Do I sound weird??

Nope, it’s lovely! I’d be thrilled to receive that. And she can use it for her next revalidation! Win win.

God some people on here are bloody awful!

OP that’s a lovely message that most ‘normal’ people would love to receive and have their heart warmed reading it!

It's really lovely, OP. Do send it.

@Tara24 I did. read it all (both) and I don’t think I misunderstood.

There is no assumption here that all women are unconfident. The OP definitely is. I agree we should not assume all women are not confident but don’t agree about not taking about confidence in the workplace.

Don't worry, I don't think you'll ever be receiving one.

I'm sure it will mean a lot, OP. I always try to take the time to send a card to say thank you to people or when someone has gone out of their way for me, as I think it's just such a nice thing to receive.

If she has taught you to believe in yourself, then have confidence in the message you want to write! It sounds like you’re still doubting the smallest things. Stop it!

💐

I do like the PP’s suggestion as a way of focussing on her acts rather than your reactions. Either message would be fine. More than.

I am 56 and have mentored several young women joining my profession. I would definitely (have done) appreciate a message like that.

Which is probably the reason why you never have or will.
OP there is nothing inappropriate about that sentiment. If you want to toughen it up a little
"Your encouragement and constructive feedback helped me gain the confidence I need for the role." shifts the focus to what she did rather than your emotions.

If you feel the phrase about believing in yourself sounds a bit trite or something you could put '.....I can move forward with confidence as a result of your mentoring ....' or similar.

OP, I'm a clinical educator/examiner. I take HCPs through a challenging, rigorous post graduate course. I've received a few cards with sentiments similar to this and it means more than any present I've been given. This type of supervision and mentorship is genuinely more than just teaching someone about a job and getting them through exams. You thoughts don't sound weird or odd. I think your supervisor will be touched to know their efforts have had a lasting impacting.

That's really sweet x

That is a bit OTT. Although I do think a card is a bit much.

@Asiatoyork you need to have read the whole of my message to understand the context of the message you've quoted. You have misunderstood.

Anyway, back to the point OP. I think the message is fine in the right context. It's not something I would say unless there were specific circumstances.

I didn't say men don't lack confidence. What I said was that I try to avoid those conversations in terms of that's what's automatically expected of women

I don’t think that’s what’s this is though.

OP - when I have had messages like this from people I have managed I have really appreciated it.

I receive lots of cards from students but the ones that stand out are the ones like you have suggested. Thanks for teaching me etc is just thanks for doing your job.
You sound lovely op, congratulations on qualifying!

My message was aimed @ReallyNoNeed who was trying to say that I said men don't lack confidence.

I didn't say men don't lack confidence. What I said was that I try to avoid those conversations in terms of that's what's automatically expected of women. Its not a helpful message. I also said that context was everything.

I'm not sure how your lack of social skills is relevant to the OP tbh.

I disagree. Men lack confidence too and if you are a good supervisor then they will open up to you about that.

The most grateful trainee I had was a young man from china. He felt he could never live up to the expectations from back home and had no self-esteem. I encouraged him and ‘believed in him’. He passed the exams he was not even going to sit and emailed me later in his career thanking me for building up his confidence.

I see no issue in helping people of either gender build their confidence up.

Do you have social and communication issues? Do strong emotions make you nervous?

I am trying to understand what makes you uncomfortable about this.

OP I work in the NHS and have had two or three cards exactly like that over my 30 year career from trainees. I love all the cards I get but the ones saying what you have are the ones that I treasure.

There is nothing more rewarding than helping someone at the start of their career develop confidence and self-belief.

Please send it. It will make their day! Lovely idea.

Context is everything. Personally I'd find it ok, if not a little cringeworthy. But that's because I try and avoid conversations about confidence etc in the workplace. I find it's rarely something men say and very much expected from women .ie, An article about women in the workplace will often assume we lack confidence. To me it's all part of the subtle messaging sent to women to undermine them in some way. I prefer not to get into that mindset.

But it depends on what she's like. The fact you describe her as 'tough love' makes me think it wouldn't be her style. But you also say she taught you to believe in yourself, so if that's something she's focussed on then it seems like the right comment.

Sorry but you sound weird for saying that!

I would write something like that OP, I think it’s lovely. Congrats on qualifying!

I'd personally find it a bit much, not everyone is into heartfelt sentiments!

As pp said, you know them best. I'd say something more like 'thanks for helping me develop into a stronger person' (or along those lines).