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Parking on neighbours' empty drive

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Vinntet · 19/08/2023 18:39

I hope not a TAAT, but DP's car is currently parked on our next door neighbours' driveway without their permission and I'm worried this might have us known as as being CFers!

We share almost an access drive which goes across the front of both our actual drives and we've had a skip delivered to ours this morning. I stupidly told them to put it on the side for easiest access to the backgarden, which is also where DP's electric car needs to be parked to be reach the charger which is on that side of the house!

It just won't reach from 'my' side of the drive, but will from the empty spot on NDN's drive, who we think have gone on holiday (not been around since Weds). We'd move onto the road when it's fully charged, or ask nicely if they come home, and DP sees no issue.

Is this fine or CF territory?

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PickledPurplePickle · 19/08/2023 19:01

TetrapanaxRex · 19/08/2023 18:59

CF just for having an electric car.

Don't be ridiculous

LooselyBasedOnAMadeUpStory · 19/08/2023 19:01

OP will the car be charged by, and so moved, later on this evening?

I have to say I would have no issues with this at all. It’s not like you are parking there all week. I might be a bit miffed if I arrived home from holiday at 11pm and couldn’t get on my drive, but parking there to charge and then moving it wouldn’t bother me at all.

Shinyandnew1 · 19/08/2023 19:00

Very CF!

Do they have a Ring doorbell?

TetrapanaxRex · 19/08/2023 18:59

CF just for having an electric car.

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Vinntet · 19/08/2023 18:59

Daphnis156 · 19/08/2023 18:51

You sound disorganised as well as entitled and cheeky.
You could always put DP's car in the skip.

Just because someone by your judgement is "not there" does not mean you use their property without permission.

Maybe you didn't catch that I had reservations about my DP doing this to make up for the fact that I had inadvertently inconvenienced him.

I'd rather he moved it, but he doesn't see the issue. This has already been an argument because I accepted the skip and allowed it to be put in his space instead of moving my car and having it put there.

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PickledPurplePickle · 19/08/2023 18:59

Absolutely CFery - move the car off their drive and go and pay to charge the car somewhere

It's your fault, it doesn't mean you get to assume it's OK to use your neighbours drive without asking

sunshineandshowers40 · 19/08/2023 18:58

Do they have a ring doorbell? If u don't know them well enough to have their contact details or for them to let you know they are going away, I think you may be a CF!

Insommmmnia · 19/08/2023 18:57

Vinntet · 19/08/2023 18:51

The skip is being picked up first thing on Monday morning. Shouldn't need to charge the car more than this once, so I'm hoping it's not going to actually be inconvenient, but aware it could be.

I agree, we're not so close they've told us they're away and I'd rather ask than just go ahead, but don't have their contact details.

If you don't have their contact details you aren't close enough to be using their property

RausageSoul · 19/08/2023 18:57

I say CF, but it depends how the relationship is. Are you taking their bins out on bin morning or checking for parcels left on doorsteps etc? This is what we do when next door are away so I'd say they wouldn't mind me using their drive

Silvers11 · 19/08/2023 18:57

LoL!! There is another thread going right now, where CF's have parked on the OP's drive. Definitely you are a CF

Unless of course you are that OP's CF 'friend' and have changed the details

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4875789-people-using-my-drive

😂😂

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Crispyperifries · 19/08/2023 18:56

Do they have a ring doorbell as they may already know😬

yogasaurus · 19/08/2023 18:55

CF. Text them to ask them. If you don’t have their number, you’re not close enough to use it

Aquamarine1029 · 19/08/2023 18:54

Vinntet · 19/08/2023 18:47

I just didn't think about it because I never plug my own car into the side of the house.

It's my fault and this seems like the only solution, which I think is why DP doesn't want to hear me say we shouldn't just park next door.

The only solution? It's the only solution you like.

lanthanum · 19/08/2023 18:54

Pop a note on your car windscreen (because if they get back from holiday they'll see that before they unload the car, unlike the pile of junkmail inside the house). Move it as soon as it's charged. If you need to do it again before they're back, make sure there is somebody in so that you can move it immediately when they appear.

123InTheSky · 19/08/2023 18:53

Could you use a local charger instead of your own? It seems off to park on a neighbour you don’t know well’s drive without permission

Yourebeingtooloud · 19/08/2023 18:52

I wouldn’t mind a neighbour using my drive like this when I was away if they asked me.

I would be majorly annoyed to arrive home from holiday & be unable to park on my drive straight away or unload my car etc. It’s very rude to just presume it’s fine.

RandomMess · 19/08/2023 18:52

Ask other neighbours if they have their contact details?

Daphnis156 · 19/08/2023 18:51

You sound disorganised as well as entitled and cheeky.
You could always put DP's car in the skip.

Just because someone by your judgement is "not there" does not mean you use their property without permission.

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Vinntet · 19/08/2023 18:51

The skip is being picked up first thing on Monday morning. Shouldn't need to charge the car more than this once, so I'm hoping it's not going to actually be inconvenient, but aware it could be.

I agree, we're not so close they've told us they're away and I'd rather ask than just go ahead, but don't have their contact details.

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Thewizardbinbag · 19/08/2023 18:51

How long is the skip going to be there? If it’s going to be a couple days then you’ll probably get away with using their drive but not for longer as they’ll want to use it when they’re home.

PathOfLeastResitance · 19/08/2023 18:50

Can’t you use an extension lead?

Tumbleweed101 · 19/08/2023 18:49

If you have their phone number and are on reasonable terms just send a message to explain and check it's OK.

Seaswimmingforthesoul · 19/08/2023 18:48

Wakintoblueskies · 19/08/2023 18:43

If they are on holidays, then their drive will be free. I’d hurry up and charge your car and move it back onto the road as soon as possible though.
Also pop a note through their letter box.

Yes the note is a good idea!

Seaswimmingforthesoul · 19/08/2023 18:48

Definitely CF.
Do you not have contact details for them to message and ask their permission?
I hope they don't have cameras, as if they're on holiday and can see there's people using their drive and on their property they could be really freaked out/worried/pissed off.
It's not the end of the world but little things like this can escalate into really nasty situations with neighbours. Move the car, charge it elsewhere. Its your error.

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Vinntet · 19/08/2023 18:47

I just didn't think about it because I never plug my own car into the side of the house.

It's my fault and this seems like the only solution, which I think is why DP doesn't want to hear me say we shouldn't just park next door.

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