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Fancyabikky · 19/08/2023 18:42

So myself and my partner have a baby.
my partner is VERY popular….think a famous artist’s musician…so we get stopped EVERYWHERE! (Exhausting) before baby I’d just walk off and leave him to catch me up. Obviously now if were out with the baby people will “ahhhh is this the baby” totally ignore me and dive into my pushchair! Im standing there like a muppet! Whilst he does the “proud dad” no introduction like oh this is my partner xyz.
Today took this biscuit we were out (won’t say where as then you’d know who im talking about 😂) a lady comes up, my partner has our baby in his arms and she’s streching out like she wants a hold of the baby. My face must of said it all, as partners sister stepped in and say “ohhh this is xyz, pqr’s partner”
what would you all do in my situation.
am i overreacting??

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GoodChat · 19/08/2023 19:04

Are these people approaching random strangers?

MrsTerryPratchett · 19/08/2023 19:02

OK so I think you are overreacting to some of it. I used to spend a lot of time with famous people. People were always coming over to ask for a photo or to say hi and 99 times out of 100 I wasn't introduced. Typically they want it over with as soon as possible and introducing someone else makes that more painful. Plus, they don't give a shit about who you are. So it's weird and awkward.

No one, not anyone, is getting their face near my child though. That bit is weird. Hard no, and he needs to enforce that as well.

WhateverMate · 19/08/2023 18:56

Fancyabikky · 19/08/2023 18:54

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So are you asking if it's rude not to introduce your partner when someone you've never met, strikes up a conversation with them?

If so, yes, obviously.

Have you spoken to him about it?

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Fancyabikky · 19/08/2023 18:54

WhateverMate · 19/08/2023 18:53

Is this a serious question?

Of course he should and his job btw has nothing to do with that.

It's just rude not to introduce your partner when someone strikes up a conversation in the street.

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qabest · 19/08/2023 18:54

Weird

WhateverMate · 19/08/2023 18:53

Fancyabikky · 19/08/2023 18:47

Sorry i wasnt clear.
am I being unreasonable to think he ought to introduce me and that folk should acknowledge that im the babies mom?? Not one of the fans hanging round

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Is this a serious question?

Of course he should and his job btw has nothing to do with that.

It's just rude not to introduce your partner when someone strikes up a conversation in the street.

tjugofem · 19/08/2023 18:51

I don't think you're overreacting. I think when it comes to famous people, even ones of minor fame, many people tend to see them as characters and not actual people. I do think the onus lies on your partner to introduce you and set up boundaries for how people act around your baby. Not saying that you shouldn't say anything — you can and you should if it gets to that stage — but his fans are, for the most part, his responsibility.

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Fancyabikky · 19/08/2023 18:47

AndTheSurveySays · 19/08/2023 18:44

Are you asking if you over reacted by pulling a face?

Sorry i wasnt clear.
am I being unreasonable to think he ought to introduce me and that folk should acknowledge that im the babies mom?? Not one of the fans hanging round

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panko · 19/08/2023 18:45

I would be saying EXCUSE ME! get off my baby

AndTheSurveySays · 19/08/2023 18:44

Are you asking if you over reacted by pulling a face?