To expect a daily reply?

Why would he be into you if he's never met you?

No, nor would I.

You almost lost me at 'talking prior', op, I wondered what that was but having read on, I 'get' the gist.

I imagine you would have contact either the day before, or in the morning of, the date, if only to confirm and finalise arrangements.

If someone was constantly texting me, eg every day, it would drive me potty and I'd feel hemmed in.

I don’t text people before the first date, save for maybe one message the day before and on the day to check plans are still on. Otherwise, it builds up a false sense of intimacy which, if you meet and realise they are nothing like their photos / a complete tit / otherwise not for you, just feels like a waste of time.

Also, what do you text to a total stranger? I genuinely don’t care how their day has been or what they’re up to later, which seems to be the stock text exchange.

I would consider a daily text from someone I haven’t even met yet to be extremely odd, even stalkerish or needy. It would be very offputting.

Yeah I think a few messages to check in isn't an unreasonable expectation, just to show some interest. It would suggest he can't really be arsed

I had to sit on my hands to stop myself texting my now DH when we were first dating luckily he felt the same. If someone doesn’t want to talk to you or respond in the early days - it’s not looking good. I wouldn’t have put up with a whole week of nothing

God no. I never even wanted daily texts PRIOR to a first date, let alone expect them!

For me, a daily text is the absolute minimum I would expect from someone who was interested in me.

It's not a love letter - it takes five seconds.

He didn't text for a week whilst on holiday?

Any chance it's cause he's on hols with his Mrs and kids?.....

He's arranged a date!! FFS that's the expression of interest. Unless he cancels or doesn't turn up.

But I hope you've been texting others in the meantime, OP? Never put all your dating eggs in one basket.

When I'm on holiday I don't even text my family, much less someone I've never met....

You should have posted your update as the OP 😂

No fucking way! He didn’t text you for a whole week on holiday? No photo of the beach/sights/anything?

Bin him.

If he didn't reply for a week then I'm afraid he's just not that into you. No-one goes on holiday and doesn't take/use their phone. And before anyone pipes up with 'oh but roaming charges', he could have sent one reply saying - text you when I get back.

If you've not been on the date yet, I think it's a bit soon for daily messages. People are busy and not glued to their phones, especially on holiday.

Why don't you just mention it when you see him in person? Easier to agree how often you'll check in with each other than getting all worked up about the lack of response.

I think this is very individual.

Personally I think it a bit strange to be expecting daily messages - especially if one person is on holiday.
Like a pp, I would find it a bit odd to be getting daily messages before even meeting someone.

Yeah I expect a daily reply. If you've texted him with a question I'd expect a reply within 30 mins or an hour tbh, we all know we are on our phones we all can see our phones most of the time, there are exceptions if you're working or on a night out, day trip etc but you can always sneak 20 seconds to reply.

Can't stand people that try to play hard to get mind games by not replying.

One or two texts a day is probably enough

I wouldn’t expect to be in contact before the date, really. The odd text, sure, but every day would put me off.

I don’t think I’d be in touch after the date was arranged and confirmed by both parties, except maybe the day before to say ‘See you tomorrow. Looking forward to it.’

Frankly, I wouldn’t want to commit too much to texting before actually meeting. If someone sent very frequent texts about nothing in particular, specially if in text speak, it would be a major turn-off.

@HappiestSleeping agree with the too much contact. Any OND who texts me daily gets binned (especially the ‘morning beautiful’ ones. Do one mate, we’ve not even bloody met yet!). It’s a trying to create a faux relationship. Not keen on daily contact after we’ve met TBF, unless we’ve really fallen for each other (which I would say is unlikely after one meeting for me and any bloke who said he had would be waving multiple 🚩🚩🚩).

I got what the OP meant (I think!).

Met online.

Date arranged.

How often should they text between the date being arranged and actually meeting? If OP texts the date should he reply the same day or is it ok to leave replying for a day or more. I'd say he should reply within 24 hours.

Ahh sorry. Seems I'm wrong.

This I would say. 👆

Admittedly I haven't been in the dating scene for a long while, but my general ethos is that text messages (whatever their format) are non urgent methods of communication and can be replied to as and when. Especially if it is general chit chat. OP - I would be wary of coming across as too needy. Expecting too much contact is off putting.

I think OP means she has a date arranged with someone a little way into the future and to arrange this, but also generally, they have been texting each other. How long do we think is a reasonable amount of time to take before responding to a text in these circumstances.

FWIW, I'd say up to 8/9 hours? Generally working day length?