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Do you swear ?

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swearer · 04/09/2023 06:50

What do you think about people who swear ?

Do you judge them ?

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LittleRedYarny · 05/09/2023 11:48

senua · 04/09/2023 11:26

That's the trouble with swearing and/or showing anger. It tells other people that you are in "pain", that you are not in control of the situation, that you have lost the game.
It's definitely not a sign of intelligence, it's a sign of despair.

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I’m curious, why would it be a bad thing to show you are in pain and/or despair though?

GarlicGrace · 05/09/2023 00:42

My very favourite story from my nannying days is of the toddler who was being potty trained. The first complete sentence she uttered was "Oh no, the little bugger's crapped on the living room carpet!"

Her mother and I stopped swearing in the kitchen after that 😂😍🤐

ToWhitToWhoo · 05/09/2023 00:34

I judge people who swear AT others, especially if they do so in order to intimidate. I don't judge them for swearing as such.

staceyflack · 04/09/2023 23:42

All the fucking time. I 'd like to swear less though... and constantly fail 🤬

egowise · 04/09/2023 23:20

Do I fuck!

RubyRubyRubyRubay · 04/09/2023 21:49

I stealth swear mainly. So, I can say the c word really loud without moving my lips when someone drives like a twat near me. I can say f you almost silently under my breath at my teen when he is constantly answering back from another room and I am keeping my (percieved) cool.

I swear with friends when talking about absolute w'ker men who have shown total disregard for children, truth, honesty, integrity and respect.

I also say shit very loud if I stub my toe or drop a plate.

FindingMeno · 04/09/2023 21:44

I do judge people who swear loudly.
I think I'd like to be a person who doesn't swear at all.

FindingMeno · 04/09/2023 21:41

Quite a lot though I do have an off button.

AffIt · 04/09/2023 21:19

In context and among friends, I have a mouth like a fucking sailor.

However, I am aware of the company I keep and the situation I'm in and gauge it appropriately.

I do get very judgey about people swearing wildly in public.

floofball4 · 04/09/2023 21:09

I try not to. I think it shows a real lack of imagination.

Blackblueandgold · 04/09/2023 21:06

I can honestly say I've never said a swear word ever. I think it sounds horrible.

Bingus · 04/09/2023 20:58

Cock is a term of endearment where I'm originally from.

Teajenny7 · 04/09/2023 20:54

Toastiesforever · 04/09/2023 13:37

In scotland "Cunt" is a term of endearment 😍

Never heard it as a term of endearment in Scotland or anywhere else

PurpleBugz · 04/09/2023 18:09

I switch it off when I'm working as I work with kids. Also don't do it around strangers or any kids in general. But at home around my own kids? All the fucking time. I teach them they are bad words you can use as a grownup and at appropriate times- my kids don't swear at all.

Verv · 04/09/2023 15:45

Yep, like a sailor.
No, I dont judge, unless its parents swearing at young kids.

Oblomov23 · 04/09/2023 15:21

I try not to, but I've noticed my swearing had increased in recent years. I'm going to try and reduce it.

Yerroblemom1923 · 04/09/2023 15:05

No, I make up my own swear words for comedic effect. I also find it aggressive hearing someone speak where every other word is the f word. Think it makes people sound a bit dim if that's the sum of their vocabulary.
I have sworn when in pain "pinch finger in door" type thing. There's a time and a place. Hate hearing kids swear as you know where they've got it from. Eg mum to 3 year old Jayden in the supermarket "For fuck's sake, Jayden, if you don't fucking stop crying...." etc etc
Aggressive, uncouth and unnecessary.

Theoldwoman · 04/09/2023 14:51

I don’t.

I don’t judge unless it’s absolutely vulgar and not necessary.

ShutTheDoorBabe · 04/09/2023 14:51

One of my SILs wouldn’t let her toddlers say ‘wee’ and ‘poo’. She insisted on ‘urine’ and ‘excrement’.

Not allowing them to say piss or shit I could understand but wee and poo?! Bonkers!

Devilsmommy · 04/09/2023 14:22

Lisheens · 04/09/2023 07:34

One of my SILs wouldn’t let her toddlers say ‘wee’ and ‘poo’. She insisted on ‘urine’ and ‘excrement’.

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What??? 😳😳😳

ShutTheDoorBabe · 04/09/2023 14:13

Yes unless I'm at work. A child bit me at work a few weeks before the summer holidays and I almost shouted out, "Fuck!!!" but I stopped myself. Otherwise, I swear if I need to.

BeachHutCornwall · 04/09/2023 14:07

I swear like a navvy. Literally don't care, if anyone is faux-raged, then that is not a 'me' problem

Prelapsarianhag · 04/09/2023 14:05

I swear like a trooper, but I'm 70 and I don't give a fuck.

FrenchandSaunders · 04/09/2023 14:05

Yes, in context, and when needed. I never swore around my children when they were small but by mid teens I was relieved to reintroduce it. The rules were they were never allowed to swear at anyone, but the odd swear rude in context is fine.

FFS is always on the tip of my tongue these days ... menopausal.

Pancakefam · 04/09/2023 13:59

I judge people that swear in front of small children, then tell the children that they're not allowed to swear, as massive hypocrites. Also, I'm not convinced by the "sweary people are smarter" type conclusions and the people that push them.