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Do you swear ?

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swearer · 04/09/2023 06:50

What do you think about people who swear ?

Do you judge them ?

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familyissues12345 · 04/09/2023 09:17

I certainly swear more the older I've got - mainly due to the career I was in (childcare) wouldn't allow it, plus my own children aren't little anymore.

That's not to say I use it in every sentence though, that's just not me, but I will use it if I'm being dramatic Grin

Easystuff · 04/09/2023 09:06

Swear quite a bit. We swear when we are messing about joking etc. Also out of frustration. Try not to swear In anger though. We see swearing as a kind of banta. I do swear in front of my younger kids . They are told they are grown up swear words so don't say them. Although there may be the odd slip out.

travelogue · 04/09/2023 08:52

I don't trust people who never swear. It's very unnatural. Except my MIL. Because she was bloody well brought up properly. Grin

But seriously, its the context that counts. I wouldn't swear at my kid's school or in a professional setting. Not to equate professional setting with work necessarily - I learnt most of my best swear-words at work - (I was around a lot of coked up trader / city types in the 90s)

GarlicGrace · 04/09/2023 08:42

That's a good point about the difference between swearing as an exclamation and as a targeted insult. I rarely call anyone names to their face, and even then it's usually affectionate.

Swearing about someone, though ...

oOiluvfriendsOo · 04/09/2023 08:37

I don't swear.
I don't judge adults that do but i really really hate hearing little kids swearing like troopers.

IHeartGeneHunt · 04/09/2023 08:36

Yes. But not around children or people I don't know, or at work.

cushioncovers · 04/09/2023 08:35

Yes I swear quite a bit in my general conversations. Always have done. I don't swear at people or name call though.

GarlicGrace · 04/09/2023 08:35

Bloody hell, I'm fucking judging! What a bunch of foul-mouthed cunts. Bugger off and wash your mouths out.

(I'm a hypocritical bastard.)

Gerrataere · 04/09/2023 08:24

In general, yes. I don’t swear at people, I think if you’re calling someone a ‘fucking wanker’ to their face then it’s beyond swearing and a sign of lack of anger control.

I have children under the age of 10 and whilst I do the usual ‘oh fffff….ippling ‘eck’ sometimes a fuckty fuck does drop out. The huge majority of the time when driving as I live in a city of taxi drivers who think they’re in Formula 1. My eldest is at that precocious stage of ‘mum, we do not use bad words!!’ so of course I apologise profusely 🤣.

swearer · 04/09/2023 08:23

ChocHotolate · 04/09/2023 08:13

Yes when necessary, but I am also unfailingly polite with please and thank yous. I'm complex

I don't think it's fair to presumes that someone who swears wouldn't say their please and thanks yous though.

They're two different things imo.

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swearer · 04/09/2023 08:21

Polis · 04/09/2023 08:16

No, I don’t.

Yes, I do form opinions on those who do.

What kind ? I also form opinions of others who avoid swearing at all costs.

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AllAboardTootToot · 04/09/2023 08:16

Fuck no! Disgusting behaviour swearing. Cannot fucking stand anyone who does!

Polis · 04/09/2023 08:16

No, I don’t.

Yes, I do form opinions on those who do.

Heyhoherewegoagain · 04/09/2023 08:15

I use fuck like punctuation

ChocHotolate · 04/09/2023 08:13

Yes when necessary, but I am also unfailingly polite with please and thank yous. I'm complex

PomegranateOfPersephone · 04/09/2023 08:08

No I don’t.

I try to avoid spending a lot of time with people who swear habitually as I find it stressful.

It seems that most people swear so it is more that I feel the odd one out rather than judging others for doing what is basically normalised behaviour.

Catsmere · 04/09/2023 07:53

I drop the F bomb constantly since working in a job where it was the word of choice. The one I won't use is the C word dropped so freely here; it's the most misogynistic word, to me, and one of the few that are off-limits.

SpringleDingle · 04/09/2023 07:53

Like a fucking sailor!!

Dolores87 · 04/09/2023 07:52

Yes alot although I never say the C word. But otherwise it's just words.

ettieb · 04/09/2023 07:51

I have never been so shocked as when I was younger and went to visit a school friend who I hadn't seen since I left school.. she called her 3 year old child the c word and then flicked her fag Ash on the floor and rubbed it into the carpet with her foot.

BogRollBOGOF · 04/09/2023 07:51

Fuck yeah, I like a swear.
(I even have the literacy skill to turn it into poetry that scans neatly 😉 )

I do have a filter. I didn't swear in front of the children when they were younger, but now they're around older juniors/ secondary they hear it anyway. Going to secondary school having been drilled that it was uncooth to swear did me no social favours, and non sweary options like "buzz off" just resulted in derisory laughter, and I quickly learned to upgrade my vocabulary.

It's learning when not to deploy it and having multiple levels to express yourself that matters. I have sworn at someone (being deeply infuriating) once on holiday and travelling in close confines for days, but otherwise one of my strict rules is not to swear at people. Don't swear loudly. Don't kill the effect by doing it too much.

Every language has swear words or ways to cause offense, or make a point with words. The meaning of swear words and what they tell us about society is interesting.

ettieb · 04/09/2023 07:49

I would say I swear moderately normally but as soon as I get behind the wheel of my car I turn into a potty mouth. If somebody bumped into me in the supermarket I wouldn't call them a fucking tosser... but if someone pulls out in front of me I do. (I'm not shouting this out of my window to be clear but muttering to myself). When my son was young obviously I curbed this behaviour.. there were a lot of made up words instead of the swearing such as 'you fuffling twit' or 'you wonka'!!

HermioneWeasley · 04/09/2023 07:48

Lisheens · 04/09/2023 07:32

Not only do I swear, but I swear in five languages.

Swearing goals

Funkyslippers · 04/09/2023 07:41

A bit at work and home. I don't say anything more than shit infront of the kids. I cringe if I hear someone swearing a lot in normal conversation as they should be more considerate of others around them. A woman at work freely admits she lets her young kids swear and I couldn't really understand her reasoning

ParadiseZity · 04/09/2023 07:40

I swear like a trooper. It sort of tempers my smart accent and conventional appearance.