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Laundry woes

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Motnight · 01/09/2023 09:04

I do all the laundry for the family. Always have, I don't usually mind.

This morning, rushing around as usual I put a wash on. 95% my husband's clothes. All of which he has put in the laundry basket.

The washing machine has finished washing. I open the door. White tissue paper everywhere. It's a dark wash. Husband pottering around. I say, there's tissue everywhere, you haven't emptied your pockets. He says well it's not a huge problem and just stands there. I pull the clothes out. Tissue paper all over, tissue paper in the washing machine and now tissue paper on the kitchen floor and on me. I say this has really pissed me off, it's extra work. He smirks.

I pull out all clothes, separate my few items from his and throw his into the garden, put the washing machine on to clean it and brush up the paper on the floor.

He says that I am over reacting. I say that he couldn't even be arsed to apologise which is what has really annoyed me.

I go back to work (wah - started just after 7 am as really busy). He goes upstairs - he isn't currently working.

AIBU in leaving his clothes outside for him to deal with?

OP posts:
Motnight · 01/09/2023 09:08

Not being passive! Passive surely would have meant me clearing up my husband's laundry? And I don't mind doing the laundry. What I do mind is the lack of respect regarding my time and effort.

OP posts:
Tlolljs · 01/09/2023 09:07

I know what you mean but I have to say I always check pockets.
I know you shouldn’t have to but it’s not only his clothes it’s yours too and the mess.

UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 01/09/2023 09:06

If he's not working and you are, why on earth are you doing all the laundry?

I'd never touch any clothes belonging to the smirking ass again.

gradistar · 01/09/2023 09:05

Oh my god of course you are not being unreasonable! Why do women stay with men like this 🥲 don't be so passive