Gushy Facebook posts

Yes, sneering at the grieving, the abused and the betrayed is so funny, giggle giggle.

Not up in arms.
Not outraged.
Just commenting on a light-hearted thread. 😂

That is bad to be fair.

It's the people who gush about themselves that make me react negatively. I'll never forget this one:

A clearly filtered selfie with "#benjaminbutton I swear I look younger every year. No makeup, no filter, just me, high on life"

Cue the love hearts and beautiful- inside-and-outs.

Now, I'm a big fan of happiness for all, but I just secretly shook my head in despair as this nauseating circus of egotism and condonation played out for all to see.

Wow it's almost like different people like to mark things in ways that are different to you. Imagine that!!!!

Christ you are harsh. Maybe some people like to publicly acknowledge a loved one who is no longer here. I'm ok if people want to do that. I'll tell you what's weirder, people getting all up in arms and outraged about things people do that don't affect them in any way

AIBU and mumsnet in general would be very empty without all of these posts!

What, threads sneering at the abused, betrayed, grieving and unhappy on Facebook? No, there's plenty of other content to replace that.

AIBU and mumsnet in general would be very empty without all of these posts!

it’s only social media, people need to lighten up a bit. Some people don’t like other people’s online activity, so what. It’s hardly like they broke into their house and shat on the carpet!

Or to ask what time tesco opens

OP cares enough to attempt to start an online pile on about it and then get snitty when criticised for it.

I can’t stand the OTT SM posts where everyone loves each other sooooooooooo much.

I know a couple in their 50’s who are constantly arguing in public, breaking up and getting back together - they’re like a walk g soap opera. But on FB they are so much in love and post almost daily about their prefect relationship . Not sure why they can’t just tell each other while they’re sitting on sofa together but there’s no attention in that is there?

no one has said people aren’t allowed to post certain things. Just that they find certain things annoying - they aren’t telling anyone what they can and can’t post? I really don’t get the defensiveness. It’s only fb for goodness sake, no one really cares.

Fundraising if it involves a Just Giving link or something would probably be a no-no for some too as it’s not “reading the room” and “out of touch” with the cost of living.

Right!

The option has been there for years. I think OP just posted here because they knew they would have some people agree with them and like to think they’re superior or above such people. From OP posts, they seems to get off on it. One of their posts is how much they and others laugh behind this couple’s back yet not only is it none of OP’s business but if OP is actually friends with them, it’s even more sad.

I've just seen a Happy Heavenly Birthday Nan post on my feed, full of photos of my friend and her Nan throughout her life.

It's a lovely way to honour someone who was a big part of your life.

I do the same for my mother who died when I was young, and equally anyone who doesn't like it can also get fucked.

I wish my late brother a happy birthday every year on his birthday.

Anyone who doesn't like it can get fucked.

@ihaveanopinion

I asked my previous question more so for you, since in your OP, you identify that this particular couple who are "giving you the ick" post the same "gushy" posts every year. If that's the case, have you not learned that this is their posting pattern by now, and if so, surely you can unfollow or unfriend? Why would you subject yourself to such "ick" year upon year? The mind boggles.

Genuine question: Do you know how to use the Facebook unfollow / unfriend feature? And if so, why don't you use it instead of getting yourself so worked up about other people's posts that you need to post on Mumsnet about it?

You think?
Surprising how many people go on with their own lives after the funeral when your life has changed forever.
People are busy. Not everyone remembers dates in the same way the grieving person does.
An older lady i know lost her husband and she posts quite a lot about him. It's her way of dealing with it. If that means just one person decides to call in on her then surely that's a good thing.
Who are you to decide how people can and can't grieve? Years ago it didn't exist, but life changes. Don't you do anything that wasn't an option years ago? Are you stuck in the past.
Maybe those grieving people don't want to pick up the phone because they don't want to disturb anyone.
Try and see things from a way other than your own!

@Cosyblankets

I asked pretty much the same last night. I'm just scrolling to see if there's anything that people deem ok to post.
Not found anything yet....
If no one posted anything there would be nothing to read.

I'll have a go at interpreting this in the MN social media acceptable use code:

OK:
Charity/fundraising posts "I'm fundraising for x charity": good because they make you look virtuous without being political
Landscapes/beach scenes: fine because they make you look consensual.

Not OK:
Any pictures of your hubby or reference to his existence, let alone affection or gratitude: he's having an affair
Pictures of your kids: they are going to be traumatised, targeted by paedophiles and taken into care in later life because you exposed them to social media.
Any selfies, particularly ones involving filters, you're a chav with no taste and probably having an affair.
Anything political, you're a virtue signaller and "woke"
Any holiday pics: you're a narcissist.
Any pictures of social activities: you've got no real friends.

Interesting, btw, that these objections are almost always levelled at the behaviour at women on social media. I've yet to see anyone complain about their DH's endless golf/cycling pics on Facebook.

I asked pretty much the same last night. I'm just scrolling to see if there's anything that people deem ok to post.

Not found anything yet....
If no one posted anything there would be nothing to read.

@DrSbaitso it's usually just a last resort when they realise they cannot engage with the other post in any convincing way

The thing is, it's always in response to an actually quite dispassionate and well-reasoned post. Yes, you've annoyed the person, but that's because you said something objectionable and now they're telling you why. Why do people think it's such razor wit to respond with "musta hurt ur feelings lol"?

Were they trying to hurt someone and now they're pleased that they think they've managed it? Because that's much worse than a drippy FB status that, as annoying as it might be, wasn't intended to distress anyone.

@DrSbaitso I completely agree.

'Ooh, have I said something which has caused you personal pain and distress? LOL. Well done me!"