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ettieb · 04/09/2023 08:17

Do you wear make up every day? I do...I know I look better and younger when I wear it and feel so much better. I know so many people who don't wear make up on a daily basis who look stunning when they put make up on to go out. Why wouldn't you want to look the best you can all the time? It doesn't need to take a lot of time...5 mins for basic eye liner..mascara.. blusher and lipstick...I have a friend in her 60s and if we go out she wears lipstick and mascara and looks 20 years younger! I also would wear make up if I'm just at home hanging out with my DP...I want to look my best for him. I find it baffling that people will do their hair and make up to go out with with work colleagues but don't do the same on a daily basis for their partner...

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CrawleyEstate · 04/09/2023 10:13

I’m a middle aged, fat disabled wheelchair user so usually invisible to everyone when I’m out- I find people take me more seriously if I’m made up and are less likely to talk over my head or presume I have a carer somewhere that they should be talking to- so I wear it for appointments and things where I need to be taken seriously.

Humidititties · 04/09/2023 10:12

Don't wear make up day to day and when I go out I wear mascara and a bit of tinted lip gloss. I'm 50 and luckily blessed with good skin so I don't feel the need to cover it up, plus I don't like the feel of it on my skin

Toddler101 · 04/09/2023 10:08

I wear make up for me, not my partner and not for anyone else.

When I'm at home, I sometimes do sometimes don't.

DappledThings · 04/09/2023 10:05

Not worn it in years. I used to do it for special occasions like weddings. Not sure I would even for that now.

I'm quite happy feeling that "looking my best" is looking comfortable and content.

Make-up rarely improves how people look, just makes it different.

GarlicGrace · 04/09/2023 10:01

My face is my face. It ain't great, but it's mine. It's rather rude of you to say my face isn't okay, don't you think, @ettieb?

When I wear makeup, my face looks like my face with makeup on. I usually do this as a signal that I've 'made an effort' for the people I'm with; I certainly don't look stunning or younger!

I used to enjoy doing my makeup, as a kind of artistic & meditative ritual. These days it's just a faff, and the result's not worth the time.

racheyc · 04/09/2023 09:59

I think you need to learn to get comfortable in your own skin!

VeridicalVagabond · 04/09/2023 09:56

Nope, I look perfectly lovely without it and at 32 have no desire to look "younger" than I actually am. This is the face I've got and I'm happy with it.

I have no issue with people who choose to wear make-up for whatever reason, but implying that those of us who don't are somehow sloppy or not trying hard enough is silly and shows you've just bought into the bullshit the cosmetics industry is selling that you're not worthy if you're not painted and preened 24/7.

Kirstyshine · 04/09/2023 09:47

5 minutes a day = 35 mins a week/ 2h 20 a month. Time is our most precious commodity & I don’t want to spend it on painting my face.

Nochoiceleft · 04/09/2023 09:40

I find it baffling that you can’t see why I wouldn’t want to wear makeup at home.

Hankunamatata · 04/09/2023 09:37

I don't feel the need to be 'stunning' all the time. I'm happy in my own skin

BashfulClam · 04/09/2023 09:35

Does your partner make an effort to look his best for you? I like to be make up free when relaxing at home as it’s a waste of money and time to put a face on. My husband thinks I’m beautiful bare faced as well as done up. I also like the reaction I get from him when I do make a real effort.

yellowsmileyface · 04/09/2023 09:18

I never wear make up. Too much hassle and it makes my face feel grimy. I also happen to think people look better without it.

I also place little importance on how I look. I certainly don't care about looking younger.

AnonKat · 04/09/2023 08:59

Nope! Mostly because I'm terrible at it. Luckily I've never had bad skin, most I will wear is a bit of mascara.

Dreemhouse · 04/09/2023 08:58

I also think that many people who regularly wear makeup wear makeup because it makes them feel good, they’re not doing it for other people. I don’t think the postman cares what I look like makeup free and I’m certainly not trying to impress him. It is just another way you might take care of yourself, if that particular way interests you. I don’t see that it’s any different to going to the hairdressers.

PetiteNasturtium · 04/09/2023 08:58

You want to look your best for him, what effort does he make?

I occasionally chuck some make up on, there is no pattern whatsoever really except if I’m going to a function. I used to go to loads of Black tie events,
balls and formal dinners so did feel compelled to then especially as the dinners were often free as entertaining visiting guest speakers.

I am off to a wedding in two weeks so will be putting it on then, I can only wear Clinique due to allergies so it’s not exactly cheap so if I was shovelling it on every day it would be very expensive.

VintageTuppence · 04/09/2023 08:57

Just remembering some 15 or 20 years ago ‘glamour shots’ were a big thing here. Your make up would be done professionally and you were supposed to look like a model. A friend had it done and honestly she looked like a drag queen.

VintageTuppence · 04/09/2023 08:51

Hey! Little Girl
Comb your hair, fix your makeup
Soon he will open the door …

I rarely wear make up - work or home. When I do, I don’t look 10 or 20 years younger, I look like me with facemuck and lipstick on.

BaaCode · 04/09/2023 08:48

I've never worn make up. I tried it once as a teen and decided it was too much faffing about so I've never bothered since.

ToughFuss · 04/09/2023 08:48

I tend to put on a bit of mascara but that’s it. I live and work on a farm, the cows don’t care 🤣 I used to wear full make up everyday for work when I had a desk job but I rarely do that now! I went to a wedding on Saturday and did the works and while I looked great (nothing like blowing your own trumpet!!) I’m glad I don’t bother with that, or even half of, anymore. If I’m going for an evening out, or lunch with friends, or something, I tend to put a bit more on but even then only really light eyeshadow, light foundation and do my brows.

persisted · 04/09/2023 08:47

I do for work, although don't bother with eye liner and mascara. Its mostly just to look a bit more alive. I don't have the time, energy or inclination to bother with more on a day to day basis, I simply don't care enough. Thankfully as long as I look generally tidy my job isn't dependent on my looks.

I'm equally as baffled by people who have a full face on just to hang around at home. DH couldn't care less, which is lucky because if he tried to tell me I should 'look my best' he'd be told to get lost.

BIossomtoes · 04/09/2023 08:46

IHeartGeneHunt · 04/09/2023 08:42

Mascara, because I have white hair and grey eyes and without it I look like an albino woodlouse.

Same. And I have no eyebrows and pencilling them in is non negotiable. Doing my face takes five minutes and is as automatic as brushing my teeth or showering in the morning.

Golightly133 · 04/09/2023 08:45

I wear basic makeup every day, but only wear eye shadow contouring etc if I am going out out. Can’t imagine going out with out it I think I look like a potato without it 😂

Dreemhouse · 04/09/2023 08:43

I love makeup and wear it everyday, even for the school run and going out for a run. But I have scarring on my face from
teenage acne and non-existent eyebrows. I enjoy the process of putting it on. However, if I had nicer skin and thicker brows I probably wouldn’t bother. I think if you have good skin, it will always look better without makeup.

IHeartGeneHunt · 04/09/2023 08:42

Mascara, because I have white hair and grey eyes and without it I look like an albino woodlouse.

Mumof1andacat · 04/09/2023 08:41

Just odd bits of concealer as needed, a bit of powder over top and some clear mascara. I don't wear much more on a special occasion. I don't really know how to put make up on

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