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to drink while TTC

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ncob · 27/08/2023 11:01

(name changed for this)

I have known of people having a glass of champagne over christmas dinner etc while pregnant and always thought I wouldnt do it.

Fast-forward to now, been TTC over a year (irregular cycles, endo etc). I have basically been teetotal this entire time. Not a big drinker so it wasn't too hard. Have had the occasional drink during/ immediate post-period when I know theres 0 chance of getting pregnant (DH away etc), still I could count this on one hand in the last 15 months or so.

Just feel a bit fed up and fancy a drink this bank hol weekend (i doubt ill have one as in 2 week wait currently and dont want to mess up my chances) but going forward, is it such a crime to drink occasionally till you do get pregnant? Surely most people do? Annoying that men dont have to think of any of this.

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TheYadaYada · 27/08/2023 12:25

I didn't go sober when ttc - it didn't occur to me.

In fact, I found out I was pregnant a week after drinking for hours on end at a wedding.

IsLarryFromSomething · 27/08/2023 12:22

KimberleyClark · 27/08/2023 12:20

And the first thing you will be told if you are struggling to conceive is to give up alcohol!

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True - although I'm not a big drinker to begin with. So this wouldn't make a difference to usual habits for some of us!

needastrongoneagain · 27/08/2023 12:22

Context, DS is in his 20's

We were not trying to conceive. I got horrendously drunk on NYE, when I was already pregnant. Mortified obviously when I found out.

He's fine, happy, healthy, fit and well educated and we can laugh about it together now!

KimberleyClark · 27/08/2023 12:20

IsLarryFromSomething · 27/08/2023 12:10

I'm TTC and when I saw the doctor for a different issue, she said not to go crazy but if I'm sure I'm not pregnant then it's ok.

Think about how many babies are conceived after a night of drinking!

And the first thing you will be told if you are struggling to conceive is to give up alcohol!

Oysterbabe · 27/08/2023 12:20

I drank to excess at a hen weekend before I found out, would have been been 4-5 weeks pregnant. DD was born with a heart defect and had to have surgery. I'll always think it was my fault, even though I'll never know whether it made a difference. With DS I only drank for half the month, from my period until ovulation.

mfbx5sf3 · 27/08/2023 12:17

Unless you were a previously very heavy drinker (which could reduce fertility) there is no reason at all to remain completely the total whilst TTC. Your baby isn’t even connected to your blood stream for the first 8 weeks let alone at the moment of conception.

Cowlover89 · 27/08/2023 12:14

I drank when I was 6 weeks pregnant but didn't think I was pregnant. Little man is fine

IsLarryFromSomething · 27/08/2023 12:10

I'm TTC and when I saw the doctor for a different issue, she said not to go crazy but if I'm sure I'm not pregnant then it's ok.

Think about how many babies are conceived after a night of drinking!

Original poster
ncob · 27/08/2023 12:01

...and all your babies turned out fine?

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Merryoldgoat · 27/08/2023 11:17

The week before I found out I was on holiday eating pate, soft cheeses, lots of wine etc.

Merryoldgoat · 27/08/2023 11:16

I just drank until I got a BFP. Then I didn’t drink (except for a Buck’s Fizz on Christmas morning when I was 36 weeks).

LittleBearPad · 27/08/2023 11:13

LastNightAPandaSavedMyLife · 27/08/2023 11:12

It never occurred to me not to drink.

Actually before I found out I was pregnant with my first DC I was at a wedding with a free bar.

I was on a holiday with a lot of cocktails and wine.

LastNightAPandaSavedMyLife · 27/08/2023 11:12

It never occurred to me not to drink.

Actually before I found out I was pregnant with my first DC I was at a wedding with a free bar.

Timmytap18 · 27/08/2023 11:12

This wouldn't be something I'd even think about tbh.

WeWereInParis · 27/08/2023 11:10

Surely most people do?

Yes, I would say that most people continue as normal until they get a positive test.

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