. You are making me uncomfortable, don't contact me again.'

Jesus a woman should be allowed to go to a pub on her own and not be harrassed or have to give off vibes!

This man is the one who has over stepped the boundaries.

You've done nothing wrong op. But definitely shut him down, block him. You don't have to worry about his feelings. He certainly trampled all over yours. If he doesn't piss off then tell his boss.

Start with wine and flowers then its wanting to give you sausage.

Be firm and get him told.
Pretty arkward him living so close though 😬

I don't want to worry you, but I think you should keep all of his messages in case he refuses to take no for an answer.

In an ideal world yes absolutely. Do we live in an ideal world? No we don't. And until creepy men no longer exist it is sensible that vulnerable women don't make themselves more vulnerable than they already are.

That's not blaming OP, or any other woman for their behaviour. That's encouraging women to be careful and take basic safety precautions, in the same way as if everyone drove perfectly there'd be no road accidents. But as everyone doesn't drive perfectly there are road accidents and therefore we wear seatbelts to try and prevent harm to ourselves.

This is a good message, followed by pp's suggestion to report him to the manager if he doesn't stop.

I also agree that you ought to be able to go to a local bar if you blooming well want to. It is unfortunate that this idiot was there.

One thing I noticed tho.

"I just felt so bad since he got me stuff and got a little worried about the back lash from it. I know I sound stupid."

You don't sound stupid at all. This is down to him. But I think we are conditioned to be polite and he knows this. His "gifts" - the two drinks, the walk home and the wine and promise of flowers - were all intended to put you under an obligation to continue communicating with him. I think we try to let people down gently so as not to be rude, as if being too blunt is impolite or offensive in some way. But its not. He's offending you. You don't "owe" him anything. You asked him to stop and he kept on. Its the same as the classic - I paid for dinner, now you owe me favours.
The fact that you were worried about the backlash shows you felt intimidated by this and worried that he would gossip about you. Like you felt you would be in trouble if you didn't co-operate. I think a lot of women feel like that... and its easy to see it clearly with hindsight but difficult to predict at the outset how far or how predatory the person is.

You are on this thread, asking for advice and taking steps to deal with this creepy guy, and finding out what precautions you can take to prevent it happening again, so don't call yourself stupid. Hopefully this will die down, and no harm done, it will make you more wary in future which in one way is a shame, but also will be an extra layer of protection.

Very creepy and weird

He's a creep who wants to stick his dick in you. Tell him to leave you alone or you'll report him for stalking.

I’m so sorry that was on the wrong thread please ignore! Have reported