Are threesomes normal

I think I'm the only one of my friends who hasn't tbh.

Wouldn't overthink this x

If your a committed couple and both want a threesome , then that's normal.

If you don't , then don't , that's normal.

If one half does , and the other not , that's a problem and you'd probably better off not being together.

Agreed. A threesome isn't part of most people's experience or desires, but it's not so unusual I'd be worried about the character of anyone who has been involved with one.

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I don’t think it’s normal in the sense that most people have them, but I don’t think it’s that unusual. I don’t think it’s a red flag as long as everyone involved was happy with the arrangement and it was consensual.

I guess it’s how you define ‘normal’. I wouldn’t say normal in the sense that the majority of people have them, but it’s quite a popular fantasy and pretty vanilla compared to intense kinkiness. It’s difficult to say if it’s a red flag without context, as others have asked - did his ex want it too or was she pushed into it? Or was it a mutual fantasy they decided to explore? Was their sex life getting a bit dry so they decided to explore it to spice things up? Etc.

I wouldn't regard it as a red flag on it's own. Do you know whether it was him or his ex-wife who wanted it? It it were me, I'd just make my feelings VERY clear if it was something I'd not want to happen - make it a deal breaker. Then see his reaction and what he does next. He may be a "good un" and just wanting to be upfront and honest about his past experiences. Or he may be sounding you out as to whether you'd be up for it for him to decide whether to continue the relationship or not if you're not interested in that kind of thing. I think you have to look at the bigger picture, context, etc.

I don't know anyone that does (at least not openly) and can't imagine anyone i know doing it. Personally I can't imagine being married and having a threesome and so someone who thought that was no big deal probably wouldn't be right for me.

It depends what you're ok with OP, it doesn't mean that he's a cheater or that he's not a cheater, it's just impossible to know unfortunately. I've had exes who slept with countless people when they were young but are now married and completely settled. But anyone can be a cheat, even the nicest seeming, quietest person who's only slept with a handful of people.

I wouldn't say it's a red flag. I've had two threesomes in my twenties and it's no biggie.

I wouldn’t say never having done a threesome constitutes a limited past.

The threesome of itself isn't a red flag, the red flag is if he forced or coerced his ex into it or if the third person was the wife's sister or mother or something odd like that.
I would wonder about boundaries, if your ideas about sex aligns, if this is a constant 'kink' or an experience in the past that he doesn't care if he ever repeats again. I think if you are more sexually conservative you might find his experiences a turn off. I think look about what it could mean for your relationship and say about him as a person. It's very difficult to find someone with a limited past these days. I don't think people change very much so his past is part of who he is.