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Fancyabikky · 19/08/2023 18:42

So myself and my partner have a baby.
my partner is VERY popular….think a famous artist’s musician…so we get stopped EVERYWHERE! (Exhausting) before baby I’d just walk off and leave him to catch me up. Obviously now if were out with the baby people will “ahhhh is this the baby” totally ignore me and dive into my pushchair! Im standing there like a muppet! Whilst he does the “proud dad” no introduction like oh this is my partner xyz.
Today took this biscuit we were out (won’t say where as then you’d know who im talking about 😂) a lady comes up, my partner has our baby in his arms and she’s streching out like she wants a hold of the baby. My face must of said it all, as partners sister stepped in and say “ohhh this is xyz, pqr’s partner”
what would you all do in my situation.
am i overreacting??

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TheSkull · 24/08/2023 08:43

Fancyabikky · 20/08/2023 21:59

What is NGHFB??

Noel Gallagher’s High Flying Birds

BarbaraV · 23/08/2023 20:59

I wanted him to paint pictures of famous people. That would be cool.

HoliHormonalTigerLillyTheSecond · 22/08/2023 07:32

So he's like a drummer or guitarist for some famous singer then?

Yes he's rude not to introduce you.

Acuppaisbetterthanprosecco · 20/08/2023 22:32

My partner is the head of his office in quite an important job. If we're ever out and he meets someone from work, he often forgets to introduce me and it really annoys me. He'll be there chatting away and I'm stood there like a lemon! He does apologise when I pull him up on it, but the real reason is he's often forgotten their name!! This probably isn't the case for you, though, and I'm sorry that you feel invisible. Have you told him how it makes you feel? If I approached a famous person (I wouldn't....), I would be extremely polite and make their partner feel as important as them.

clpsmum · 20/08/2023 22:25

babbscrabbs · 19/08/2023 21:44

He's an artist's musician? Trying to work out which artists have musicians (or am I missing the point)

Same, this confused me so much I couldn't concentrate on the rest of the lost tbh 🤦‍♀️

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Fancyabikky · 20/08/2023 21:59

What is NGHFB??

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TheSkull · 20/08/2023 09:21

Is your partner in NGHFB?

Blondeshavemorefun · 20/08/2023 09:16

Or partner

And all in mn would say get married as have child for security

Guessing he's rich /famous so has money

Holidaystress11 · 20/08/2023 09:15

People are rude unfortunately. Start introducing yourself.

Blondeshavemorefun · 20/08/2023 09:15

If they are fans then sure they have googled him

And know he is married /has partner aka you and child

If friends /well
Collegeues again they prob know about you but again wouidnt hurt to say this is fancy my wife

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Fancyabikky · 20/08/2023 09:10

I have made a genuine friend via him i guess. But yes totally get what you mean with the looking over the shoulder to grasp the most influential person present. I don’t tend to go to shows etc, because of this & i feel like I don’t fit in as its really not my industry and i hear about the horrible stuff that goes on behind the scenes, but this show I actually really looked forward to. I like the artist he plays for and he’s lovely always warm towards me and the children.

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 20/08/2023 08:44

Cinnamope · 19/08/2023 22:28

On first reading I thought you meant random fans, in which case, YABU as why would you want them to know your name etc

However if it’s people he knows, essentially work mates, then YANBU as that’s just rude not to include you.

Sometimes famous people are quite selfish in general though, They spend so long wrapped up in their little bubble that they forget other people exist.

I think Ben random fans though he should say 'this is my gf/wife, Sarah' not ignore her prescience

MrsTerryPratchett · 19/08/2023 23:39

People he knows you aren't unreasonable to want to be introduced.

I will say having been married to a muso, some of them are basic narcissists and only care about their own industry and meeting the right people. I met a lot of coked up wankers. Looking over shoulders to see if someone more important was there.

There were some notable exceptions though. I made a couple of good famous friends. Few and far between and they aren't the schmoozers or liggers.

Cinnamope · 19/08/2023 22:28

On first reading I thought you meant random fans, in which case, YABU as why would you want them to know your name etc

However if it’s people he knows, essentially work mates, then YANBU as that’s just rude not to include you.

Sometimes famous people are quite selfish in general though, They spend so long wrapped up in their little bubble that they forget other people exist.

ChocolateCakeOverspill · 19/08/2023 22:25

Fancyabikky · 19/08/2023 22:22

To clarify….its not fans or random strangers. (Well they are to me because I don’t work in the industry) but it’s like people he works with their spouses etc.
put it this way i was sent a lovely gift from another artist who he’s played for. Met said artist she cooo’d over the baby and didn’t acknowledge me. Upon leaving i said oh thanks for (name of gift) we really love it.she looked at me dumbfounded.

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So essentially like bumping into work friends?

ChocolateCakeOverspill · 19/08/2023 22:23

babbscrabbs · 19/08/2023 21:44

He's an artist's musician? Trying to work out which artists have musicians (or am I missing the point)

I presume not artist as in a painter but artist as in a singer with a band who play with them?

Although I was thinking of Bob Ross, Tony Hart etc to start with.

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Fancyabikky · 19/08/2023 22:22

Fancyabikky · 19/08/2023 18:42

So myself and my partner have a baby.
my partner is VERY popular….think a famous artist’s musician…so we get stopped EVERYWHERE! (Exhausting) before baby I’d just walk off and leave him to catch me up. Obviously now if were out with the baby people will “ahhhh is this the baby” totally ignore me and dive into my pushchair! Im standing there like a muppet! Whilst he does the “proud dad” no introduction like oh this is my partner xyz.
Today took this biscuit we were out (won’t say where as then you’d know who im talking about 😂) a lady comes up, my partner has our baby in his arms and she’s streching out like she wants a hold of the baby. My face must of said it all, as partners sister stepped in and say “ohhh this is xyz, pqr’s partner”
what would you all do in my situation.
am i overreacting??

To clarify….its not fans or random strangers. (Well they are to me because I don’t work in the industry) but it’s like people he works with their spouses etc.
put it this way i was sent a lovely gift from another artist who he’s played for. Met said artist she cooo’d over the baby and didn’t acknowledge me. Upon leaving i said oh thanks for (name of gift) we really love it.she looked at me dumbfounded.

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Fancyabikky · 19/08/2023 22:18

Lol. How do you know about the name change??

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Fancyabikky · 19/08/2023 22:17

Yep….any show or tour tv appearances etc he’s his musician …..neither will i say the instrument 😂😂
They’ve just finished up something hence us being away and in public with the baby.

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babbscrabbs · 19/08/2023 21:44

He's an artist's musician? Trying to work out which artists have musicians (or am I missing the point)

BarbaraV · 19/08/2023 21:42

Anyway. You've nc'd. Who is he? Grin

BarbaraV · 19/08/2023 21:41

Nice

Hillrunning · 19/08/2023 19:59

If just fans, then no he doesn't need to introduce you. They do t give a fuck about you, why would they need to be introduced?

If friends/colleagues then sure, he should introduce you.

indyocean · 19/08/2023 19:28

So to clarify, the people who stop him are randoms/fans. He doesn't actually know them?

Just to be really blunt, you are not a person if interest

I think you need to accept that and live with it

TheAOEAztec · 19/08/2023 19:16

It's not meeting mates. I would assume there are no introductions to randoms so they don't latch onto you

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