DH has really triggered me

Why not?

Wow. You actually read this thread to your dh, aghast at how he's being maligned 😬
It seems to have really touched a nerve, considering your actual post stated he would have ripped it out in a fit of temper?

Well, OP started this thread because her husband ripped out her favourite plant so lets keep the thread on track. Its a tactic of abusive men to destroy something their partner treasures; plants, pets, belongings, hobbies, relationships. Who knows why. Maybe they resent your attention going elsewhere, maybe they want to hurt your feelings.

I said he is hilarious. He has the funniest sense of humour, has everyone almost wetting themselves with his antics. He isnt the slightest bit violent to humans. If he got snagged on a thorny bush in our garden, he wouldnt hesitate to rip it out and save our disabled toddler and pets from reaching worse thorny fate. He's my rock, he dedicates his life to mine and kids happiness and putting smiles on our faces and so super busy with work he has no time to beat around the bush with long discussions about plant life.
A plant is a plant, no contest against plant life vs harm to human/child. If it's a hazard or in the way then better to get rid, we've got far more worries is our life to waste so much time and emotion on a plant.
I've read the posts that's he's being perceived as shit to him based on a hypathetical scenario and he thinks people are far too quick to judge on this thread and politely hasnt retaliated. He said he hasnt got a clue which plants are which or how to care for each so feels sad for the anger at OPs husband as he would probably make same mistakes.

It is entirely fair for me to say that I feel attacked for someone saying my husband is shit, especially when the post was about someone else's DH not mine.

I'm not attacking you, @CarasMama .

I'm amazed that you think your h's behaviour is normal. It's really not. No violence or abuse is acceptable.

@CarasMama
Nobody is attacking you. They are questioning whether you having a violent husband puts you in a good position to offer OP advice.

And yes, I think ripping a plant out of the ground in a fit of temper is an act of violence. Its a living thing, and in a way I find it just as shocking as kicking a dog. What right do you have to destroy a living body for no reason other than anger?

Thread is over giraffe, be quiet and stop attacking me

Obviously not, based on this thread. People love to point out a mistake. But the poster I responded to seems to hint at harm or offence that the op may cause, which is just absurd.

In any case, it was clear to me that the op had confused the very specific and relatively recent phrase ‘being triggered’ with the long-standing dictionary meaning of trigger which can apply to any emotion or consequence. I understood what she meant.

You won't be taken seriously?

Although you never plant a rose in exactly the same place twice.

Tell him to replant the rose or take cuttings from it. Google is your friend here. Or rather his.

Why? What’s going to happen?

Was the rose bush accessible to your little ones, somewhere they could hurt themselves on its thorns?

Stop making excuses for him,@Chiccaletta 🙄

@hahavzv , I'm sorry your h has been so horrible. You need to tell him how you feel, and he should buy you a new rose bush and plant it to try and make up for his mistake.

It also sounds like things need to change going forward. He needs to start doing his share of housework and childcare. That's only fair.

Sending 💐

How does being a hilariously hopeless gardener make him a shit husband?

He's everything I could ask for in a man, but he's shit at gardening and understandably has lazy weekends after his 60+ hour work weeks.
Seriously giraffe, next you'd be saying that's grounds for divorce!

🙄🙄🙄 I don't find any of that funny, @CarasMama

That your h is so aggressive at mowing that he would seriously damage a rose bush, or that he would get so angry at being scratched that he would uproot the bush? Neither of those things is normal. I suggest you raise your bar a little.

How would you feel if your h had damaged your favourite plant while amazingly managing not to feature any of his own?

It's a form of weaponised incompetence, done deliberately to hurt your partner and ensure they never ask you to do anything again.

Oh I hear you!! There is so much to do around the house and my DP either does the chore I am doing (drives me nuts) or does something mundane that has no real benefit to day to day life!!!

My DPs a hoarder so will “tidy” the small stuff I have instead of dealing with all his crap and it makes me see red!! It is 100% weaponised incompetence- appearing to help but not really then sulking if we say WTF!!

I think, like a lot of phrases, it seems to end up being used in a very general sense - a bit like the overuse of the word 'legend' or 'hero'.

Can’t people resolve basic arguments about cohabiting anymore without involving mental health words?

YABU.

He annoyed you, or you had an argument. This is not what “trigger” means.

Does your DH know the difference between annuals and perennials?

Might he have ignorantly thought once its stopped flowering that you pull it out as you do with petunias and such to replace the following year?

Was the rose bush accessible to your little ones, somewhere they could hurt themselves on its thorns?

@SheSaidHummingbird
I'd say she probably gets the message on that front by this stage

Right. Unless OP has some traumatic history with partners disposing of rose bushes unjustifiably.