Make up

You're idea of looking your best may not be everyone's. Wearing makeup to sit around at home may be a level of vanity not everyone finds attractive.

Can't be bothered. Far too busy in the morning to faff with my face. I enjoy taking time to put it on when I go out.

I guess I just don't care very much what I look like to other people.

I'm surprised you care so much about other peoples appearance.

The last time I wore makeup it was done by a professional for my daughter's wedding. Before that, I can't remember.

I never really learnt to do makeup when I was a teenager and everyone else was doing it. In my late teens and early 20s I thought I was missing something and ought to know how to do it and would make myself look loads better. Then someone who did have quite good makeup skills pointed out that I had naturally thick dark eyelashes and clear skin, and that most of what you'd be trying to achieve with foundation and mascara is to smooth out blemishes and emphasise your eyes, which I didn't really need to do. Anyway, I am lucky enough to still have quite good skin, and I can spend the money I would otherwise have spent on makeup on gin and crisps.

I also would wear make up if I'm just at home hanging out with my DP...I want to look my best for him. I find it baffling that people will do their hair and make up to go out with with work colleagues but don't do the same on a daily basis for their partner

What the actual fuck?

This is very 1950s housewife.

If you enjoy makeup, fine, but stop being judgemental towards women for not piling on slap when they're sitting around at home with their partner. You're the one with the baffling attitude here.

As it happens, my DH seems to like who I am as a person, and how I look naturally. I do wear make up for going out but I would never dream of being with someone who expected me to get dolled up every day for his benefit. Fuck that.

I have super-blonde eyelashes. I look like a piglet without mascara. I also loathe dry lips, so at 51 I slam on lip balm (Laneige sleeping mask) and mascara at the bare minimum. I’m not at all averse to switching out my sunscreen for a tinted one if I feel a bit pale and mysterious.

I used to wear pretty heavy makeup daily. I had laser eye surgery lately and it’s actually been pretty liberating to just not bother.

Today I have a bit of blush and a bit of concealer and that’s it. Vaseline on my lips and moisturiser on my face.

My skin feels much nicer for it!

You’d be able to do it in five minutes if you did it every day.

I don't think everyone is as concerned with how they look, that it'snot a defining factor in who they are as a person. I say this as someone who is concerned and wears make up every day but I do wish I was the sort of person who didn't place as much value on it.

I would if I was dressing up for dinner on the island 🤣

I rarely wear make up, I wear sunscreen every day. Im early 30s.

I like my face and i don't need to look better every day, my natural face isn't unfinished, I don't like the idea of seeing it that way. My husband tells me I'm beautiful every day.

Now and then it's fun to put some make up on but for me it's the same as wearing a dressy outfit, it's not for daily wear.

What I look like is just one small part of who i am.

I think I look perfectly fine without make up

I do it when going out to feel "special"

And 5 minutes my arse to do all that. I can't do my eyeline in 5 hours let alone 5 minutes

Nope. I only wear it for special occasions like weddings, birthdays, fancy meals out etc

Also there's no way this isn't a troll post. You find it "baffling" that women don't want to wear makeup 24/7 to please their partner? Are our natural faces that hideous? I get way more pleasure from doing my skincare than wearing makeup.

If wearing makeup makes you feel good and boosts your confidence, that's great. If you couldn't care less and are confident and happy without, also great. Instead of going 'why wouldn't you want to look your best?', maybe you should just respect the choices other people make.

I put on a bit of concealer and eyeliner and ofc sunscreen if I'm going out as in just nipping to the shops. I occasionally wear mascara to work but I hate the feeling of it. I wouldn't dream of wearing makeup in the house. My skin needs to breathe and my DH doesn't care. I know I look way better with my eye makeup properly done but I refuse to wear a full face of makeup all day every day, I just hate the feeling of it so much.

I choose not to wear it everyday. I don't think people who are done up every day ever look any different but that's just my view. I have dark under eyes but quite good skin otherwise and feel confident without makeup. Whatever works for you.

I would.

Like Caitlin Moran says (not my favourite feminist but this one phrase I always liked): are the men doing it? Is every man spending 'just 5 mins' (as if, frankly, it takes longer than that to put on make-up properly) covering up his skin texture, lengthening his eyelashes, pinkening and plumping and glossing his lips, in order to look 'better and younger'? Is my DP expected to do this when he's just hanging around the house with me so he 'looks his best'?

If not, why not?

The answer is patriarchy.

If you enjoy putting slap on, fill your boots. If you like the way it makes you look, enjoy! But other women don't want to, or they would. Simple as. And questioning that in this wide-eyed "why wouldn't you want to look your best for your maaaan?" way makes you look like a simpleton and a handmaiden.

I used to wear make- up when i was in my teens early 20s .
I dont bother now havent done for years .
Chap stick and face cream only .
Take me as you see me .

I mean, it's fine that you feel this way, but I honestly don't understand what is baffling to you about people who don't wear make up. I wear make up sometimes, but not everyday and not when just at home.

Why wouldn't you want to look the best you can all the time?

It's subjective. I like my face. Sure, with make up I look "better" by the beauty standards of our time. But why on earth should I care about that? My face isn't so hideous that it needs to be covered all of the time least someone be forced to endure its natural awfulness.

And anyway, I'll wager any money that you don't look the best you can all the time. Sure you wear make up, but you won't have perfect hair, your very best clothes, your maximum amount of sleep, every single day. So actually you do understand why people don't look their best all the time.

I have a friend in her 60s and if we go out she wears lipstick and mascara and looks 20 years younger!

Why would I want to appear younger than I am? I have no interest in befriending people who would look down on me for being my actual age. So there is no benefit to appearing 20 years younger.

I also would wear make up if I'm just at home hanging out with my DP...I want to look my best for him. I find it baffling that people will do their hair and make up to go out with with work colleagues but don't do the same on a daily basis for their partner...

I don't want to look my best "for" my partner. I am the way that I am. If he's not into it, he can go elsewhere. My partner values me for much more than the colour and lengh of my eyelashes, thank the lord.

The reason I wear make up at work and not at home is that work is a competitive environment. I want to look more awake and with it, and I know that some people (like you) look down on other women's natural faces.

I haven't worn make up in about 15 years.
And I certainly wouldn't bother wearing it for someone else's benefit! Why should I wear it for a partner?
For me, I look how I look. Slapping a load of shit all over my face doesn't change how I look underneath, so what's the point? If people don't like the way I look, that's on them, not me.

Only wear makeup going to work and out with friends etc. Don't wear it if I'm wfh, quick trip to supermarket or doing the school run on a wfh day. Absolutely no point.