Am I just too sensitive?

Why do you keep saying you’re done when you clearly don’t mean it. It feels manipulative. Only say it if you mean it.

No. You said he was on his last chance and then he made three major dickhead moves. Get rid of him and stand strong.

He refuses to respect your healing body enough to put a condom on. It's hardly an onerous task to wear condoms while your partner is recovering from birth.

He refuses to respect your body as the mother of your child and makes you insecure and feel bad about yourself.

He starts arguments about sex and your body because he can.

He's disgusting. Get rid of him. Stop giving him a million chances.

Was only enquiring about the festival/baby situation if the OP is relying on other half to have the baby, because he sounds resentful about it.

Just let me drop my own experience in here: my ex was my first and only boyfriend, I married him, had 4 children with him and stayed with him for nearly 25 years. He never learned to trust me and never, never stopped accusing me of having sex with other men, planning to have sex with other men, or thinking about planning to have sex with other men. Eventually I'd had enough and left the idiot. He told all his relatives and our children that I'd left him so I could... you guessed it 😁He said he knew it was what I had been planning all along. I said if that were the case, why had I take a quarter of a century to get round to it? He had no answer, of course. It was just a stick to beat me with. He also used to accuse me of lying because he knew damned well I'm honest to a fault (unlike him). He did the sneering at my clothes thing too. Arsehole. Now he is no longer my problem. 25 years is a long time to put up with that rubbish, though. Terrible waste. Don't do that.

Oh get rid of this abusive prick. He's trying to make you feel bad and atthe same time he's trying to make you pregnant. Can you see how messed up he is in his head?

Going to a festival two months after having a baby is not immature.

A festival can just be a one day event, not always a weekend of several days long.

And even if it was a few days, if the woman is healed, and is pumping or formula feeding she can take a few days to do something for herself if she wants to.

This.

You might find the Freedom Programme helpful.

You're not too sensitive. He's too dickish. Leave now while you've the most of your future waiting for you. There'll be less time for the better version of your life the longer you stick with this immature shitbag

Please don't take him back for the third time today, it's getting ridiculous. He's a piece of shit, ditch him for good.

@Thementalloadisreal what's wrong with her going to a festival ?
She's 2 months post partum and it's not the dark ages!!!

I would have no patience or understanding for this. Pls seriously consider if you want to be with a man like this.

@avemariiiaa a 'breather' yes but I am with @Thementalloadisreal. It's indicative of greater issues and level of maturity.

Why does it matter who is looking after the baby? At 8 weeks PP she is more than able to have a breather.

You both have a lot of growing up to do. Both sound immature.

@JMSA I was interested in the ops responses. There are these posts every day and they are so demoralising for women in general.

Op. I agree with the other posters that he is disrespectful. All he seems to care about is condomless sex before you are ready. And then making nasty remarks about your appearance.
When you have just had a baby a partner should be kind and supportive. It doesn't sound like he is. Don't worry about your appearance based on what he says.

A simple pleasure like taking your new baby out for a walk on a sunny Sunday - isn't much to ask.

Have you got any family, or RL support? Talk to friends and family if you can.

Good God woman get some self respect! Ditch the loser and jack up your standards a few notches.

This guy does nothing but trample your boundaries and try to knock your self esteem. Fuck him off, stop wasting your life with him. You want your kid to grow up thinking this is normal in a relationship? Fuck that.

He's emotionally abusive. It's very hard to leave men like that, because they know exactly what to say to stop you leaving.

Sounds like he's very good at manipulating you into giving things another try. You clearly don't want to be with him, but he just won't let you go. You need to realise that his words are meaningless. You've already said you don't believe him. Trust that instinct. Everything he's saying to convince you to stay is manipulation. He doesn't mean a word of it.

Sadly, pregnancy and the birth of a first child is one of the most common instigators for abusive behaviour. They keep the mask on until they feel they've trapped their partner. I'm willing to bet he guilts you and uses your baby as a reason why you should give him another chance.

But you've seen who he is and you need to take action. Who laughs at someone's outfit as a joke? What's the punchline exactly? He clearly wanted to devalue you and lower your self esteem. Things will only get worse. You need to leave him, and mean it. Be prepared that he'll say anything to get you back.

I would encourage you to contact Woman's Aid for support.

No one would argue with you there. So just say that in the first place. Asking why she'd have a child with him - when the child is already here and no doubt loved - is pointless and unkind.

To me whats happened here is you've stood up for yourself and called out his behavior and that's hit a nerve. So, he's ramped it up trying to have sex with you and then refused to wear protection and when that failed, resorted to humiliating you.

Leave him, knock it on the head, he's a wrongun will only get worse.

(I’m not on contraception, as of yet, as I want to have a proper think and chat with dr about which would be best, as I’ve had a LOT of negative experiences on contraceptives and I’m considering using condoms as contraception.)

OP - please do sort this out before you even consider having a fling or getting into any sort of relationship with someone else.

I don’t understand why you’re with your ‘D’P at all, let alone why you’re questioning ending things with him. He sounds like a complete drop-kick.

Dump and move on.

OP, your partner: questions why you'd want a normal and non-invasive contraception choice just after you've had a baby, mocks and belittles you about how you look, and belittles you about why you want to break up with him instead of even trying to listen to your reasons.

he’s trying to say I’m only breaking up with him because I’m going to a festival in 2 weeks and I want to be single for it. Is this a person you want to be with? This is a dismissive attitude towards you. A caring partner who loved you well might want to know why you want to break up with him (what's making you unhappy) and consider whether it's something he can work on improving to keep you in his life. He's saying "haha, you just want to break it off with me so that you (who just had a baby!) can fuck around". What opinion of you is he displaying?

The thing is, you’re not going to end it with him whatever we say.

He is awful and controlling and he's trying to ruin your self esteem!!!! OP get rid of this shitbag he's just paranoid because he knows he's a loser with no prospects

Bin him. Sounds very childish.